How do you keep yourself up each day?

U_Can_Have_The_Crown · 2017-09-15T11:10:07+00:00

I know this will sound totally agonizing since you are a new mom who probably sleeps less as it is, but the biggest thing that changed me was getting up earlier . My son typically gets up around 7-8 so I get up at 5. This gives me time to be totally alone (husband leaves anywhere between 5-6). During this time I'll have my coffee, sometimes do a quick at home workout, shower, do my skincare routine, get dressed, do my makeup and just be alone and get myself together before my little one wakes and it's full on go time. It gives me a little bit of freedom to do things I enjoy too like reading or watching a show I like, being on Reddit etc. It has singlehandedly had the biggest impact on my life and well being. It's hard at first but once you get through the first week your body starts to wake earlier naturally and you really start to enjoy the time.

est-la-lune · 2017-09-15T15:47:20+00:00

I actually prioritize doing my hair over my makeup. Unless you have severe acne or scarring, a little bit of mascara and concealer can go a long way. It's better for your skin and reduces the impact of your skincare routine.

I wash my hair every 2-3 days. Dry shampoo and a quick touch-up with the dryer is usually enough to rescue my hair for day 2/3.

I highly suggest optimizing your routine. Do meal prep on Sundays for the whole family. Do outfit prep for the week on laundry day. Put your coffee machine on a timer, get up every morning at 5 AM, and go for a quick run. The best routine is a routine you can stick to, and you need trial-and-error to find the best one.

vanBeethovenLudwig · 2017-09-15T10:21:36+00:00

Discipline. Sorry, there's just no way around it. Look at it like brushing your teeth. You just have to do it, there's no "motivation" to brush your teeth (well besides not getting cavities). Stop thinking about it so much and simply do it.

Drink lots of water when you're busy to stay functional and hydrated.

Pink_182 · 2017-09-15T14:38:20+00:00

Disclaimer: I am not a mom, and I feel like that baby is going to totally change your time management, so this advice may not be applicable.

I think you should downsize your "getting ready" routine and simplify it. So if doing your hair every day just isn't going to happen, find a way for it to overnight style, or air dry ready. Or look for some cute up dos. This pinterest page has a bunch of really simple, casual up dos that no one would say are you not getting ready. I would also check out some of those as seen on TV hair things. I have this one and this one both of which create 3 second instant chic styles when my hair is wet or dry.

For your skin care, get your serums, creams, and lotions all together and organized. Have them arranged in the order you use them. Most of the time spent on skin care is spent figuring out what you need and where it is. Most people have a lopsided routine- they do more in the morning or more at night. Set your routine up for when you have more time. So if you typically get up before the baby, do more in the morning. If you typically go to sleeep after the baby, do more then. From your post, it seems like mornings are harder so break it down to the basics. Wash your face/shower, put on your favorite serum and add a lotion with sun screen. Everything else can happen at night.

For your make up, again, distill it down to the basics. I tend to wear a lot of make up, but have a go to routine for when I've got no time. Some of this is having the right products. I know women who have to layer two types of foundation and then add powder to get the look they want- no. Just go spend more on an all in one foundation and then touch up with powder if needed. Even better if you can find a tinted moisturizer with spf in it- then you replace your lotion with spf with this and have saved a step. I also think you should look into long wear make up- if you're someone who needs to do their eyebrows every day, look at getting them tinted at a salon. Look at eye lash extensions/dye to avoid the mascara train every day. Some places even offer permanent blush. When my sister had kids, she went to a plastic surgeon for the tattooed on eyeliner and blush. She goes to the salon once a month to get her eyebrows and lashes done. Now she doesn't do her make up every day, but always looks put together. Kind of an extreme option, but one I will definitely consider.

Pick a day of the week as your prep day. On that day, get everything planned for the following week. Check the weather, and plan out 7 cute outfits (and if you live in a place where the weather can turn any second like I do) an alternative outift. I redesigned my closet to have an outfit prep station. Its basically just a bay in which move clothes I'm planning to wear in the coming week. It has a shelf for shoes, a hook for a bag, and a command hook (I still need smaller hooks) for any jewlery. Since I started doing this, my outfits got 200% cuter. When you aren't trying to put the thing on, I feel like you're more likly to scale up and put more effort in. It also helps me plan the week so that I have a unique look each day. I got the idea from this kids set up. Example 2. I would take a picutre of mine, but I'm at work. It really isn't as hard as it sounds and is such a life saver for me.

On your planning day, meal prep. I see a lot of people who do this to make sure they have tons of dinner options ready. But for me, a healthy hot dinner is never hard. I struggle with literally everything else- quick and healthy breakfasts, lunches, and snacks, particularly for 1. So meal planning is esential. If you have healthy options, you won't reach for crap just because it is easier- its no longer easier! Check oout this breakfast page, lunch page, and snacks page. I think one of the big things that has helped me is investing in a lot of tupperware. That way I can plan out everything into individual portions and have it sitting in the fridge ready to go.

How to budget time for working out could be its on mammoth of a post. But I will say this- you find time for what is important to you. So schedule the big stuff that matters, and fill in the rest. This page has a lot of different workout moves you can do while holding your baby.

So my last tip would be to get a day planner, and pencil in your big things. What time are you getting up? When are you showering? What is your "get ready time"? When do you need to feed the baby so that the shower/get ready can happen? What is breakfast time? What is lunch time? What is your work out time? What time do you need to start dinner?

I think if you map it out on paper, it will help. Sorry this comment got so long!

SouthernAthena · 2017-09-17T02:51:22+00:00

Apart from meals, I definitely go for the simplist possible approach for all of the above (I love cook, also I don't have a baby). My hair is a wild mane naturally so I just have to embrace it (too much styling looks weird, and my man doesn't like the feel of lots of product), but a comb and a few clips or bobby pins and no more than 5 minutes can produce a cute hairstyle.

My makeup tends to only take 5 min too (concealer and a touch of eye makeup). My exercise tends to be brisk walking around the neighborhood for several miles while talking on the phone (you could bring the baby with you) and I've thought about introducing some sprints. I don't get too caught up in the fitness fads; if you think about it, our grandmothers never "worked out." They were simply active walking around and doing housework.

My skincare routine is just washing my face with an oil blend I mix and a weekly facial mask. If you go to r/SkincareAddiction you can get advice on all that. I honestly take maybe 15 min to get ready on a typical day, and while I may not look like a newscaster, but I think I do okay. You don't have to contour your face and do a 2 hr workout every day to be beautiful.

dashdotdott · 2017-09-15T15:17:30+00:00

Turtles are great

rivertorain · 2017-09-15T12:27:54+00:00

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Atomicbebe · 2017-09-15T14:38:44+00:00

being a new mom was the most exhausting time of my life. You need to take multivitamins. You have to take really good care of yourself and get proper rest.

xBreakFreex · 2017-09-15T06:45:47+00:00

Good questions - I have no idea, not being a mother. But I feel like some elements of scheduling and routines would work - schedule in self-care time and stick to it. I also think elements of minimalism can help make things easier - make a capsule wardrobe, makeup and hair routine. Minimise things to ease the stress.

RoseCatK · 2017-09-15T22:57:37+00:00

I have teenagers, that's how. Lol. Just wait it out. It gets better.

nonamanuensis · 2017-09-15T17:13:44+00:00

With a new baby it's all the minimum. I had four kids in less than 6 years so here is my advice:

Ask your husband what he expects for all of this stuff and that will help you focus. Other women's opinions and trends don't really matter unless your husband is into status and then I guess you'll just have to make it work as hopefully that was clear when you got married. I am very minimal with all of this stuff and my husband loves how I look and very much appreciates that it takes me very little time to get ready to go anywhere. If your husband does prefer a high maintenance look then I suggest it's worth it when you talk to show you clearly WANT to look good for him but there has to be some compromise in some area, you can show him through your actions that you are prioritizing what he thinks is most important. It gets easier as the kids get older but young kids are survival mode and great for making life more efficient.

I put on makeup for work but it's just powder on some areas and then mascara. If I want to do more I take another minute and put on eyeliner and some eyeshadow. (My husband thinks makeup is completely unnecessary and the trends age people terribly so I don't wear it except to work. I don't understand why daily makeup would ever take more than 5 minutes - it's always mystified me.)
My skin looks its best when I sleep well and eat/drink enough. (I am of no help to you here because even if there is a skincare habit, I don't know why it would take much to add it to a dental habit am and pm.)
Sleep is the most important thing you can give yourself. I don't mean sleeping in - I mean getting on a consistent schedule as soon as you can and allow yourself afternoon naps if possible. Don't stay up late - the only reason to stay up after the baby goes to sleep is to have sex with your husband or maybe read. My first baby was mildy colicky and we were running on sleep deprivation for a looooong time. She didn't sleep through the night until after she was a year old - so I know it's torture. Make your sleep schedule as consistent as possible with what your baby lets you do. Sleep affects energy, weight, mood, and appearance like nothing else so make it a priority.
Don't fight your hair - if it's frizzy it may be that the clip is harming the ends? I'd find a hairdresser that can give you a cut you can wash and wear. What does your husband like?
Keep your house stocked with tasty food (good and some "junk") and relax. Meal plan to get some routines in place for meals. Have a rotation of breakfast and lunch options that you and the family enjoy and are easy. Ask your husband what his favorite meals are and include them regularly (if you haven't already).
Find a movement activity you love to do and keep it up. If it's no longer enjoyable find a new activity. It is my plea to you from experience to please don't become obsessed with losing the weight as weight loss killed my libido and it wasn't worth it to my husband at all. I don't think in the end that the importance is the weight, it's about how YOU FEEL as a woman and the signals you give off for encouraging your husband to flirt and receive his flirtations. These links from the sidebar are what I would give to all new moms: http://archive.is/wj7ZU from the post https://www.reddit.com/r/RedPillWomen/comments/4svyjc/sad_sexless_mom_follows_rpwcompatible_advice_and/ I am NOT saying give up and go frumpy but you will need to learn to feel attractive and flirt even as you pass The Wall and move into Motherhood.
FLIRT WITH YOUR HUSBAND AND KEEP THE MARRIAGE BED ALIVE - it doesn't matter if you look awesome but you tell your husband you're too tired or rebuff his advances. Get a date night in place as soon as you can and by date I mean spend time together doing something pleasant and have sex before or after. If you only want to flirt when you look "perfect" that will be a problem.

Congrats on the baby!

Title	How do you keep yourself up each day?
Author	peppermint_queen
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Date	September 15, 2017 3:54 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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