slept with a taken girl after much insisting on her part, now suffering the consequences.

mister_zd · 2013-10-15T11:34:07+00:00

Soon she'll be pressing charges for rape to make herself look good to her bf...

30303030303030 · 2013-10-15T09:23:45+00:00

Talk with a lawyer. Don't contact her, if she calls record. Write down names of all the witnesses. If you have any sms with "it was fun", "I'll see you soon" etc., keep them. If she messages you try to get her to talk about it, will prove that she remembers. DO NOT OFFER HER ANY MONEY.

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VaginalAssaultRifles · 2013-10-15T15:24:55+00:00

Well, the good news is that feminism assures me that false rape accusations only happen once every two or three years, so the rest of us are in the clear until 2015.

rebuildingMyself · 2013-10-15T10:53:28+00:00

"i normally wouldn't care but we have a lot of mutual friends that are female that are blatantly believing everything she's saying."

These sheep are not your friends. Maybe they are worth knowing but do not think of them as real friends.

fuk_offe · 2013-10-15T13:44:19+00:00

This is exactly why you record every random sexual encounter.

rebuildingMyself · 2013-10-15T12:22:15+00:00

She didn't tell him, he just knows how to get it out of her. She simply tacked on the "but I don't remember clearly" bs. Standard anti-slut hamstering.

browndelicious · 2013-10-15T14:18:10+00:00

This happened to me too, a long time ago.

When she started spreading her lies, it ruined a few of my friendships. They immediately assumed she was telling the truth. When her story kept changing, some came to me and apologized for believing her, but this was months later. The damage to my reputation had already been done.

The impact on me was significant. I changed my behavior around women and to this day, I won't have sex with a girl for the first time if we've been heavily drinking. Drunk sex sucks anyway, so no great loss.

Another rule is to NEVER help women cheat on their men. Flirting is fine, feel free to tease the shit of out them, but no making out with women who have husbands/boyfriends and absolutely no fucking.

When a woman claims sexual assault or rape, you will be GUILTY until proven innocent. Maybe not by a court, but her friends (and your mutual friends) will convict you in their minds. A false claim of rape/sexual assault is a crime but it's almost never prosecuted.

Luckyluke23 · 2013-10-15T09:41:13+00:00

she is doing this so she dosen't look like a slut. it's STANDARD anti slut defence.

just drop the girl and move on man. you got what you came for right?

OffensiveLineWriter · 2013-10-15T10:09:21+00:00

mutual friends that are female that are blatantly believing everything she's saying.

Don't respond to public personal attacks publicly because you are only a man and can't beat PC culture at it's own game.

Offer some willingness to tell selected few people that have trusted you in the past what happened in person and that should propagate further than addressing the witch hunt head on. But you should know that if they are banding together and sending hate your way without a fair representation of your side then they aren't mutual friends.

Next time come up with a playful euphemism in real life and when they have left, mention it again in a quick text, with a wink, that gets some sort of acknowledgement/reply.

Tastysalad101 · 2013-10-15T10:47:30+00:00

Try and get evidence that she does remember it.

Ethan47 · 2013-10-15T10:22:56+00:00

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the_red_scimitar · 2013-10-15T09:13:40+00:00

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McMurphyCrazy · 2013-10-15T10:31:43+00:00

Holy shit man. That's it, from now on I will be recording any encounters. Fuck that.

EDIT: To clarify, I am talking about audio recording of the consenting part.

FortunateBum · 2013-10-15T21:14:03+00:00

My advice would be to cut off ALL contact from her. Completely ignore any attempt on her part to communicate.

If any of your friends bring it up, in any tone, laugh like you heard the funniest joke in the world and then say, "no comment". Do not make any other statements or indications about the event.

The guys on here talking about lawyers and being paranoid, take them seriously. You might be getting a call from a police officer soon for your side of what happened. If you're slick, you'll be able to give him zero incriminating info. If you're not slick, you better refer him to your lawyer.

BTW, how do you happen to have those day after quotes from her? Second hand? Did she call you to bitch? If she called you, a cop was probably recording that call for evidence.

theCrazyRedhead1 · 2013-10-15T13:32:08+00:00

"Regret sex" is the most dangerous type of sex. Problem is, you can never see it coming. Talk to your mutual friends and give your side. As a woman, I know that most women are really quick to only listen and believe one side of the story. I'm sorry, but her "ripping off her clothes" sounds pretty fishy to me (set up?). Sorry you are going through this. Keep us updated, OP.

Pushnikov · 2013-10-15T17:12:10+00:00

Advice for what? To deal with her or the friends?

Your mutual friends probably aren't friends if they're not talking to you.

I would go straight to the boyfriend as a 'bro'. Tell him that she came onto you all night. He'll start to doubt her. Especially if you have any ammo that proves she's been doing this for a while, and why she would break up with him - personal info that only she would have told you. Then he'll probably take your side if you're convincing, kick her to the curb, and then your mutual friends will see this as proof that she's the culprit, and exonerate you.

Asimoff · 2013-10-16T19:10:32+00:00

This particular move is called "The Assange".

letmebeme · 2013-10-16T00:57:02+00:00

LAWYER. only talk to your lawyer. no one else not even her. what she is accusing you of is serious shit.

2013-10-16T01:43:22+00:00

Welcome to applying TRP to RL.

wildeep_MacSound · 2013-10-15T14:12:52+00:00

Go to the police immediately and tell them you're afraid she's going to make a false report against you.

Show them the texts and communications prior to the confession to the BF.

the_red_scimitar · 2013-10-15T13:35:21+00:00

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McMurphyCrazy · 2013-10-15T12:32:52+00:00

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thegman84 · 2013-10-15T14:20:06+00:00

How do you know the mutual friends believe her?

Have they directly confronted you about it, or are you getting all of this through the grape vine?

stalinbaby · 2013-10-15T15:44:43+00:00

When you tell the story to anyone, don't go saying you had a wild night of fucking. She's making herself to be a little innocent angel, and if you put it on that perspective, it will seem like you're calling her a slut. You want to put the sex on a positive light.

Tell it like a romance writer. Say that you had been flirting for long, and tell the part where she was about to break up with her bf. There's probably easier evidence of this than of the sex, too, in the form of texts, FB messages and the likes. Then, for the sex, you tell that you "made love," passionately if you will. People will get your point that she was having doubts about her relationship, but it won't feel like she's just a slut who cheated on her bf (although she is). She might even admit it if you put it this way.

Just beware that she doesn't try to swing branches to you after she breaks up with her beta provider.

bigdawg54 · 2013-10-15T14:18:41+00:00

well, it's your word against hers.

Drvibe · 2013-10-15T12:25:13+00:00

Sounds like your both trying to put the blame on each other for what went down. xD

Laughing_Jelly_Bean · 2013-10-15T17:08:29+00:00

OP, did you tell your friends about it? Because if you didn't, it seems to me that you can pull the "wasn't me" card. Just say, "wow she doesn't remember the evening? I wonder who she went home with because it wasn't me. Poor girl."

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Date	October 15, 2013 8:54 AM UTC (12 years ago)
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