how can women use their beauty to their advantage?

penelopekitty · 2020-07-30T22:12:32+00:00

Beauty is a double edged sword. It may make it easier to attract men, but it doesn't make them treat you well. The most beautiful women in the world are routinely cheated on and abused.

Your looks will also change quite a bit as you get older. There are many beautiful older women, but even so men will often choose a less attractive woman if she is younger.

Men like women they can control and manipulate. In relationships your beauty will lose it's novelty fairly quickly.

I don't really think there is any meaningful or long term way to use your beauty to your own benefit unless you have a stint as a super model and rake in some serious cash.

suspended_animation_ · 2020-07-30T22:31:37+00:00

I never had that power. As I approach 40, I definitely never will

_jellybeanqueen_ · 2020-07-30T22:57:39+00:00

I agree with the sentiment that beauty will not secure anything if people are intent on using your beauty for temporary gain and discarding you afterwards.

BUT there is such a thing as presence in the way one carries themselves, which means there are ways to leverage beauty in the form of physical presence without being taken advantage of (even if you think you aren't beautiful, which btw is not a productive view to hold abut yourself because what is beauty other than a co-opted standard????) — in fact, if you are educated and put effort into maintaining appearances, I would argue that half of what appears as beauty is actually charm!!!!

By being courteous, socially gracious, and charming (in a manner that exudes gravitas, confidence and awareness NOT ditziness and doormat level agreeableness) you inadvertently play up the features you already have while still being able to maintain your dignity and integrity, which is key. Obviously, if the person doesn't deserve to see your sweet charming side, withhold it! Sooooo yeah take that as you will

gigi_chi · 2020-07-30T23:00:07+00:00

When you’re beautiful a lot of people want to befriend you and a lot of men pursue you. That’s your advantage. You have more options and are automatically liked by most people you come across .

You need to work on gaining good judgment and having a high self esteem. Beauty, good judgment, and a high self esteem will get you very far.

There is a lot of power in being a beautiful woman, don’t be one that snoozes on her power because she hasn’t developed herself in other areas.

diamond_pie · 2020-07-30T23:36:08+00:00

My advice as a beautiful woman/ former ugly duckling.

Have high self-esteem and know your worth. If your beautiful own it, it doesn’t make you arrogant as long as you don’t walk around thinking your better than others. A woman who is aware of her beauty and knows she’s the prize is powerful and can’t be manipulated with words
Acknowledge it’s a gift and use it to your advantage for goodness sake! Don’t give a man free reign of your beautiful body and mind. You have more options, (yes more LVM options too! But also more HV options.
Men have openly admitted to me that if they were a woman then would be finessing the system, and using it to their advantage. Not all of us want to be sugar babies and use men, some of us want that one husband for life. But ensure you put yourself first and chose a financially stable one for the love of God. You have options and majority of well off men value beauty a lot. (Before anyone says but they’ll only want you as a trophy- so what? Better than the LV man cheating and not treating their wives like queens, at least your getting money and stability for your kids). Use men the way they use you for your beauty. Remember your beauty actually adds a lot to a mans status. Having a beautiful woman as a mans wife makes him a king amongst his friends.
Words mean absolutely nothing. Also if he’s negging you please leave, even minor negging like saying how you look funny with that lipstick colour or you don’t need foundation it looks caked. Sometimes the negging can be subtle to keep you down. A lot of LV men neg because your beauty threatens them and they don’t want you to go out and attract men who he knows are way better then him.

megiroma · 2020-07-30T22:49:38+00:00

As a beautiful woman, you automatically have a lot of LVM to sort through since you attract EVERYONE. But I think it can help you if you can give the, “don’t fuck with me vibe” and that, “I’m high maintenance” vibe that will scare the LVM away. You can’t look like you’re easy to manipulate. Then someone here did say that beauty loses its novelty, meaning that guys might lose interest to chase others girls so you might get hurt... It might be beneficial if you are very selective!

Capable_Okra · 2020-07-30T23:22:28+00:00

This subreddit is not about manipulating people. That's for red pill PUA types.

Jasmineof-Agrabah · 2020-07-31T01:13:04+00:00

Every time I want something I dress up and look stupid. Everything gets handed to me.

Edit: to be honest it’s more the attitude than the beauty. Damsel in distress works 99.999% of the time

Title	how can women use their beauty to their advantage?
Author	rosey434
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Date	July 30, 2020 10:03 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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