How to maintain the right ratio of sexuality in the beginning of Dating phase.

Kara__El · 2018-08-13T12:40:24+00:00

When I was dating, it was rare that any man would be overtly sexual in his texts, such as asking for nudes. He'd always approach it more subtly, such as by asking for "pictures." Since I was primarily dating online, I'd simply assure him that all of my photos were current and change the subject. I'd do the same when a man would tell me he wished he had someone to snuggle with in the cold weather. "I love winter. It's such a cozy time." I'd respond, but I wouldn't encourage a sexual tone and I honestly don't remember a time when this didn't work.

throwawaywayacc · 2018-08-14T04:19:59+00:00

Well, my N count is 1 and that is my husband. I made it clear it would be 100% on my term since I was the virgin and he was the player and he’s free to leave whenever he’s tired of waiting and if he’s dating other women while waiting for me then he has no chance with me. There was no negotiating on this part. Which I thought was funny because TRP believes that women will change their mind if the right “alpha” comes along. Ha! Not for me.

But kissing was ok and showing LOTS of femininity and playfulness is a turn on for him. We did lots of activities like going to the park, cleaning his house, riding motorcycles or him teaching me things. There’s plenty to do that creates closeness without sex.

Honestly, this is sooooo important to be able to create closeness without sex. When relationship is build on sex 1st, it can mask problems. Take your time. I was deathly ill during my 2nd pregnancy and we didn’t have sex for about 7 months due to ongoing health issues but he never once strayed because our relationship is more than the bedroom. Just my HO.

Flockofpuppies · 2018-08-13T12:52:49+00:00

Keep a very, very, very low N count. You can't ride the cc and then try to pretend you're not easy. You can't fake who you are.

A virgin or a girl with an N count of 1 from a three year relationship? She's not going to be sending nudes after the second date. Her innocence, her nervousness, her inexperience, they should be very obvious. Dont underestimate how incredibly sexy it is to be shaking because you're nervous about a KISS. And if a guy so acclimated to ONS from Tinder mistakes it for prudishness, that's his mistake. He can keep on banging girls with N counts in the triple digits.

A girl who has sucked her twentieth cock and is sexting three different guys right now? She's going to have a more blase, cynical attitude. Nothing shocks her because she's done it and seen it all.

Don't pretend to be a girl who's not easy. Be the girl who isn't easy.

merel-- · 2018-08-13T16:12:21+00:00

I'm dating someone who did this at the beginning. I just told him I didn't feel comfortable talking about that kind of stuff so soon. We did have sex pretty early one, but I feel like if the only thing you have to offer is sex it doesn't matter if you wait two dates or two months. You gonna get used.

IncomeByEtnicity · 2018-08-13T21:21:31+00:00

In the beginning phase of Dating, it's pretty much clear that the guy is in it for the sex. It's our job as woman to inspire him to want us forever.

I think a part of the blame lies in the sort of men you are choosing to date. And the other part of the blame lies in the TRP concept of AWALT (all women are like that), which encourages men to assume all women to be cheating sluts. It's best to avoid men with such ideological subscriptions.

canyousmellechidna · 2018-08-15T09:06:38+00:00

My partner is a rarity, he is more logic driven than emotionally driven. We did mess around a little bit at first, as we are both very attracted to eachother, but then he had a serious conversation with me and basically said that he wanted to wait a couple of weeks before penetration, so that he is sure that he is attracted to my personality. He knows that the mind is fogged up by sex and he may have not felt actual love if we had sex too soon. (Btw he is not religious or anything, just VERY logical)

He knew what he wanted from the beginning and so did I. We both wanted to find a life partner, stop wasting time, marriage, a family, and a life to share with someone.

We were both very compatible from the beginning and we both decided to be honest and upfront with eachother from the beginning. He is also a hopeless romantic and very serious. To him, I am a sure catch, but in my eyes he is SUCH a catch.

I think if you can just talk to the guy and ask for openness and honesty, then see where that goes and move on from there. The only way to know is to talk to them. Try the thing my boyfriend did with me, wait a little while before penetration, say you want to be sure that you both enjoy eachother’s personality and you could see eachother together for a long time, forever even. If they don’t want to do that, well, just next them.

Honestly, why even waste time with boys who don’t know what they want and aren’t driven to be real men? Asking for nudes right away sounds like fuckboy territory, no thank you. Conversation and connection is more important than nudes.

Title	How to maintain the right ratio of sexuality in the beginning of Dating phase.
Author	throwawaywayacc
Upvotes	16
Comments	39
Date	August 13, 2018 8:37 AM UTC (7 years ago)
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