High effort COVID dates?

cupittycakes · 2020-07-23T05:08:21+00:00

Nah, hikes as first dates are low effort as hell... and dangerous

Maybe a video chat date where he cashapps ya so you can order out from your fav place and he orders from his place, and y'all have "dinner" together

Will any guy do this? Probably not 🙈

I don't know what kinds of activities are open in your state, but anything fun where y'all can keep a mask on

Pahapan · 2020-07-23T05:40:43+00:00

The dating pool right now is comprised primarily of overly horny assholes with cabin fever. I'm seeing so many memes, tweets, tiktoks, etc. about it. They're desperate. I don't imagine that very many HVM would bother trying to date under pandemic conditions. A HVM will treat you like a queen from the start but how can they accomplish that through socially distant dates (which tend to be free outdoorsy activities), video chatting, etc.? It would rub them the wrong way that they can't date you the way you deserve to be dated and they wouldn't want to feel like they're wasting your time. The whole point of dating is to vet and actually get to know someone. That's not really possible atm.

FDSxMuffinVSrat · 2020-07-23T05:54:35+00:00

Only slightly related, but has anyone had a high effort Covid date at all? If so what happened?

_jellybeanqueen_ · 2020-07-23T05:34:17+00:00

Hello! I am in a similar situation and recently landed a high effort date during these times and would like to share my experience over the last 2 months.

I live in Canada where the rates of COVID aren't as extreme as the US, but I expressed early on that I was seriously uncomfortable with spending extended periods of time in unventilated indoor areas where servers are in full PPE. Eventually they worked with it, and this weekend we plan on biking along the boardwalk and finishing off with a small picnic (individually wrapped sandwiches, lots of hand sanitizer, away from crowds) in a green part of town.

Now, I have to say that I believe my case is the exception. Before agreeing to go out, I properly vetted them and made sure they demonstrated value because I wasn't going to risk my health for anybody who asked, even if all expenses were covered and all I had to do was show up. I did this through expressing via text that I wanted to get to know them better through calls as calling is my preferred method of communication (they texted me asking if I was available for a call, unprompted, and proceeded to follow-through with additional 1 hour calls throughout the 2 month period following the first call). They sent an uber eats order of my choice to my house when I mentioned I wasn't feeling well. And of course I made sure that they weren't sipping that anti-mask-COVID-hoax koolaid, and were actively staying safe (which means not seeing each other for 14 days after meeting to rule out the possibility of either of us carrying COVID completely). They continued to demonstrate consistency in their interactions with me, which is why I feel comfortable going out with them. High value does not mean high cost as this was very creative and thoughtfully planned date, all without costing a fortune. If they really valued and cared for you as a person they will put in the effort and work with your requirements to ensure your comfort.

Following the advice of the other comments, I would recommend not dating if you feel like you are putting yourself or others at risk as it is ROUGH out there, not only for dating but existing in general. I really did not intend on meeting anyone during COVID, and was happy to occupy myself with activities that enrich my life through 2021 (like upping my career, getting my finances in order, caring for my loved ones, learning to sew, and going through my book backlog) and this is something that just ended up working out. If you do choose to date, properly vet beforehand to ensure they demonstrate value before meeting up with them — make sure they are not only following social distancing guidelines, but you are actually compatible enough to warrant an in person meeting. Be patient and focus on levelling up if you feel any discomfort at the notion of dating / feel drained from searching, the time will come where you can have fun and fully enjoy dating as a whole stable person who spent energy on being the best they could be vs trying to satisfy a fleeting want in such a risky time. Stay safe and I wish you the best of luck <3.

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gcthrowaway2019 · 2020-07-23T10:27:30+00:00

I'm blocking men who ask me to go hiking

Why is this even a thing? Even if I were into hiking that's not a first date. Makes me think of that I Shouldn't Be Alive episode.

MalloryDame · 2020-07-23T10:36:54+00:00

Lots of people use videochat to stay in touch with their loved ones during the pandemic so it wouldn't be too weird to ask for a videochat dinner date, in my opinion. You have no idea where this stranger has been, so be safe rather than sorry. You can still get to know them while having some nice food and drink and there's a little less awkwardness. And if you end up not enjoying their company or disliking them for some reason, it's much easier and quicker to leave!

dntbfllikeidid · 2020-07-23T04:59:53+00:00

If you don’t feel comfortable going out for dinner or going on a hike with a random guy maybe, just maaaybe that’s a sign you shouldn’t be going on dates right now? (for obvious reasons) What’s the rush?

idiosyncraticg1 · 2020-07-23T19:04:50+00:00

If you’re in the US, stay at home. This is ridiculous. Your cases are the highest in the WORLD! Stop dating, stop seeing your friends, stop going out. Stay at home and put your health in priority.

Sage_Planter · 2020-07-23T19:24:38+00:00

I've stopped dating right now. My thought process is that I feel comfortable doing limited activities outside the house each week, and I'd rather do them with people I love and people I know are taking the same precautions that I am. I had been trying to do a little bit of online dating, but every man I met wasn't being nearly as cautious as I was when it came to sheltering in place, limiting social interactions, etc. I know my friends are being careful, and I'd rather spend time with them than random internet dating dudes who are probably just duds.

ScrubJay9 · 2020-07-23T05:43:54+00:00

In the midst of a pandemic that spreads virulently without symptoms, where every single day new discoveries about the long term effects are documented- where frontline medical workers are assiduously limiting their exposure, practicing quarantine like decontamination procedures to keep their homes and families safe- and you live in a place where infections are on the rise...You want advice on “high effort” in person covid dates with randoms met OLD ???

Whatever COVID consequences math that got you clear to be a willing disease vector/virus crash test dummy interacting with other tributes because you’re okay with all this ...Have you considered that men OLD are not high value anything but are instead looking for sex?

There’s a quantifiable risk for a man so the obvious payoff to offset the dangers according to men’s covid-based penis logic is sex with a woman who is signaling sexy time because why else do you meet in the middle of a pandemic?

catsuramen · 2020-07-23T08:40:57+00:00

He cooked a full-on 7 course meal for two and deliver it to a designated place (with flowers and wine), where you will pick it up and have a tele-dinner.

Or he order a meal for you at a fancy restaurant where you pick up, bring it home, and have a tele-dinner.

Honestly, just work on yourself and don't even try. high value means being high effort consistently. Without face-to-face interactions it'd just be onlyfans with a local twist.

PinkestMango · 2020-07-23T09:31:53+00:00

Every single person asking me out rn gets BLOCKTTTTTTT.

They don't care for anyone other than their dick's wetness. They don't care if they hurt people. They only say they are healthy so it is fine. It doesn't matter that there is no lockdown. This is a fundamental character flaw.

2020-07-23T04:34:15+00:00

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Title	High effort COVID dates?
Author	ScrubJay9
Upvotes	31
Comments	21
Date	July 23, 2020 2:25 AM UTC (6 years ago)
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