What's a good way to make friends and meet girls?

oyoungpadawan · 2018-06-04T02:34:31+00:00

Same, we had a very tight big group of friends and I saw them drop out one by one to depression, drugs, workaholics, married with children etc.

Only some of the boring ones with 0 ambitions or hobbies still want to meet to 'just hang'.

And I had to cut some of those.

I made some new friends due to new hobbies and courses.

It takes time, just be open to social contact, and if you meet someone that's cool just ask them along somewhere.

It's a snowball effect, it starts slow but eventually you'll know many people again.

Barkingtaco · 2018-06-04T04:23:45+00:00

Rock climbing!!

OrpheusV · 2018-06-04T03:12:58+00:00

Got a hobby? There's probably a local group on meetup that you can easily hang out with. It's a bit of a shot, but look into an events/adventures group. Cheesy advertising on the radio aside, there are a lot of singles there, and in my experience women tend to be a bit more reasonable on that front.

Being alone isn't a way to live.

Sero-Flex · 2018-06-04T04:57:39+00:00

For making new friends, I can’t recommend joining a martial arts gym enough. My gym is the most positive learning environment I’ve ever been in and you meet at least one new person every class who has the same desire to improve themselves as you do.

MarvelousWhale · 2018-06-04T03:56:33+00:00

Not sure how sociable you are but I've already met a dozen fantastic people through driving for Uber and Lyft part time and I throw darts/shoot pool at some local bars and meet people that way.

Just passive things like this I have been able to maintain meeting new people weekly, as opposed to the stressfulness of actually going out of your way to intentionally meet people which makes it a bit disingenuous to me as well...

Ymmv

Effinmothereffer · 2018-06-04T04:36:12+00:00

Running clubs, Bicycle riding meet-ups, tennis leagues, beach volley ball, "meet up" app, continuing Ed classes, "volunteer" at festivals, habitat for humanity builds, Chamber of Commerce usually has "business after hours" social events, most cities have a "music or social scene" newspaper that publishes concerts, festivals, and fairs...get outside.

jizzonmypants · 2018-06-04T02:34:06+00:00

Gym, take dance classes or any other classes you may like, some cultural events can be used to socialize

[deleted] · 2018-06-04T03:27:08+00:00

making friends is a great way to meet girls

Merwebb · 2018-06-04T06:40:19+00:00

Even more difficult at 30 when they all start raising kids and you stay a bachelor. Their whole world revolves around kids, including social lives.

At 40,I find the need to hang with young 20 something's because the haven't yet fallen into the boring suburban trap.

rodrigomlp · 2018-06-04T02:51:43+00:00

Dance Classes

orezavi · 2018-06-04T03:06:34+00:00

Spend a little time with a group of outdoor hobbyists.

[deleted] · 2018-06-04T05:54:53+00:00

One way I meet a lot of people is by finding local events, such as open mic nights, local bands etc. and meeting people there. If you’re more of the artistic type this will be right up your alley, and many if the women are interesting. They also tend to be a little kinky. The guys I’ve met at events like these are a mixed bag. Some are lazy drug users, while others are incredibly driven businessmen that are intrigued by the arts or passionate about them.

trtanon · 2018-06-04T07:12:57+00:00

Do you want to meet girls while making friends? Join RSD group on FB in your area. In the two big cities I've lived, there were some incredibly motivated and ambitious guys on there that went sarging at least once a week. You'll have a gigantic circle of friends with a couple months on those groups. I met some fantastic people through those groups.

As far as just meeting single women, if you don't want to cold approach, beginner dance nights are actually as close as it comes to cheating. Line dancing, salsa, latin. You'd have to be downright retarded not to get laid if you go to them consistently. Girls have to touch you, and they keep touching you if they like you. No approach or balls necessary.

Read oldschool game. Don't be a AFC. Every goddamned night I go out I see the most disgusting approaches ever. Compliments and drink buying galore. These dudes are going to die virgins. It's not hard to learn game. GAME IS EASY. Read a book.

talexanderc · 2018-06-04T02:02:16+00:00

Community service Go to church Meet people at the gym Hangout with people you work with

True_Racer · 2018-06-04T02:39:33+00:00

Running groups are great for both. You can find them easily on the MeetUp app

AlfredKinsey · 2018-06-04T08:01:17+00:00

Leave your house, go somewhere crowded or at least with quite a few people, then approach and engage. Bring friends if you feel like it, as that can make it more fun and casual.

Honestly, the specifics of where you can meet people are so varied that this general guideline serves just as well in their stead. You can go fucking bowling or raving or buy a sandwich. The mall or a museum is a great place to practice game because they have people coming in and out all day.

I saw a guy on campus brute force this philosophy in a ridiculous way recently, but it worked. He just held a sign that said: "I'm trying to make new friends, but not great at socializing. Let's talk." I was skating nearby and watched him sit there, chatting people up. He got my number, along with others.

My last pick up was at a drumming competition and the girl wasn't even watching the drumming competition, but eating chips around the corner. I walked around somewhat aimlessly after the competition, saw a friend and a former student, and then saw this girl. I would not have talked with any of these people if I didn't allow myself to just be there, enjoying the scenery. Two weeks before this, I'd met the girl at a house party and gotten to know her well enough to connect quickly and comfortably on this second meeting. So, there's two places: music events/local festivals and parties.

I'd also say athletic activities (participate or spectating); intellectual gatherings (lectures, workshops, readings, etc.); adventure/entertainment spots like amusement parks, casinos, trails; swimming spots; I'm an atheist, but church actually is a good place to meet people; volunteering; work; the list goes on. There are a lot of places to meet people, but I understand that the world can be lonely sometimes.

amn301 · 2018-06-04T15:20:38+00:00

For friends - hobbies. I run and cycle and I know most of the runners and cyclist in the town.

For girls - volunteering. I organize amateur running races, I do city guiding and organize a language club. A lot of girls love the idea of volunteering and as an organizer you already have the social status and you are the leader. You also do something great for the world at the same time.

ybcurious93 · 2018-06-04T13:02:58+00:00

Damn this is literally me. College/HS were easy because I was an athlete. However most of them moved away,became bums, too beta/whipped

MattyAnon · 2018-06-04T16:44:09+00:00

Over the years, since high school, everyone has moved, or gotten addicted to drugs, or is homeless or in jail and I have cut ties with all of them.

In life you need to constantly meet new friends. Real life is nothing like school - you don't automatically meet friends. It's something you actively need to do for most people.

You're right about friends at work. Keep that separate.

My only real 'extra-curricular' activity is going to the gym to lift.

The problem is that you're not meeting new people in a way that you could start to build friendships, you know this.

The solution is to be doing the things that gets you meeting someone like minded people. You're never going to find people "just to hang with". You have to be doing something and meet people on a similar journey as you (should be something you genuinely like), AND you make an effort to convert the people you meet to friends.

RPlife26 · 2018-06-04T17:11:51+00:00

Swing dancing. A great way to meet tens of women every night out and socialize. If you are in a major western city there has to be swing dance venues where you can take classes. They are cheap and a great way to have fun plus meet lots of people

diggrecluse · 2018-06-04T07:03:22+00:00

I'm in a similar place. You just have to get out there and socialize. Get hobbies, go out solo to bars/clubs/parks/meetup.com/whatever if you have to. Talk to everyone everywhere, grocery store, your local neighborhood, etc. Be the fun guy who's always upbeat and doesn't give a fuck.

So far I've made one solid friend doing this - as in a person I actually hang out with outside our shared hobby/whatever. It's not easy but that's the biggest redpill of them all isn't it? It's all up to you to make shit happen in this life.

RaughKee · 2018-06-04T09:42:28+00:00

Join a co-ed volleyball league. Do stuff through Meetup

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-06-04T11:19:17+00:00

My advice; a) pub crawl b) active hobby (e.g., mountain biking, running, etc.), and c) classes you are interested in (photography, etc.)

Good friends are hard to find, good women even harder.

Jsieijejeieokkd · 2018-06-04T11:20:29+00:00

You have to put yo twelfth out there, talk to everyone.

I collect friends and colleagues like are or baseball cards. Naturally some are better than others.

IncognitoMaster91 · 2018-06-04T13:54:27+00:00

It's the same thing on my mind. But I'm looking for good quality friends...the ones with ambition and good habits...unfortunately those you don't find just anywhere....idk.

NewBoomAction · 2018-06-04T15:21:31+00:00

I had to learn how to become the guy who organizes shit first and invites ppl.

meaningintragedy · 2018-06-04T15:49:54+00:00

Meetups.

dutchgguy · 2018-06-04T06:17:54+00:00

Going out

Title	What's a good way to make friends and meet girls?
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Date	June 4, 2018 1:55 AM UTC (8 years ago)
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