Reminder not do date mama boys.

NoThisIs-Patrick · 2020-02-27T02:43:29+00:00

Wife: I told my husband that I want it to be just us two in the hospital and we could have friends and family over the house later

Asshole husband: He says that he didn't know how serious I meant it

Reddit: wHy Don'T yOU tRY to comMunICatE

How about men should fucking listen and ACTUALLY CARE

Yianna_F · 2020-02-27T01:55:47+00:00

Great example of a red flag OP!

A man's relationship with his mother can be a huge red or green flag.

Dysfunctional and toxic relationships such as those with high levels or patterns of unhealthy attachment, enmeshment, codependency and lack of boundaries should be avoided at all costs.

Having boundaries and setting your priorities straight are of the utmost importance here, especially when vetting for or considering marriage. Men with and unhealthy relationship with their mothers tend to put them first over anyone and anything else in their lives. Such a person will never make you and your children a priority no matter how long you have been together or how much effort you make.

Vet, vet, vet!!! And then vet them some more! Your life and that of your children depends on it!

Pay attention to how he behaves towards his mother, how often they communicate and visit/see each other, how see informs his decisions, the level of involvement in his daily life/career choices/every day life/intimate relations and friendships, roles and expectations and boundaries with each other, what his 'caring for or helping out my mum' truly translates into on a practical level and commitments (e.g. financial, physical or mental labour) towards his mother or other family members.

From something that looks as innocent as...A guy who takes his mum shopping on the weekends, visit aunts or sisters, then have lunch together and does work around her house is probably not going to have much time left to spend on you on the weekends.

To more serious cases of... A guy that pays his mother's rent, either fully or partially, takes care of her finances, pays for younger sibling's college, takes his mother to appointments, lives with her to take care of her, calls her during his lunch break to catch up or after work to talk about his day, or visits daily after work before he gets to his/your home etc., takes his mother's word as gospel, does not defend youbwhen his mother insults or criticises you etc.

And the list goes on...and on...and on...

If you're not his priority or he doesn't have time or space for you in his life or doesn't make that time and space...if he is unable to put you and your relationship and/or children first, then he is not the right one for you!

AND UNLESS HE HAS A PERSONALITY TRANSPLANT, HE NEVER WILL BE!

psychsense · 2020-02-27T04:38:25+00:00

More like reminder to never have a baby with a man.

ScrappleSandwiches · 2020-02-27T02:35:13+00:00

Holy crap, that poor woman. I see divorce in her future.

extraacct1234 · 2020-02-27T01:46:48+00:00

That could have been me if I had stayed with one of my boyfriends. Gag! Never again.

StillAwakeofCourse · 2020-02-27T08:58:20+00:00

She reacted perfectly normally to an impossible situation, imo. I hope she leaves him but I feel bad for her being tied to his family forever thru the kid.

Title	Reminder not do date mama boys.
Author	hellau1234
Upvotes	53
Comments	14
Date	February 27, 2020 1:03 AM UTC (6 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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