How do you answer "what are you looking for" when you want to say something serious and eventually marriage?

_HEDONISM_BOT · 2019-12-23T04:41:58+00:00

I tell men "I don't know" and then ask them what they're looking for. I do this because I honestly need to know what they're truly looking for. I've been able to ghost a lot of fuckboys this way..... But if you're looking for something serious, put it in the first paragraph of your dating profile in no uncertain terms. Literally spell it out. E.g "I'm looking for a relationship that will lead to marriage, 3 kids, a dog, a cat, and a 2023 Toyota RAV 4... and this is very important to me".

Obviously embellish it a little....

Keep in mind that they'll lie to you and say anything to get you to fuck and suck. So their answer is really irrelevant. You have to look at their behaviors. You gotta constantly be looking out for yourself.

throwawway2091 · 2019-12-23T04:52:52+00:00

never tell the man right away, if you tell him, I want a serious relationship he will do that until he gets laid then leave. Time it much later when he is already in love with you

levelupcleverup · 2019-12-23T06:16:11+00:00

“I am looking to date, and ultimately looking for a serious relationship that leads to marriage.”

This is actual and factual, states your objective while also distinguishing what you’re doing (dating) from what you’re looking for (a serious relationship).

turquoiseblues · 2019-12-23T08:32:15+00:00

“What are you looking for?” is a huge pet peeve of mine. They’re asking because what they’re looking for is easy sex. I immediately unmatch upon receiving this question. Especially since what I’m looking for is in my profile.

w0manifest · 2019-12-23T12:23:41+00:00

"I'll know it when I see it"

gcthrowaway2019 · 2019-12-24T06:12:55+00:00

Really the correct answer is no answer or something vague. But you can flip it by asking what he's looking for and stating you're looking for the opposite or asking what he's offering.

Answering this question for real just sets you up. He'll essentially have cheat codes to getting in your head and panties. It's like that 80s song "who do you want me to be to make you sleep with me"

MagicAte_8 · 2019-12-23T05:13:17+00:00

"Why do you ask?"

Title	How do you answer "what are you looking for" when you want to say something serious and eventually marriage?
Author	ishaparo9
Upvotes	29
Comments	23
Date	December 23, 2019 4:14 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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