PSA: there is no such thing as "HVM-qualities"

2020-05-01T15:11:59+00:00

Being a decent human being is a baseline doesn't mean we all high quality. Damn this generation of women are so broken where we think someone being decent for a few days is HVM level. I realize just because he nice now doesn't mean shit wait a while and see who he truly is.

pickmieshaexorcist · 2020-05-01T14:27:07+00:00

Agreed. And far too often, those qualities are appearance or job based. These qualities are not HV in and of themselves.

ReasonableSeaweed1 · 2020-05-01T15:15:02+00:00

Everyone's high value is different, but no one's high value includes controlling, abusive, porn sick, rude, lazy, dirty, sexist, etc.

Dimethylchlorine · 2020-05-01T20:09:59+00:00

I completely agree. A man who's just not that into you could be high value to another woman but low value to you. He has to be a good guy AND really want you. That's the best kind of relationship. I learned this in THE RULES by Ellen fein

cherrybombfield · 2020-05-01T20:25:48+00:00

Thank you for this. Also you can't deem someone a HVM within the first 3 months- that is typically the lovebombing phase and you can't trust it. It is after than time period when the red flags tend to start showing up.

WillingBeing · 2020-05-01T15:50:15+00:00

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Ink3dmama · 2020-05-01T17:09:33+00:00

“But he’s hot and rich!” Okay, still not a HVM, though.

venomoth91 · 2020-05-01T19:33:39+00:00

My ex was a prime example of this. Super rich entrepreneur at age 26, yet still emotionally abusive with major trust issues.

yaaasss123 · 2020-05-01T20:18:34+00:00

The main problem here is that men are applauded for being a decent human being. It is literally the bare minimum. Just because a guy is a decent non shitty person does not mean that he is a HVM

Lethalprincessrabbit · 2020-05-02T01:10:17+00:00

AGREED PREACH

Lethalprincessrabbit · 2020-05-02T01:10:27+00:00

AGREED PREACH

Title	PSA: there is no such thing as "HVM-qualities"
Author	Uhm_Honestly
Upvotes	324
Comments	16
Date	May 1, 2020 2:24 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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