TO WALK AWAY OR TO CONFRONT?

heliodrome · 2020-06-09T02:18:48+00:00

You’re most likely to be met with deflection and defense. You may be called angry and the whole thing turned against you. If you think it’s going to make a difference, you can confront, but they most likely disrespected you because they feared you. If they can apologize to you all the power to them.

kantarra · 2020-06-09T02:11:44+00:00

It depends on the situation. Sometimes it is better to confront and sometimes it's better to walk away. It's hard to advise you which is better given the lack of details, but this is how I decide in very general terms. Hope it helps!

Confront if: 1, you think it could make a difference, 2, professional situations, never let disrespect slide at work, 3, these are people you cannot avoid long-term for whatever reason. Walk away if: 1, that person could be dangerous to you/ your career or 2, you know for sure confronting them won't make any difference.

MACMUA · 2020-06-09T04:51:33+00:00

Ok story time...

Couple weeks ago, I was at a poker game with my bf and the in laws. They are white and I’m Latina. But we are both have the same values, political views but we don’t cheer for the same football team. Lol

Well..I was drinking. I could hear chatter by an older relative about politics and heard him say ‘Build the wall’. So, I was annoyed. When I drink, my tolerance is very thin. So I politely asked no politics talk please. It wasn’t rude and everyone was laughing. Well, I guess the sister in law did not like me saying that and called me a ‘see you next Tuesday’.

I had the Morpheus Matrix Blue/Red pill moment.. do I sit there and pretend I didn’t hear her say that? Or do I confront her. Well, I guess I took the red pill(not the like the subreddit lol). I told her If she calls me that again, I’m gonna be nice. All I ask was no politics cause it’s a poker game not a Sean hannity Fox News segment. It’s offensive.

Well she called me a bitch. She was testing me and trying show everyone that she can get drunk and call Me disgusting names. By this time..my blood was boiling. I spilled my red wine ‘accidently’ on her white shirt. She’s lucky that’s all she got. 🤣

Follow your heart but be smart about it

90860008 · 2020-06-09T02:16:46+00:00

If it’s a profesional situation where the other perso. Is at the same level then confront in a polite way just to get things out in the clear but romantically I personally do not do that because I don’t like them having the satisfaction of making me feel bad. I’m more of a block and move on person even if I do think about them often and stuff because I don’t want them to think they have power over me

ModernDayOracle · 2020-06-09T07:09:12+00:00

I recently had to make this choice with a friend I care a lot about. In my case, I decided he'd already demonstrated an unwillingness to change, so instead of engaging, I blocked him on every available communication channel. It hurt, but smacking my head against the brick wall of his stubbornness would have hurt more and been majorly detrimental to me in the long run. Don't forget, saying to someone 'you no longer get access to me or my life' is a clear statement in and of itself.

muricaxoxo · 2020-06-09T09:00:46+00:00

It really depends on the situation and the people. But most of the time it's better to walk away. I'm trying really hard to just walk away and let things go instead of confronting, as it just leads to backlash and negative energy. If it's really disrespectful then you may want to confront, otherwise if you can let it go for your own sanity it may be better

throwawayitst · 2020-06-09T02:25:10+00:00

Depends on how they make you feel and change when they do - youre going to get a lot of walk aways because its the simpler easier thing to do esp when its hard for ppl to be objective with how they feel after a confrontation of whether it was wrong or right.

If rhey make u slowly loose pieces of you Make a disagreement into warfare Make you feel bad or pity them Blame you or become a victjm Punish u later ‘Ot change their actions than leaving is easier

Nifteroni-and-Cheese · 2020-06-09T14:21:21+00:00

I’d say if it’s someone who you can’t/don’t want to walk away from, confrontation is the healthy way to go, but don’t go in guns blazing in anger, you’re trying to communicate to them that their behavior must change or you will walk away/Eli are the issue. This is the route to take with people at work or in the same organizations as you, as well as family and close friends. When I went away to collage me and my dad had to have some hard conversations about treating me like an adult, but we had those conversations and he learned and out relationship is good now.

For people you don’t really need to deal with, just walk away. Dude you’ve been on 4 dates with? Yeah, feel free to ghost him at the first sign of disrespect.

Just ask yourself “is this relationship worth fighting for?” And that will usually tell you what you need to do.

Title	TO WALK AWAY OR TO CONFRONT?
Author	abstractbutterfly
Upvotes	39
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Date	June 9, 2020 1:58 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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