Superficial men and comparing women

mightbethrowawayyy · 2020-05-08T19:15:14+00:00

They’re negging you. They want you to feel like trash and lower your standards. Fucking pathetic. True friends want you to be the best version of you and if they’re doing the opposite, they’re not your friends

cremeblushers · 2020-05-08T19:49:39+00:00

To answer your question, no he’s not healthy enough to be in your life. Men love knocking down attractive and confident women because they’re neither of those things, and they want you to feel how they feel. Misery loves company. They also think if they knock you down enough you’ll start to change according to their standards, in hopes that you’ll start to turn to them for validation and want to be with them or something. Its just their twisted need for someone to be dependent on them.

Alarmed-Tangelo · 2020-05-08T21:37:38+00:00

I once drove 10 hours to meet a guy, brought him food, gifts, etc.

He told me that no one had ever treated him like this to him. He said I was very special to him.

After I didn't have sex with him, the next day he made it his mission to make me feel horrible.

Constant very exaggerated looking at other women. I told him a story about one of my friends and he asked to see a picture of her. He looked me in my eye and said, "She's prettier than you."

Don't listen to them. They're most likely insecure. Anyone who constantly criticizes you, especially about looks, ~just because~ is not someone you need in your life.

I've also found when you talk about your dating life with male friends. They feel that they can give you unwanted advice about your looks. No matter what age.

cherrybombfield · 2020-05-08T20:56:53+00:00

Yeah that was some negging. I really don't understand why guys do that bc when one does it to me I no longer want to be around them. They just make you feel bad and who wants to be around someone who makes you feel bad? If someone is going to make comments that they think I am not all that in whatever way then that is the last person I want in my space. I don't need anyone kissing my butt and stuff but I won't have someone bringing down for sure. I mean it is an awful feeling and once they do it it never really goes away. You never really feel good around them again.

trippysloths · 2020-05-08T21:28:24+00:00

Yeah one time I introduced my ex-boyfriend to my friend and later that day in private he said, “you’re so much hotter than her.” Excuse me, my friend is an attractive woman but I never asked? Is that supposed to be make me feel better, because “I’m hotter than her”? I already have healthy self-esteem thank you very much. Men make everything a looks competition, they think women hate other women🙄 because men hate women

gursky0 · 2020-05-08T21:23:00+00:00

They feel the need to lower your self esteem, and are stupid enough to think that their inane comments will accomplish that. They want to make you feel bad about yourself because they are deeply insecure so it makes them feel better about themselves, or they think it will make you lower your standards to date them, or both.

That's not a friend. Don't keep people in your life that choose to tear you down - cut them off unapologetically.

she_is_munchkins · 2020-05-08T21:56:32+00:00

Stop interacting with these men, they generally seem like trash 'friends'. Comparing you to other women ain't cool

zzzelot · 2020-05-09T00:31:51+00:00

Step 1 - get rid of these "male friends" comparing you. They are not your friends.

I have a lot of friends who are men and they would never say something like that to me, because we are FRIENDS. Real friends lift you up, not tear you down. Also a good way to vet male friends--they should treat you like their other male friends and have healthy relationships with other women.

lival42 · 2020-05-08T20:15:59+00:00

It goes like this: "If you don't know that I am the best for whatever situation, then you can go f*ck right off. Boy bye!"

WeedsAndWildflowers · 2020-05-08T20:10:09+00:00

If they say these things to you, these men are not your friends. Period. I'd cut anyone who says something like that out of my life asap.

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