Advice for daughters and young girls?

EmotionalSupportRat · 2018-10-30T00:29:22+00:00

I shared this advice/quote here before, but I love it so much:

Highschool is for meeting your bridesmaids, not your groom.

It's brilliant advise imho. I hate young girls getting too high on love and too invested in romantic love, before their brains have actually fully developed. It's cringy, it too often has codependent tendencies...and it happens a lot of times.

It's much better to focus on friendship and interests, developing oneself, rather than playing wifey from 16-23 (in worse cases even way longer)...and then be extremely disillusioned and heartbroken.

girlwithabike · 2018-10-29T22:50:41+00:00

From Mom: You know your husband very well and that means you know just what to say to hurt him beyond belief. No matter how angry you might be, never say anything you cannot take back.

Also: You need to be with a man who is smarter than you. I'm not sure how universal that advice is but I will certainly be passing it down.

From Mommom: Make sure the man you marry gives you butterflies. Even after 50 years, your grandfather gives me butterflies and you shouldn't be with someone who doesn't.

What I will tell my daughter: You need to be loved, but you need to be with a man who you respect. You cannot have a healthy long term relationship with a man unless you respect him first.

[deleted] · 2018-10-30T01:26:04+00:00

My oldest daughter is 13 and not at all interested in marriage or children (which is fine for her age) but very interested in dating though she is not allowed to yet. However I know that she still flirts with and interacts with boys at school and we have a very open line of communication and a great relationship. My advice to her is to not try so hard to be one of the boys, cussing and needing to constantly one up or shit talk them. It's not cute. And to value female friendship. I want her to realize that every girl who says "I'm not like most girls. I get along better with boys. I dont like most other girls" is actually the rule, not the exception to the rule. And that being socially flexible and not confining yourself to one group or click is valuable in life and attractive to everyone. Last year she went through an anti social trying to be goth phase (I was extremely goth as a teen and also a hot mess). I threw out so many pieces of clothing it was insane. I just didn't want her to pigeon hole herself the way I did. Shes since come out of it and blossomed into a cute skater girl and stopped judging people for not being cool enough or "one of the evil popular girls" without even giving them a chance. She has a wider social circle and is so much happier. So I feel good about that. There will be so much more as she grows older I'm sure and honestly i can't wait to be there for her to help her navigate love when she needs an ear and some advice.

classylassy28 · 2018-10-30T01:47:46+00:00

To take pride in her body (temple) work out for your health, take pride in your looks always. Skin Care skin Care skin care! Party and make friends young but be safe and smart. Healthy eating and how to cook (basics even my boys are learning) Discover your passions and interests, never let them die. Always have a career and/or schooling to fall back on, keep it up to date. Don't play housewife until he is the one for sure, you can cook/clean and do nice things but not 24/7. Be Brutally honest about life and let her know about sex and how to have a low partner count and only have it when it's a LTR with meaning. Sex is love, if you want to orgasm use a vibrator instead of one night stands lol. To be open and try new things with your partner. Always stand up for your beliefs. Kind of over the top but the best advice for women is to always be enthusiastic and put in 90% or more into your lovemaking and read read read to learn things!

Life is about learning and growing! You need to be complete and whole on your own and life will be enjoyable.

Drink one glass of water after every alcoholic beverage and you'll always feel good in the am and not get to drunk lol.

Try everything you can to fix any problem before you walk away, our culture now is a throwaway mindset. Very sad and need changing.

Also I have a collection of non fiction and fiction books to pass down when the right age comes.

queenofsass7 · 2018-10-30T06:14:22+00:00

My mom said this to me. Everyone has some amount of bad/negatives in them and that doesn’t mean they are a bad person. In a relationship/marriage look at all the good things your partner does for you and focus on the positives and try to overlook the negatives (given the negatives are not too bad ) For example: my dad is a wonderful man and he supported my moms entrepreneurial dreams, took us on lot of international vacations, provided for us in all ways, been an amazing dad, has been a very good loyal husband but doesn’t do any house chores at all. She says she focuses on how supportive and loyal he is rather than him not helping her around the house.

Don’t know if it makes sense or if I put it the right way but I think it was really good advise to me.

aussiedollface2 · 2018-10-30T04:10:19+00:00

Great advice from everyone!

Just want to add, my grandmother told me to “always protect your reputation”. When you’re a young and attractive woman people will notice you and talk about you. So always behave like a lady, and be sure to defend and correct gossip as it occurs. A decent man doesn’t want a woman with a bad reputation, regardless or whether it’s true or not. xo

Zegiknie · 2018-10-30T09:55:29+00:00

I'm not sure yet if speeches and one-liners really do much good. Things that helped me most on my way:

As a bratty pre-teen, I tried to get my brother to bring me tea and said "I bet (his friend) would bring HIS sister tea!". He replied "I bet SHE would bring HIM tea". That changed me a lot.
Also as a pre-teen, I used to get away with pretty much everything. At a game of beach volley I thought it was funny to hit every guy there in the head with the ball in turn. One did it back, and I figured maybe it wasn't actually that funny.
Romance movies and soap operas. Most of the problems in them stemmed from lack of communication and honesty. Made me decide to be open in love, and that has been a great help.
Simply observing happy people and trainwrecks, and drawing my own conclusions.

perkysue · 2018-10-30T02:38:29+00:00

To marry a quality man you have to be a quality woman. Have skills and earn your own money prior to marriage. Act with dignity.

ragnarockette · 2018-10-31T01:15:11+00:00

My dad told me he wouldn't pay for my wedding until after I was 25. I will absolutely do the same for any kids I have.

Mrganack · 2018-10-29T22:38:01+00:00

Having passions and wide interests and having a low n-count both increase a women's value in the eyes of men.

AnarchoNAP · 2018-10-30T15:22:40+00:00

If I could go back and talk to myself:

Don’t worry about being as good as a man. Worry about being a good woman.

Along those lines, don’t over-invest in a career you will walk away from anyway.

I wish I had the faintest idea what a healthy diet looked like.

If a man likes you, he will tell you. If he isn’t telling you, leave. He won’t change his mind.

Don’t worry that you’re not dating until the men are serious. Being experienced in failing won’t help you with succeeding.

WonderfulandValuable · 2018-10-30T14:26:57+00:00

- become the best you can be at a job you like (not necessarily love) and keep yourself current even while being a mother at home! (My Mothers advice to me)

- teach all your children how to operate a household! Take extra time to teach your girls all your secret tipps too. (I heard that one from my Aunt who has 3 boys)

- read, read, read

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[deleted] · 2018-10-30T13:21:45+00:00

I watched "teen mom" and "Pregnant and 16" TV docu-dramas with my girls. I tell them no young teen boy is going to stay around under these circumstances, as they are not even a man yet. I point out how horrible and tough it is to be a single mom. These girls on the TV shows have it good for TV, but in real-life it's much harder. My girls hate those shows now.

I also tell them, that I don't want them to date, as they are too young. They see all of the ridiculous pre-teen and teen drama of dating at such a young age. This has helped them deal with peer-pressure to date, as they can just blame me for not dating.

When they do start dating they know that if I don't like their boyfriend that they will have to stop seeing him. They have never asked what criteria would disqualifying, and I have never told them any either.

I have told them from very young that being married is the only fair and respectable way to raise kids, as kids need a father and mother in their lives. Every time they talk about having kids, they make sure to add on a tag line of "when we are married..", if I'm around.

Title	Advice for daughters and young girls?
Author	LaneysWorld2
Upvotes	26
Comments	31
Date	October 29, 2018 10:29 PM UTC (7 years ago)
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