Why do men never admit that they care about a woman’s career and accomplishments?

fenyx202 · 2019-12-25T03:29:28+00:00

Doctor's are notorious for seeing most people beneath them. God complex? I don't know why it is, I just know it's a common complaint.

SaltKoala · 2019-12-25T04:40:41+00:00

I think you tend to hear this line about a woman’s career not mattering from poorer men with no good job prospects.

I grew up in a very wealthy area, went to prep school and then a top tier college known for having mostly upper middle class and upper class students. I never heard the men at these places say they don’t care what a woman does. In fact I heard them state explicitly the exact opposite- that they wanted an educated woman with achievements and it didn’t matter how hot a girl is if she’s some bum. (When it comes to LTRs/ marriage that is, I’m sure they’d still have hookups with dumb women).

People from the upper classes want the same lifestyle for their children. Whether it’s conscious or subconscious, they tend to choose intelligent, ambitious partners so they’ll more likely have intelligent, ambitious kids to continue the family’s success.

Poor men generally don’t think long term like this though, they just want the hottest girl they can get.

thrownupandaway999 · 2019-12-25T03:43:06+00:00

Because men love “female empowerment” when it means an extra $80000 a year or sucking dick on the first date. They like it a lot less when it teaches women to respect themselves and demand better. Your med school peers are doing what men do best: viewing a woman as an object for their convenience.

blk_grl_lvl_up · 2019-12-25T05:28:29+00:00

I think it has to do with what class a man was raised in. If he comes from a upper class family with a educated mother, if he find himself with money he will want a woman with a good head on her shoulders. “New money” men from low income homes don’t understand the value of a woman with a brain. They

Men on reddit will rant and rave about alimony/child support/divorce payment but if you marry a woman who works and makes similar money (considering more women are educated than men this shouldn’t be hard) if they found themselves divorced he wouldn’t have to pay alimony and the child support would be fair. Instead men think with the head between their thighs and then get the hottest woman who is dumb enough to have unprotected sex with them and then they are shocked she lives in poverty and half your take home will go to child support.

Look ate Mark Zuckerberg and Bill Gates. Educated men who come from middle/upper class homes and married educated women. Vs most athletes who come from poor homes who can barely read their own, who marry and impregnate video vixens and models.

wowthispostissad · 2019-12-25T03:24:11+00:00

My suspicion is purely based on personal experience and extremely generalized, so take it with a grain of salt. I think they pretend because they want to keep women down; men have been doing that throughout history. Financial freedom is a real thing. It’s the modern day’s way of beating people into submission. It’s much more frowned upon now to physically beat a woman than it was before. It’s about control and the easiest way to control someone now is with money. This is a real tactic that is used everyday, and not just on women, but on all types of minorities.

You cannot be truly free if you rely on a specific person to give you money. I work a job, get paid, but I don’t see it as relying on a specific someone. I’m relying on my marketable skills, career experience, sociability, education, etc. Relying on a man’s income means you are relying on his whims and feelings, and that is dangerous for women.

In turn, this makes women who rely on men financially to be easily controlled, but also a liability. That’s why men who have the choice of picking a career woman, will always pick that because who wants to add a liability in their life? But men also don’t want women to rise up in general, so it’s one of those “not mine but everyone else” type things.

On top of that, men are threatened when women are better at them at their jobs, whether they’re romantically involved or not. They also hate it when your education is better than theirs. Ask me how I know LOL

ResponsibleCharacter · 2019-12-25T08:30:13+00:00

Cause the men on Reddit saying this shit sure as hell ain’t doctors 🤣🤣🤣

Yeah, when you walk to your retail job from mommy’s basement it’s easy to talk about how you dgaf about women’s accomplishments... because no accomplished woman would give you the time of day anyway.

I guarantee the idiots saying that make 20-30k a year MAX. Just like you, I’ve witnessed professional students (MD, PhD, JD, PA, etc) pair off with others of at least relatively comparable educational and income level.

throwaway450879 · 2019-12-25T11:53:26+00:00

This post really needs to be stickied. HVM DO CARE about your career and education, don't let anyone tell you otherwise. I noticed that there's a uptick in really bad hypergamy-advice on social media, telling women that rich, HVM don't care about your education and acomplishments, and that that's why they date and marry good-looking, but uneducated women: unless those men are athletes, rappers who can barely speak properly (and aren't educated enough to care and are actually LVM anyway), or if it's a rich man who just wants to control you with his money, educated HVM want to have LTR's and marriages with equally educated women, which is why HVM marry them instead of the good-looking, but uneducated women.

2019-12-25T06:09:14+00:00

It’s honestly bug me how a successful man is seen as more attractive and is praised for being accomplished but a woman is never really valued for that in the dating game, while it’s a requirement if she want to level up and have higher standards, which mean that she’s expected to be successful but also prettier, caring and feminine!! This hypocrisy is killing me!

Plus expected to have & raise the children, so there's that too.

PunnyPrinter · 2019-12-25T03:35:55+00:00

1) They confuse SMV with RMV. Career and status do nothing to amplify a woman’s desirability as a purely sexual prospect but they do make her a more attractive long term romantic prospect (due to similar status, outlook, experiences, etc.)

2) In terms of the example you gave of female doctors, having a good career as a woman ensures that you are ingratiated in the social circles and company of high value males. I personally don’t think male doctors marry female doctors because they find her occupation attractive, but because male doctors work long hours and female doctors are often the only appropriate dating prospects they frequently interact with.

3) It’s a form of negging - I think men say this because it often makes women feel bad about themselves, the idea that males value them primarily for their sexual value.

PunnyPrinter · 2019-12-25T18:05:44+00:00

I know for a fact they do care, because many men would be threatened by a woman whose career accomplishments eclipse their own. Some don’t realize it until it happens and the ego goes haywire, and others have enough self awareness to know before it even happens. So there will always be interest in a woman’s career or income. They only difference is the reason behind why they want to know.

It hasn’t been very often, but I have overheard men (not bums, but guys who are doing well or on track to do well) say they want a partner who makes comparable income to what they are bringing in. Usually, this comes up when talking about affording the nice home in a great neighborhood for the future children.

2019-12-26T00:45:36+00:00

They care in the sense that they want a woman with a good head on her shoulders and that is available in their social circle, but they don't need nor want a woman with better education and money prospects. There's statistics about how men feel more depressed and anxious when the wife is making more money than them for the household. Some don't even care if you stay at home AFTER you get your education.

intrepidis_dux · 2019-12-25T07:55:00+00:00

The hypocrisy is shitty, but you know what? Women's success isn't for them, it's for us and any babies we have.

Title	Why do men never admit that they care about a woman’s career and accomplishments?
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Date	December 25, 2019 2:49 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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