I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?

pinkdrawings · 2017-06-22T03:32:54+00:00

Sending nudes or sexting (with a man you are not in a relationship with) is a slut tell. If you do it for him he will wonder how many others.

Edit: Clarity. I failed to assume context (we know better) since this is RPW.

Juk9876 · 2017-06-22T01:36:46+00:00

In my opinion yes, but I sympathize about how hard it is for women to hold off sex nowadays. If I was a single woman I would probably try to find a relationship in a religious environment, because on a secular context the idea of holding off sex too much these days is too difficult.

RedPillWonder · 2017-06-22T03:47:10+00:00

If you're doing it over text/phone, it likely won't be long before you're doing it in person.

Wait on sex.

scallopkid · 2017-06-22T17:44:11+00:00

Like another user said, if you're sexting a guy but not sleeping with him, you will constantly have to deescalate when you are on a date with him, because you have already taken it to that level over the phone. Intimacy is intimacy so you should probably vet more first.

RubyWooToo · 2017-06-22T15:15:55+00:00

Why would you send nudes to a guy you're just getting to know?

teaandtalk · 2017-06-22T02:17:10+00:00

Yes. The same logic applies. He begins to see you as just a sexual object, a conquest, and loses interest in getting to know you. Furthermore, this often involves pictures nowadays and if he's able to see pictures of your breast without commitment, how many other guys still have similar photos?

Of course, it's also super risky to give anyone nude photos and I wouldn't even send my husband one, not that he'd ask.

[deleted] · 2017-06-22T08:10:13+00:00

I am against sending nudes to anyone, even if we are dating. It's just risky and demeaning.

soxychamp · 2017-06-22T19:49:36+00:00

In a trusty and loving relationship:

Sexy clothed photos, with purpose of showing off body or clothes (lingerie etc): yes

Phone sex: yes for LDR

Nudes: nope never, sorry luv

Guy you're just casually dating / he is spinning other plates:

No sir you get nothing sexy from me unless you make the time and effort to see me person lol

AlphaWeaboo · 2017-06-22T02:25:29+00:00

I think these things are all mind games. If a guy sees you as a sex object, just waiting things out for a few days isn't going to make an impact. In my opinion, he either respects you or he doesn't. Time won't change his perspective of you or how he treats people.

teaandtalk · 2017-06-23T03:10:32+00:00

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Landry86 · 2017-06-22T15:11:08+00:00

I think this definitely applies to the "everything but" slut concept

binrobinro · 2017-06-23T04:27:28+00:00

Yes.

somebody_iswatching · 2017-06-26T06:28:22+00:00

As stated by someone more intelligent than I am everything you say and do will be used against you and you have the right to remain silent. Remember that screenshotting is a thing and guys usually like to send photos they get or I'm sorry tokens they get two other men. Or sometimes they sell the photos for profit who knows. Point is that you might put yourself in a situation you might not want to be in in a future where you have career options and money to get blackmailed out of. So nude photos and s****** is a no no. As far as common sense goes anyways. As they say in the original redpill post masturbate first and maybe think about it afterwards.

AlphaWeaboo · 2017-06-22T03:05:05+00:00

No high value man would.consent to phone sex. Sensual pics and videos sure, if its long distance. No need to be raunchy

Title	I know the advice is often to hold off having sex with a guy you're dating for a bit, does that apply to doing it over text/phone?
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Date	June 22, 2017 12:06 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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