When I was young I literally was the most confident kid. I read that kids are naturally pretty narcissistic and stoic. It must have been beaten out of me, I would talk to everybody and everything was chill.

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Now I have developed an inferiority complex and unless I perfect every single dimension about myself I feel as though I am not good enough.

Example: I might like a girl I need to look right have low body fat and approach then even when I approach I feel inferior due to lack of social circle so it forces me to make a lot of friends and not only that when it comes to sex I feel inadequate so I am researching all these methods. Also I have strong OCD which causes doubt.

Although its great to use insecurity as an weapon but only if its something that you want.

I see this in a lot of introverted men too. Like bodybuilding or look ism or some bs like that. Although my mindset isn't toxic like those guys .

I feel as though social media has ruined the outlook on life. Although subreddits are great some are toxic and when like minded people join together it only reinforces negative beliefs that are never true? I see that bodybuilding forums they keep complaing most girls are sloots but that's not the reality, most girls I know even the hottest ones, btw I am 21 are in long term even when I tinder I ask they said they only hooked up once and got annoyed of the men on there and quit. The girls that go around are usually either extremely extroverted girls like waitresses or work in the entertainment industry or girls with insecurity issues.

Social media made men think that everyone is out there have orgies and insane lifestyle which causes a cognitive distortion since guys like me lack real life experience and we believe everything on the internet. Its social control, we feel inadequate as a man so our own masculinity and libido attacks our own ego.

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IDK, talked with this guy at my school who is getting a phd in psychology I chat a lot about. IDK even if this is the right subreddit but yeah.