Date brought female friend, tried to push her on me

silvereddi · 2020-07-05T20:12:37+00:00

My theory is this: Even though you kissed original girl on first date, she lost interest in you afterwards but thought you’re a „good guy“ and wanted to couple you with her friend who saw your pics and thought you were cute. So she only agreed to meetup with you in a hidden agenda to bring her friend and couple both of you, because she herself isn’t interested in dating you anymore.

MattyAnon · 2020-07-05T21:32:02+00:00

The question is, did I f**k up when I kissed her friend? Like showing that maybe I would get with a girl with lower SMV than her.

Yep

Maybe it was a test? I just tried to enjoy myself and show that I wasn't scared. Because it seems like we ended on a bad note. I don't have that much experience, anyone have some clue what happend ?

She's trying to help her friend hook up. She's moved on to someone else, but think you are good enough for her friend.

I'm thinking just nexting because I kinda regret not just leaving immidiately when my date brought her friend.

Nexting should have already happened.

opper-hombre1 · 2020-07-05T21:21:28+00:00

Reverse that shit bro.

“I dare YOU to kiss her on the mouth and neck”

This way you keep frame and control the interaction

NabroleonBonaparte · 2020-07-05T20:07:53+00:00

Your original date seems batshit. I don’t believe it had anything to do with threesome or anything.

She might’ve just been retarded.

Decimus_Stark · 2020-07-05T22:03:11+00:00

This was no 3 some attempt, thats ego projection. Women are usually open verbally or situationally to that sort of thing. This was a shit test. Yes, it was. Lets dig into it.

"Anyway, her friend wasn't that good looking compared to her. She dared me to kiss her friend on the mouth and neck. I had kissed my original date last time we met. The question is, did I f**k up when I kissed her friend? Like showing that maybe I would get with a girl with lower SMV than her."

A: Women know exactly where they are on their SMV scale, she knew her friend was of lower value then her. So this goes into, whats a shit test? A shit test is built to root out weak, unvaluble, and DESPERATE men. She wants to know that your the real deal. Guess what, you failed, your no longer on the "maybe" side, your on the "no" side. You proved you were desperate when you gave into her. Thats why everything soured after, your no longer worth her time. The medium is the message.

A common misconception about frame is, its just confidence. Its not just that, its also value. If your confident, and valuable, your going to have standards, and not throw them to the wind when some young hot girl comes your way with the "potential" for sex.

Don't feel bad, you got nexted, move on. By the way some of the guys commenting who are saying, "Dude, you missed your shot at a 3 some" would fail this.

VasiliyZaitzev · 2020-07-05T22:52:09+00:00

She dared me to kiss her friend on the mouth and neck.

You: "No, I dare YOU to kiss her on the mouth and neck."

Also, don't allow girls to bring a friend on one-on-one dates. If that happened without clearance from you, that's a problem.

Unlikely_Composer · 2020-07-05T19:51:24+00:00

You threw away a threesome

Musicgoon · 2020-07-05T19:44:25+00:00

Jesus man. Never throw away a chance at a 3some. You let her control the frame. You should let them both share you.

Next time, game and escalate with both.

trele_morele · 2020-07-05T23:10:47+00:00

Congrats, you got friendzoned.

ardu- · 2020-07-05T19:29:52+00:00

aDrunkenWhaler · 2020-07-05T21:49:01+00:00

"I'll do it if you do it first"

fartingaround · 2020-07-05T23:46:54+00:00

U shudda told the 2 girls to kiss

_-resonance-_ · 2020-07-05T20:58:52+00:00

“I thought you’d never ask... but ladies first.” [head-nods date to kiss friend] (u/doubleconversation4)

ValorElite · 2020-07-05T22:34:47+00:00

What country is this?

awihsoj · 2020-07-05T23:32:17+00:00

The way I see it you had two good options. 1st is to you could have held your frame and simply said no. It would show you wouldnt just settle for what you want. It may make you look like am asshole, but girls will always forgive you for being an asshole and disrespect you for not holding your ground. The second is flip and amplify. Could have said something like "How about you kiss her" or "I'll do that if you kiss me". Could have led to a 3some.

MikeAlphaGolf · 2020-07-05T23:47:11+00:00

In her mind you’re lower value than her. If you don’t like her friend then move on from both. You’ll never get the original girl now.

Terminal-Psychosis · 2020-07-06T00:33:44+00:00

Same type of shit happened to me a year ago. Girl was all over me all night kissing and dancing at bars.. didn’t take her home.. snap chatted for a week then the following weekend she tried pushing her uggo friend on me. Lost my frame and just left lol.

Grave_Heresy · 2020-07-06T03:11:52+00:00

Three ways you could've gone about this:

Tell her that you'll kiss her friend if she does.
Tell her she's batshit and leave (My personal fave)
Ask her what do I get if I kiss her?

If I was in your position I would've told her to stop playing.

idontmiind · 2020-07-06T03:46:54+00:00

Imagine how you'd react if you weren't in your head... or didn't give two shits about these girls cus you had 2 other hotter plates lined up for the weekend? All in all its barely a loss and a good lesson. Keep moving soldier!

FleshPanda · 2020-07-05T21:40:10+00:00

Just fuck the ugly one.

throwawayu4321 · 2020-07-05T19:54:31+00:00

Believe me, it seemed more like it was some ego-thing for her. Pretty girl with less attractive me. No, at the end was not mood for threesome.

The question is really, was it a mistake to kiss her friend with lower smv friend in front of her? I of course tried to dare her several times back to kiss her friend, to test the waters for threesome. But she wasn't interested in kissing her. And neither was really I. I Wasn't really attracted to her friend at all.

throwawayu4321 · 2020-07-05T20:50:10+00:00

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Askmeiwontsaynot · 2020-07-06T00:04:13+00:00

threesome

throwawayu4321 · 2020-07-06T06:44:24+00:00

Thanks for the answers guys, appreciate it. I thought just before I kissed her that this is maybe a bad idea. I got the test backwards, thought maybe she would be jealous or it was to check if I was scared. Lesson learned. Good to have this place instead of asking her what went wrong and not get the real answer.

MonxtahDramux · 2020-07-06T08:34:56+00:00

You're overthinking. Get more plates.

WickedMo13 · 2020-07-05T21:48:01+00:00

You should have made multiple threesome sex jokes and then made out with them both at the same damn time and then had a thressome

dudedoodickle · 2020-07-05T20:28:16+00:00

should've fucked the uglier girl in front of the original one eh?

Title	Date brought female friend, tried to push her on me
Author	throwawayu4321
Upvotes	85
Comments	50
Date	July 5, 2020 7:09 PM UTC (6 years ago)
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