Hi ladies. I've been reading various threads about the spark and whether it's important or not and I'm struggling to figure out whether I should proceed with one guy I've been seeing. We matched on an app during COVID and had 3 video chats which were all fun and interesting. He ticks most of my boxes - religion, background, height, general "type," and seems very into me. When we finally met in person we also had a pleasant conversation and I had a reasonably good time, but was on the fence on physical attraction. I was kind of indifferent. We did get along well, but I have the gift of gab and can talk to pretty much anyone.
Second date a couple weeks later, literally same situation - pleasant conversation, but almost no physical attraction from my end. He took me out to dinner and when I first saw him outside the restaurant, I didn't think he was particularly attractive. I thought he had a cute face but meh body. Idk if it's worth it to keep seeing him and maybe he'll make me more attracted to him with his actions somehow, or if I should just let him go.
For me the biggest thing is I have zero excitement to see him again. In fact I'm sort of dreading it because I know he'll attempt to kiss me and I have zero desire to do that. I haven't kissed anyone since pre-COVID and I don't want my "first" to be him lol. I don't have much experience turning people down after a couple dates, usually it's an immediate yes/no from me on the first date, and I've been the dumpee in my past couple relationships so this feels weird to me. Just wanted to talk this through with you ladies. Any response appreciated. Thanks!
Update: I sent him a text declining a third date!
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