I love the new me. I don’t waste any time any more on LVM

Muffcakelord · 2019-12-17T14:35:34+00:00

Tbh you spent too much time on that text, he doesn't deserve more than a couple of sentences. Other than that, well done!

CuriousCatNYC777 · 2019-12-17T14:37:29+00:00

Never send a wall of text. Too emotional. Just ignore him into oblivion.

DM-ME-CATS · 2019-12-17T14:57:07+00:00

Wall of text hands power over to the other party. Hit him with a k And bounce.

Whatprophetssay · 2019-12-17T15:00:43+00:00

Good on you, but like don’t talk to them this much. I’d just MAYBE say “fuck you, you don’t deserve me” if they really hurt my feelings and I’d just block them before they could reply and never speak to them again.

I’m just imagining the stupid caveman face he’s probably making trying to read and decipher human emotions and thoughts. You probably confused him so much 10/10 he knocks on your door crying or puts creepy love letters on your windshield 🤣🤣🤣🤣

s_slayer · 2019-12-17T15:30:20+00:00

Dude how do you have 138 unread text messages 🤯

doubletroublewtf · 2019-12-17T16:09:58+00:00

I know it feels really good to send a wall text. Something that has helped me is to either journal my long response or video myself saying it. That way I still get to get the emotions out, but it isn't wasted on a loser who probably doesn't care any way.

Ms_Tilly · 2019-12-17T17:12:36+00:00

I called my ex Jekyll and Hyde but I never bothered sending long texts or getting into with him at all. That would fall on deaf ears. He raged too. I just walked away every time and separated from him emotionally until I was ready to separate physically. I'm glad you found strength, but these types don't care. They will twist what you said and make themselves believe you were the problem. It's a form of disassociation.

s_slayer · 2019-12-17T14:34:20+00:00

Kicked his ass to the curb. I don’t feel a drop of sadness. And before I did so, I told him how I really felt. It felt great. 7 years off and on and I’m DONE.

ETA: Just say no to LVM. I didn’t speak to him for a year and he begged the whole time for another chance to prove he had changed. Ladies, THEY DON’T CHANGE. I’m talking less than one percent chance. It takes a lot of self awareness and therapy to change and it’s rare for men to even admit they have problems, and if they do, they rarely try to get better. He actually told me I hadn’t changed. I was floored. I didn’t have to change. He was the one who continually mind fucked me, and despite his claims, he is still not accountable for himself. I’m glad he revealed this to me very early on at least. I’m just sorry I wasn’t this strong years ago, wasted too much time on this dead end.

spotsandstripes9 · 2019-12-18T01:00:08+00:00

Men actually like these long emotional rants, because it tells them that they’ve gotten a reaction.

I’ve found that ignoring fuckboys is WAY more effective. They’re so used to getting inside women’s heads that when it doesn’t happen, they have no idea how to react to it. Just block and move on.

eru378 · 2019-12-18T05:17:03+00:00

Well, you're still wasting at least some time by sending long messages to this guy. Real queen shit is simply removing worthless men from your life and moving on. When you're angry and hurting it's normal to want to give the other person a piece of your mind but it won't ultimately help you let go. Keep working at it, it can be hard to make the break but once you do you'll feel amazing.

redbirdflies · 2019-12-17T22:34:02+00:00

Did we date the same raging narcissist? My ex was so Jekyll and Hyde it would be two minutes in between him telling me that any thought of his future without me was terrifying, and him looming over me in a threatening way demanding that I answer a question regarding an innocent interaction with a friend on social media or a former relationship that had been severed long ago for no other reason than to feed into his jealous rage of the day

They never change. It’s more than 6 months of no contact and I have zero desire to ever speak to him again

When they do this it’s called “hoovering” and they never let go of their prime supply. Hvf are the biggest targets, particularly if they are empathic, and even more so if you came from a damaged childhood because these types are experts in honing in on the holes in your psyche and faking the ability to fill in the holes. Stay away. Far, far away. Go no contact now and forever. You are not helping him see the err of his ways. All you are doing is feeding the narcissistic beast that thrives on attention in any form, good or bad.

Title	I love the new me. I don’t waste any time any more on LVM
Author	s_slayer
Upvotes	26
Comments	28
Date	December 17, 2019 2:33 PM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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