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[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH33 points34 points35 points (8 children) | Copy Link
Oh my god. She could have been my best friend. My best friend had a brother who did this EXACT thing to her. When he was in college, she got an apartment and he begged to move in with her because the apartment was close to his university. He promised to help chip in for rent, but never did. He didn't bother to clean anything either and she'd constantly complain to me that her apartment was a mess because all he would do all day long is play video games and leave piss bottles laying around! He ate all her food, left dirty dishes everywhere, and her apartment looked like a hoarder's place because this grown ass man couldn't be bothered to clean up after himself.
She put up with this FOR THREE DAMN YEARS because "He's a student. I've been there... I understand", and then when his 4th year approached and we began asking questions about his graduation - he broke down and admitted that he was never in school. He dropped out 3 years ago and has been a NEET (Not Employed, in Education, or Training). We were all pissed!!!! He says he lied about school because he "wanted to get everyone off his back about education". My best friend met her (now) husband and moved out 8 months later, but gave her brother a 6 month notice that he needed to find a job and/or place. He did NOTHING for 6 months, and basically she moved her shit out, and got calls from the apartment complex about the apartment not being cleaned out. 2 weeks after she was supposed to move out, the landlord of the apartment had to call the Sheriff and have my BFF's brother thrown out. He didn't bother to move his shit out, and the apartment sued her for $1,500 in damages for having to throw his shit out and clean up the trash he left behind.
He then immediately sent paragraphs of abuse to my best friend, accusing her of abandoning him, ruining his life, and causing him to be homeless. He told her she was an awful friend and a selfish MF'ing B. He then blocked my best friend on everything before she could respond. He called their father, and tried to move back home in with his parents, but his father's wife threatened to divorce him if he moved his son back into their house.... and his father ended up finding a separate place for him to stay, and paying rent on that place for a few months before ghosting him. He moved from friend to friend, using them for as long as they were willing to help him, and then burning the bridge once they got sick of supporting his ass and eventually he managed to get a job and is still bitter about it to this day. It has been 10 years and my best friend is still not on speaking terms with her brother. Oh and the icing on the cake??? HE doesn't remember all the shit she did for him, he only remembers and talks about the shit she didn't do for him, and all the crap that came out into the light of day once she stopped supporting him. Unless there's a person around who witnessed her cleaning that dirty ass apartment at 1 a.m. in the morning and working her ass off to support 2 people, NOBODY would know what she did for him because he continues to talk shit about her and "how awful and abusive she was".
DO NOT HELP THESE MEN! IN THE END, YOU WILL NOT BE ON SPEAKING TERMS, SO DON'T BE LEFT CARRYING THE BAG WHEN THEY BLOCK YOU! DON'T WASTE YOUR TIME OR MONEY ON THEM. BLOCK THEM ASAP AND MOVE ON WITH YOUR LIFE!
[–]Ms_TillyRuthless Strategist25 points26 points27 points (6 children) | Copy Link
These low value, lazy, trash men really are out here pissing in empty bottles instead of walking ten feet to the bathroom. And then won't even throw out the bottles. A friend of mine immediately kicked out a room renter for doing this shit. She couldn't take it. I don't even understand it.
[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH17 points18 points19 points (2 children) | Copy Link
I helped her clean her apartment once. Those were my bachelor days where I'd sometimes crash on her couch for a day or two to get away from my then BF. While I was crashing on her couch, I saw her get up at 5 am every day to spend 1 hour cleaning up and doing dishes that weren't hers. She did this DAILY for 3 years and he doesn't mention it a single time.
He would also buy tons of beer, he'd drink the beer to about half, and then open another beer can. He'd leave cans of half-drunk beers ALL OVER THE PLACE, ad if you didn't watch your step, you'd knock one over and it would spill onto her carpet. He didn't even cap his piss bottles and those would get knocked down and spill. As you can imagine, her carpet was full of piss and beer stains and food stains. She also had roaches and mice from all the filth. She really helped this man out for basically 4 years and he remembers her generosity 10 years later with harsh, cutting, criticising words about how abusive she was. Only me and his father, and his father's new wife know what happened at that apartment. I've become weary of ANY man who claims a woman is abusing him because of this. I'd watch this poor sweet lady do this idiot's laundry and clean that dirty ass apartment from top to bottom, only to come back to piss bottles and half-drunk beers that she had to manually empty before recycling the cans and bottles. Then I'd sit there and watch this complete moron whine and complain about all the abuse he "tolerated" while living with his "abusive family". I'm STILL flabbergasted. It wasn't until I read the book "Why does he do that" by Lundy Bancroft, that I understood his behavior. This man was the "Water Torturer" and "the victim" as described by Lundy Bancroft.
I feel so bad and disgusted to this day about this situation. I am SO GLAD she met her husband and left that shitstain in her past.
[–]BDizzy18FDS Apprentice12 points13 points14 points (1 child) | Copy Link
I saw this and wondered what on earth a "piss bottle" was and then I saw
in the next comment and I just... What??
You two are saying that you knew adult men that urinated in bottles instead of just going to the bathroom? How?? Did they have parents? Were they feral? How can a human being that grew up in civilization urinate where they are sitting when there is a bathroom only yards away?
This is a level of degeneracy I didn't know existed. The fact that two of you had experienced this insanity makes me wonder if other women have too. Maybe one of you should make a post about it.
[–]_HEDONISM_BOTFDS STRATEGY COACH4 points5 points6 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Ohhhhhh yeah. Oh yeah. My best friend has seen THE LOWEST PITS OF MALE DEPRAVITY and she's the queen who's taught me everything I know about them. Half of the shit I tell ya'll on here came directly from her wise words and experience in dealing with bullshit in all of its forms from men. Oh yeah. This girl is married to a HVM and she's slowly cut off and shut out all the shitty men in her life and she's never been happier. I miss her deeply but her HVM husband moved them both across the country and well... I only get to video chat and see her a few times a year or so :(
and she's a queen bee. She knows what she's doing and she was right about everything she told me about men. I want every girl reading this to befriend those women in your friend groups who are hoes, and be kinder and nicer to them. lol. These hoes know exactly what does and doesn't work on men because they put in the work of finding out about them the old fashioned way, through experience. What you're finding out now in your first relationship, is stuff they figured out 12 boyfriends ago, and their advice and insight is INVALUABLE. They can take ONE look at your relationship and tell you EXACTLY how it'll end and be right, and you'll come crawling back to them apologizing and they'll sit back, crack open a bottle of wine, and let you know they saw it coming from the beginning. It is a MINDFUCK.
[–]Parking-ActFDS Disciple11 points12 points13 points (2 children) | Copy Link
My ex used to pee in bottles and leave them in his room. He'd tell me all about it because he wanted to avoid his family. I constantly ignored this. He'd say one of his family members went in his room and was worried they'd find a pee bottle. I hardly said anything when he would tell me these things. The lowest of my pickmeisha days. Sigh
[–]sweatydeathRuthless Strategist3 points4 points5 points (1 child) | Copy Link
Disgusting
Just learned about this phenomenon today
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Gross. My father in his late 70s was dying from lung cancer-- and even HE managed to drag his boney old man butt to the bathroom to take a piss. He had one of those hand-held plastic urinal bottles next to his bed for emergencies, but I don't think he ever used it-- and if he did, he must have dumped it and cleaned it before anyone noticed.
[–]grimreapersdtrFDS Disciple1 point2 points3 points (0 children) | Copy Link
... I wonder what he did with that student loan money...
[–]NoThisIs-PatrickFDS STRATEGY COACH24 points25 points26 points (2 children) | Copy Link
He'll be fine. An ex of mine ended up homeless (we never lived together but he expected me to keep fronting him rent money even when he kept cheating on me).
There's shelters. He'll figure his shit out or he won't. Not her problem that he's a dumb fuck.
[–]sweatydeathRuthless Strategist10 points11 points12 points (1 child) | Copy Link
He doesn't sound too bright LMAO
[–]NoThisIs-PatrickFDS STRATEGY COACH6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
He really wasn't.
But I played 'pickme', and he kept acting worse and worse and just thought I'd take it forever. 'Pickme' always loses.
[–]thewetdog_FDS Disciple6 points7 points8 points (0 children) | Copy Link
Honestly this is hardly kicking out. This lady has earned enough karma for a lifetime with this imo talk about a saint. Luckily for her seems like she’s wise to it now, hope she doesn’t find herself in another position to be taken advantage of bc she seems way too nice!
[–]darkhorse8419FDS Newbie2 points3 points4 points (0 children) | Copy Link
You can’t help them. I gave my drug addict soon to be ex husband money because I didn’t want him to be homeless, after I kicked him out, and he ended up overdosing the day after Mother’s Day.