Can we create a 12 step program for fuckboy. Want to keep it a #FUCKBOYFREE2020

letsberealforamoment · 2020-02-16T02:51:15+00:00

You have to first identify what fukboi does that drags you back. Is the attention you get? Is he just really good in bed, and if so Why?

You must get to the source of the addiction, and then attack that.

Ms_Tilly · 2020-02-16T03:48:35+00:00

I went cold turkey. Easier than quitting smoking lol.

penelopekitty · 2020-02-16T14:21:37+00:00

You have posted about this same man multiple times over the past few weeks.

I am not saying this to be unkind but you are behaving like someone obsessed and it is not healthy. Many people, myself included, have suggested that you go no contact. I understand you also have some professional connections to the same business, yours are freelance. For your own mental and emotional health you really should seriously consider breaking these ties. Especially since in previous posts you stated he threw you over for another woman and in addition to seeing him you now also have to witness them together. Where he hid your relationship with him, he is very public in his affection for this new woman.

You may feel a connection with him but he does not reciprocate this feeling.

Continuing to post here about him hoping to get different advice will not change the situation.

hvmhunter · 2020-02-16T03:20:09+00:00

Do not offer sex and make them do things for you and see if they still stick around.

If not, they are fuckboy. It's not hard to figure out at all.

A man who has put in months of efforts leading to sex has more to lose than a man who got sex on the first or 3 date. Look into : sunk cost fallacy

Most women get attached after sex but man do not form attachment through sex, men form attachment through efforts and hard work.

PoorPlainObscure · 2020-02-16T07:43:39+00:00

It might already exist: https://slaafws.org/

Having few healthy boundaries, we become sexually involved with and/or emotionally attached to people without knowing them.

Fearing abandonment and loneliness , we stay in and return to painful, destructive relationships….

We confuse love with neediness, physical and sexual attraction, pity and/or the need to rescue or be rescued.

We sexualize stress, guilt, loneliness, anger, shame, fear and envy.….

To avoid feeling vulnerable, we may retreat from all intimate involvement

FluffandRainclouds · 2020-02-16T17:29:48+00:00

I was thinking of modifying the 12-steps to PickMes/FDS and making a post. Would you ladies find it helpful?

Title	Can we create a 12 step program for fuckboy. Want to keep it a #FUCKBOYFREE2020
Author	jackofhearts23
Upvotes	27
Comments	24
Date	February 16, 2020 2:47 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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