I’m originally from Asia and when I moved here, to the states I thought it’d be less complicated than how people date where I’m from. I was so surprised ( or due to tinder and other dating apps which removed social sanctions ) how people play so MANY games. Maybe it has to be with me living in nyc also. No wonder forums like fds is needed. Those guys who end up in marriage will also get into divorce if they play that many mindgames when young. One thing I realized with people, people hardly change. While I wrote some post about strategy when it comes to dating and how to get around manipulations, sometimes I feel like I’d rather not date as it lowers my vibrations. Good men are so hard to find whom have basic qualities like loyalty and morals. There’s website called seeking arrangement which I briefly used and guys there are trust me, way worse than any guys who come up in this forum. And guess their status ? They’re are all divorced. It’s good that I’m not attracted to American guys in general. Because I’m not into rounded jaws and guys who’s short and overweight with lack of style . But so many had obvious personality flaws. And ofc most mature sane woman wouldn’t stand them.

But I just wanted to let you know that if you’re dating someone and it feels like you have to go extra mile to date him or use your Brain too much, quit dating. Focus on yourself and do other things. Few of my American friends end up in marriage ended up in divorce. Reading fds post is good for you but at the same time I believe sometimes taking time off any online forums and focusing on your real life matters also. Always remind yourself that you’re a queen and don’t get into any mind games. Dating a good guy feels calm. Not going through roller coaster of emotions. That’s how you know you’re in good relationship.

Also karma exists. The person who played you will be played by other person in the end.