Let’s Talk About the “Pick Me” Females

If we’re gonna talk about “Pick Me” women, we’ll need to define what a pick me is. I’ll give a few examples of “shit pick me women say” and I’m sure you can come up with your own definition. You’ve probably seen some of these quotes or a variation of them before:

“You hos can’t fix a plate, go out to the club, and wonder why your ass is single.”

“Fake weave, fake nails, fake boobs, yet you want a real man, good luck with that sweetie!”

“You gold diggers can keep your $200 dates, I’m fine with nights in with Bae :)”

“I can hold us down if money gets tight, Bae, I’m not like these hoes”

“When a real woman finds out you have a side chick, she’d apologize for not being all the woman you need.”

“It might be 100F outside but I’m still wearing long sleeves and a turtleneck cuz at least I have self respect, unlike these modern females”

“I don’t care if he sleeps around, I know who he comes home to!!”

Synonyms for a Pick Me- bottom bitch, “cool girl,” try-hard

What do pick me’s have in common?

1. Pick me’s have no self respect. This one is ironic because having self respect is exactly what pick me’s claim. Pick me’s let men walk all over them and treat them like doormats. Anything a man (any man really) claims to want or claims that men want, the pick me automatically adopts as LAW. “All men cheat, it’s just how men are, we can’t/don’t want to be monogamous.” Ok bae. “Females these days asking to be taken out to dinner, these hoes greedy as shit.” Lol I know bae! The pick me feels so lucky to have been chosen that she conforms to whatever “bae” tells her regardless of her own thoughts or feelings.

2. Pick me’s have no standards. We all know having standards is important and we shouldn’t settle for mistreatment. Where the pick me goes wrong here is that she conflates having standards with being “high maintenance” or being a gold digger. Pick me’s fail to realize that “a hard working man on the come up is different from a bum just looking for a come up.” This makes pick me’s excellent candidates to be plates.

3. Pick me’s feel they are superior to other women and put other women down. And they just need to let everyone on their timeline know just how superior they are to “these hos.” The pick me woman isn’t “like other girls.” She’s a cool girl, she’s down for whatever. She’s not “high maintenance.” She doesn’t mind paying on dates, paying bae’s car loan, giving him cash when he’s “in trouble.”

4. Pick me’s don’t understand what men actually want. Example: I remember sitting in class in HS and the group starts talking about one of the the Kardashian/Jenner girls. One of the girls in the class says, “She’s pretty but shes so fake, she’s had so much work done.” Immediately, one of the guys replies, “So? She still looks hot.” And all the other guys agreed. The pick me’s lack of understanding shows through the most when she sees a “bad” woman with a “good man.” “I’m prettier than her, how come I’m single and she’s with him?” “I’ve only slept with x guys and she’s a slut, why am I single?” “She’s so fat, and he keeps so fit. How did she land a man?!”

So if I had to sum this all up into a short definition, I’d say a pick me is a woman who tries so hard to “get chose”, that she thinks getting chosen as a plate is an accomplishment.

But wait a second! This is RPW, aren’t we all tryna get chose here? We all want a man right? Does that make us pick me females?

The difference between RPW and pick me’s is that RPW have boundaries, standards, and understanding of the male POV.

RPW don’t accept “come over & chill” as a real date and we know that refusing “come over & chill” isn’t “gold digging.” A man taking you out is a measure of his willingness to put in effort, regardless of expense.

RPW don’t accept excuses for poor behaviors. If a guy says “All men cheat. Deal with it. Everyone’s into open relationships these days. I have needs.” A RPW won’t stay with that person if an open relationship isn’t what she knows she wants. And she sure as hell won’t take his word as law and lower her standards going forward.

RPW understand that looking pretty is important, and guys don’t care if it is fake as long as it doesn’t look obviously fake, but it can only take you so far. No one wants to take a pretty flower that smells like crap into the house. Personality and girl game are key.

And most importantly IMO, RPW don’t put other women down or feel superior to others. Putting others down is a sign of insecurity and lack of self confidence, two traits that RPW work towards fixing.

TL;DR Don’t get so caught up in “getting chose” that you lower your standards and become a hater.