Overcoming shame of being a virgin

Pen2When · 2020-08-04T00:03:07+00:00

I never told the girl I lost my vcard to that I was a virgin, we were both drunk and she asked if I was going to fuck her or not. You'll be alright bro.

UnkownChain · 2020-08-03T22:53:43+00:00

Girls have had so much sexual experience, while I don't even feel like a man.

Read "The Sex God Method" bud, this book will teach you so much that you might even forget youre a virgin

And nice comeback btw, keep on with your new journey

Edit: oh, and stop stroking daily (max do it weekly) and totally cut porn, youre good

MattyAnon · 2020-08-03T23:30:20+00:00

I've lost 35kg

awesome!

The problem is, every time I see a girl I'm attracted to, I feel like she would judge me for being a virgin. Girls have had so much sexual experience, while I don't even feel like a man.

You're shy and don't know how to deal with it all.

That's fine..... but I promise you this: 99% of this is just doing it. Quit the internal voices and just do it. They don't know you're a virgin and they never will because you aren't going to tell them.

Focus on lifting, being in shape, and getting girls into bed. The rest will work itself out.

DaLaohu · 2020-08-04T00:01:02+00:00

Women don't rate a man based soley on his n-count. A man's n-count is indicitive of his desirability to women, but not the only factor. In other words, women don't care if a guy has had sex before (when rating a guy). They care if women want to have sex with the guy. And the woman especially cares if she wants to have sex with the guy. So, if you got a woman in front of you that wants to have sex with you, she doesn't care if you're a virgin (when rating you). She only cares that she wants to do you.

You're already on the right track. Just ramp up your desirability through the roof, and women won't care.

Another piece of advice (from Rollo) is to never reveal your n-count to the woman. They will use it against you, especially if you're a virgin looking to get laid. It depends on the situation and the woman, but a virgin reveal may likely cause her to lose desire in you. If she asks, just make jokes about how many until she gives up asking.

itiswr1tten · 2020-08-03T23:02:35+00:00

Install dating apps. Locate slam pig. Be aggressive on number close and setup a date near your house. Tell her 2 drinks in she needs to see your stamp collection.

Strap on the condom and get that W, with zero respect for whether she will enjoy it. This is for you.

Congrats you are now over this anxiety.

Reenas54 · 2020-08-04T01:32:41+00:00

Like a shark can sense blood in a mile away, these bitches can sense virginity from far away. If in whatever stage of dating question "are you virgin" comes up - you never admit it. You can either try "last time i fucked was with my gf 2 years ago, after we broke up i focused on my...", "idk, had threesome with horse and midget, but midget fucked me" or "does blow job from nun count?" or some other bullshit. Never admit. Girls just wanna have fun and with virgin guy they gonna have no fun. Instant boner killer for them.

boy_named_su · 2020-08-04T01:44:21+00:00

don't tell her you're a virgin. if she asks how many people you've slept with, you answer coyly: "like, today?", "human people?" etc. if she persists, say "a gentleman doesn't kiss and tell"

PrettyBarbiePerson · 2020-08-03T23:22:31+00:00

Body dysmorphia is a bitch dude

Start eating clean, start bulking now. You need protein to build muscle, you’ll just keep getting skinnier and skinner with the same problem in your stomach.

Trust me dude, 35kg is a lot of weight to still be cutting

redpilledfox · 2020-08-03T22:56:01+00:00

I wake up with a boner, and I masturbate twice a day.

Jerking off is not mandatory to transmute sexual energy. I didn't jerk off once for 3 months when I was doing infantry training in the military. It's likely you're just addicted to porn.

I feel like she would judge me for being a virgin.

The rich get richer and the guys that get sex keep getting more sex. If you're not receiving any intimacy it's going to be difficult for you to portray the laid-back confident attitude necessary to acquire intimacy.

Here is my prescription for you: fuck a fat/ugly chick off tinder.

xJaegar · 2020-08-04T00:24:22+00:00

Let me tell you that losing your virginity will not change your life in any way. It's a massive confidence boost when you do but that quickly fades away. I was still left with all my insecurities and flaws when I lost my virginity.

Natural_Singer · 2020-08-03T23:08:27+00:00

get rid of it with a hooker. You'll either hate urself or learn that ur sacred oh so special virginity was never a big deal. If u do hate urself, ull stop caring about it in a few years anyways, cause again, u'll realize ur virginity never really mattered

Wjourney · 2020-08-04T02:02:30+00:00

Fake it till you make it but dont sauce it know what i mean

Whisper · 2020-08-04T09:19:34+00:00

There's nothing I can say to you that would be a substitute for toughening life experiences. You have to go out and have them.

Don't wait unit you feel better to act. You will never feel better unless you act first.

So fake it. Go and do something you're scared to do. And while you're doing it, pretend you're not dying inside. Just keep it off your face and do it anyway.

Most of the things you could possibly try aren't actually dangerous, and are nothing to be scared of, but me telling you that is worthless. You aren't going to believe me. You're never going to believe me until you feel it.

And you're never going to feel it until you act.

Relaxredditrockstar · 2020-08-03T23:57:26+00:00

I’m going to skip through all your emotional garbage and try to leave you with the encouraging part... some girls actively seek out virgins. Any girl reads you as open game now. They won’t have to worry how trash their head game is, or how terrible they are at riding dick. Once they find out you’re a virgin they’ll feel as though there’s no shame in their game. On the final note you’re headed in the right direction just lose some weight and the pussy will come, last but not least stop crying nobody cares. Gl

legospartan · 2020-08-03T23:36:08+00:00

Cold approach every woman. You’re going to be rejected. Embrace it. Keep lifting and when you do finally bang. Don’t get oneitis, as soon as you’re done smashing want you to put your clothes on, tell her I really needed that “you got my number” and walk out.

superomar13 · 2020-08-04T01:36:33+00:00

Listen below and read "the sex god method", then lie mate lol. It's simple. If they bring up the topic at all, either extrue it and say "yesterday I hit a million" or something like "oh im a big fat virgin (which is kind of true but say it sarcastically lol)" and youll pass. They shouldnt know you were a virgin until ya'll have had sex a couple times, and only if shes adamant to know

RevolutionaryPea7 · 2020-08-04T08:38:22+00:00

This is how to have sex: slowly escalate physical contact. The idea is you touch what you want, ie. tits and arse. Enjoy it, but always be gauging her reaction. If she's comfortable with it, continue, if she's not then back up, slow down and try again. The aim is to rub her pussy with your hand. Once you've done that and she's comfortable with it, you can fuck her. That's it. You've done the hard part. So remove the rest if her clothes and fuck her.

At no point in this process do you mention your virginity or lack of experience.

Blackhawk2479 · 2020-08-04T10:19:20+00:00

I'm currently a bit skinny fat, working on losing fat on my stomach before I start bulking.

No no no no no.

Start training to build muscle IMMEDIATELY - you're using belly fat as an excuse not to start when in reality lifting will help you shift the belly fat.

We all know being a virgin sucks, but the only person who gives a shit is you. If you feel like the stigma is holding you back then pay for an escort and get it out of the way so you can get into a better headspace.

Onefamiliar · 2020-08-04T00:19:18+00:00

Sidebar

MAGAorD1E · 2020-08-04T03:03:06+00:00

http://imgur.com/a/pyNekCt

This guy

armenian_UwUcide · 2020-08-04T03:44:57+00:00

I feel like everyone has settled down

settle down

Really think about those words, bud. You’re only going up from here, you’ve no need for that weak ass “settle down” bullshit! Keep moving forward, you’re on the right track.

WhatRemainsAfter · 2020-08-04T03:58:14+00:00

It's an honor. Don't let society standards judge.

Set a goal of getting laid by XX date and work on it.

Be realistic and break it down to number of approaches per day.

Also, never tell yourself - if you lose YY killos, you will ask more girls out.

You are in fun timea ahead. You got it man. Cheers!

DWS33_ · 2020-08-04T04:43:42+00:00

she doesn’t have to know your a virgin. when i was 14 i was watching porn for years and when i lost my virginity at that age the girl thought i lied about being a virgin because of how good i was touching on her / fucking her.

remember sex is a natural thing. go with the flow.

batfish55 · 2020-08-04T13:08:34+00:00

Learn to eat pussy. Watch lesbian porn that was made BY women, FOR women. Real women don't eat pussy in real life the way you see in traditional porn.

If you can munch box like a pro, she won't give a shit if you're a good fuck or not.

felipeagm7 · 2020-08-04T00:44:56+00:00

It's funny cause You think this and then suddenly You Will fuck a girl one of these days . It s all in your head, You are enough. You are a man . You are worthy. You Will have sex soon i assure You. I was a virgin until slmost 20 and one day a beautiful girl felt attracted to me and it happen just like that . After that i dropped My fears . Don't worry man

ZTRP · 2020-08-04T01:30:29+00:00

Don't cut

Do microcuts and microbulk This way you'll get "noobie gains" whilst melting off some fat. Stick to conventional movements (deadlift, bench, squat) as your foundation , then build up your routine

drovid5 · 2020-08-04T03:18:26+00:00

I masturbate twice a day

yeah.... about that..... might want to start retaining your semen, bro

it'll boost your confidence and you'll find getting laid much much easier.

trust me

XpandConciousness · 2020-08-04T01:51:44+00:00

Go for the ugly ones and start practicing with them and building up your confidence. Who cares if you're virgin, you probably already know everything you need to know for a good start. Keep getting sexy and go get them!!

thatbadrogue2 · 2020-08-04T05:27:14+00:00

Some chicks will be more willing to take your virginity for the 'fuck it' aspect than not. Honestly just fuck a girl and do it well, go down on her w/e you have to do to make her shake- then she'll comment on how good it was, say, "well that was my first time so it's only going to get better from here" first plate out of the way.

JSJRB1492 · 2020-08-04T09:53:47+00:00

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In 6 months of consuming quality content daily, lifting, eating well and making bank, you won't remember your old self.

PatrickIIDX · 2020-08-04T10:42:45+00:00

The average 20 somethings today are still virgins. It's not like the 2000s and before where plenty of people lost their virginity by 25.

fartt123 · 2020-08-04T11:07:44+00:00

in so words. You have to know in your balls that you are better than her. Until then you'll just be helpless victim.

jm51 · 2020-08-04T13:11:45+00:00

Plenty of posts on here about post wall women looking for a beta provider. Women sometimes get back with their ex 'for the sake of the kids'.

How does that make the man feel?

She doesn't want him specifically. Any (almost socially acceptable) beta provider will do. In the 2nd case, she doesn't want him, what she wants is a dad for her kids.

You're the same. You don't want her specifically. Any (almost socially acceptable) wet hole will do. She must be thrilled knowing that. And she does know that. All women can spot that.

For now, go on dates and don't attempt to 'get fresh'. Have fun and find out if her company is worth your time. No trying to impress, that's her job.

Once you learn how to stop drooling over tits 'n ass, you will see them completely naked. Just like Shallow Hal did.

LongLiveDetroit · 2020-08-04T13:36:30+00:00

Bro hugh hefner was a virgin till 22 and then he went on to slay like hella hoes, I know that's a little younger but still would get called late by modern day society. You good as long you like don't make it a big deal yourself it won't be a big deal.

LateralThinker13 · 2020-08-04T14:29:30+00:00

If you're that worried, hire a professional.

Plazmatron44 · 2020-08-04T14:49:30+00:00

When you lose your virginity you don't become a superior person and sex as fun as it is should never be something to obsess about, you'll cause yourself more harm in pursuing low quality women to get sex than if you stayed a virgin and worked on yourself first.

adam-l · 2020-08-04T14:51:02+00:00

If being a virgin is what really holds you back, get a good prostitute and get on with it.

Next.

MGTOW_BEASTMODE · 2020-08-04T15:18:35+00:00

Lie.

goodboy3245 · 2020-08-04T17:51:22+00:00

Lol nobody can tell if you are a virgin or not. Just lie about it, if it helps. Makes no difference tbh.

FreeRangedBurrito · 2020-08-04T17:55:23+00:00

I’m waiting for marriage so I’m in the wrong post lol. Oddly though that’s not valued by women these days.

frognads · 2020-08-04T20:11:43+00:00

Lose the fat and lift, then you can overcome the shame by getting laid. Just be straight up to people e.g. "I'm going to the gym because I'm sick of being a virgin"

cvbnjk · 2020-08-05T16:43:52+00:00

Let me just start by saying you are on the right path. Every man has been where you are now and they've overcome it. So you shall as well.

Girls lose their viriginities at an earlier age for obvious reasons, don't compare yourself to them.

But you are on the right path, don't give up, and continue on that path. Imagine you go through hell working out, approaching dozens of girls, getting tons of rejections - imagine how much stronger you'll come out the other side

The girl who lost her virginity at age 13 could not even BEGIN to compare to you. To your strength. To your resilience. Keep going man and don't give up. Don't worry about being a virgin

And lastly, despite all the evidence you see in the media and hollywood TV/movie bullshit, it's better to not tell her at all of your v card. First of all, apparently viriginity is a social construct, so no need to tell others then. Second of all, the media would have you believe it's good to tell her and she'll "take care of you" or "show you how it's done" but that's not the case.

You might have to fumble through it at first but don't even worry about it. Read some books and articles to educate yourself and when the time comes, you'll actually find it went much better than you thought. Trust me bro, you will be fine.

AurelianFool · 2020-08-03T23:05:22+00:00

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Grave_Heresy · 2020-08-04T03:41:16+00:00

What you should do is focus on your career. Don't let FOMO take you off your purpose. Trust me, get a half-way decent job and start saving then investing 10% of your take home money in mutual funds. Get rid of any debt and keep working out.

The biggest mistake I made in the beginning was simping for these females. Bruh they're not going anywhere. The more money you have the better ones you can access. But most importantly is your physical appearance. F&ck, fashion, f%ck cars, f%ck jewelry. Looks are #1 money is #2 get both and you can literally have any female that you want. Hell you can have more than one. They'll share you if it means getting your commitment.

That being said, NEVER commit to any woman. Read "The Free Agent Lifestyle" by Coach Greg Adams.

jaznex · 2020-08-04T07:48:35+00:00

go fuck an escort and get that off your chest

VigilantSmartbomb · 2020-08-04T11:46:50+00:00

One of the biggest red pills is being comfortable with your own path

A lot of girls seethe over the opportunity to catch a virgin. They’re worse than guys lml

It’s not that big of a deal, except to you.

Just go get laid man, or go to an adult party advertised party and see wassup

No porn. Probably should just cut out masturbation too but once a week prolly fine

Title	Overcoming shame of being a virgin
Author	heavyappl
Upvotes	114
Comments	98
Date	August 3, 2020 10:34 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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