How do we feel about practice dates?

maserlaser · 2019-11-11T03:32:16+00:00

There is absolutely nothing wrong with going on dates in part as a way to hone those skills. It's not immoral either as long as you are honest. If you are interested, go out and try to have a nice time with the guy. If you indeed decide that you don't want something long term it's of course ok just to decline further dates.

caffeine_inmyveins · 2019-11-11T09:44:31+00:00

I think you can just treat him as a friend and make it clear at the beginning. If you're upfront that you aren't interested in a relationship and he continues to pursue you or ask you out if he enjoys your company, then so be it.

ponchoacademy · 2019-11-11T11:53:15+00:00

You're not going to have the same experience dating a 35yo bartender as you will dating a 35yo professional.

Not even putting him down for it actually, just that it would be lost effort to practice on someone who you already know isn't at the stage of thier life you want them to be at. And being in a different stage of life, they're going to go into dating and how they treat women differently as well.

If you want a guy who is going to be able to take you out, pay for dinner, be able to travel, what have you...this guy likely won't be able to afford it even if just for himself moreless to treat you to it. Id also wonder if a guy at that age and still bartending is even thinking about his future. Like at any age, if he's working on his degree or something to improve his situation and has potential, thats one thing. But if that's his endgame, no way.

I'd advise against lowering your standards to spend any time or energy on a guy you already know you're not interested in for whatever reason though. Whatever time you give him is taking away from time you could be meeting/spending time with someone who actually like.

Every potential you date is practice. Practice cutting guys off the moment you see a red flag or incompatibility. Practice listening to your gut feeling. Practice being selective so that with each guy you get closer to what you do want.

plembb · 2019-11-11T13:05:27+00:00

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rftw2013 · 2019-11-11T04:50:52+00:00

I say go, learn what you can learn, and then decide if you want to see him again. He may be useful as a FWB (if that is useful to you) or for other purposes until you find someone more long term. He wants to take you out? I say, let him. ;)

PoorPlainObscure · 2019-11-11T06:24:25+00:00

I don't want to be treated that way so I wouldn't like to do it to others. But if you can bear it and if he consents after you've expained to him how you feel then why not.

PandaLLC · 2019-11-12T23:09:16+00:00

It's probably not the case. However, some older bartenders make really good money. A friend's brother is closer to 40 and lives this lifestyle because he's good and makes proper money. Check it out.

Balkanka · 2019-11-11T15:07:14+00:00

Dates are fun and for hanging out! Do it. Nothing to lose.

Title	How do we feel about practice dates?
Author	plembb
Upvotes	10
Comments	19
Date	November 11, 2019 3:19 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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