“YoU dOnT LiStEn!1!”

_jellybeanqueen_ · 2021-04-27T19:43:59+00:00

I hate this because it's true, it's often a reflection of how controlling a guy is because he thinks he's entitled to your physical and psychological being. I legit cringe with disgust when I think about guys like this.

There was a comment a user shared a while back about respect and how one side sees respect as being treated as a human and the other sees respect as authority and if you deny the authoritarian respect they refuse to treat you like a human, so yeah they don't respect you as a human being because you refuse to recognize their unearned authority

HeavyMetalLobster · 2021-04-27T21:25:17+00:00

Manipulation aside, because that’s a whole different tangent:

I’ve repeated, word for word, what a man says to me back to him, only to have him exclaim ”Nooo, not that!!” and re-explain differently. Then I say THE EXACT WORDS he said FIRST and suddenly it’s right 🤦‍♀️

Even if you’re completely accurate, understand 100% —-

men perceive everything you say and do through a filter of “wOmEnZ dUmB” and think that you are thinking the worst and/or most dumb possible way to perceive whatever it is you’re perceiving.

YOU 👏 CANNOT 👏 ARGUE 👏 WITH 👏 MEN 👏 WHO 👏 THINK 👏 OF 👏 YOU 👏 LIKE 👏 THIS 👏

At the end of the day, this man does not respect you as your own person.

🎯

He doesn’t understand who or what you are, because to him women are akin to animals. The core of his issue is misogyny.

This is why FDS preaches to BLOCK, DELETE, & LEAVE THESE MEN BE!! Don’t talk to them. Don’t “clap back” or try and educate them. Just 👻, leave him in his emotional squalor, and level up.

gcsubthrow · 2021-04-27T23:38:52+00:00

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FabledAngryVillager · 2021-04-27T23:08:32+00:00

"Women do this, too." I know some scrotes and pickmes are breaking their arms from patting themselves on the back from their libfem logic.

Context is important. I know I'm not the only woman who has asked or explained something nicely 10 times, then firmly 5 more times, then blow up. I could draw a diagram, men would still be obtuse and put the mental load on me.

These scrotes (LVM, obligatory NAMALT) are just so lazy at best and covert narcs at worst. You'll go insane trying to reason with them. Their pickme friends will only enable them.

Block and delete them from your life if you can. Not worth it.

CuntWaffe · 2021-04-28T00:04:54+00:00

I don't know if this is similar, but whenever a guy says "You're missing the point." What point? They don't even know the point they are trying to make.

shoesfromparis135 · 2021-04-27T20:50:46+00:00

You have no idea how much this post means to me today. Thank you.

BiscuitWoof · 2021-04-28T01:50:36+00:00

Omg. Lightbulb moment. For me it’s always you having to defer to their opinion on how you should handle that situation. You don’t listen = why don’t you just do what I say.

I used to reply why do I have to listen? Why do I have to do what you say? Enraged them, the fragile little creatures.

basicbagels · 2021-04-27T23:32:45+00:00

Wow.. I never thought of it that way but you are so right! Thank you for opening my eyes 💗

Pasdepromesses · 2021-04-28T12:00:45+00:00

Spot on! Men use this as a way to oppress you, it's literally only used in situations where they want to control you.

I'm a textbook Gemini, I can't shut-up about myself and my interests/hobbies and have to really make an effort to listen and hear the other person. I know this about myself and try to do my best with friends, family and colleagues.

If a guy started to show me some pink flags LV behaviour though, I stopped listening. Sometimes even when they were okay, but just really boring or annoying. Either with texting or in real life, I totally zoned out and didn't gaf. In those instances, guys always tried harder. Never have I heard the 'you're not listening' when I was actually not listening.

Edit: also, it's no use to explain to them that you are - in fact - listening. I used to say something like 'I understand that you say XYZ and I hear you, I just don't agree because of ABC'. That only got me labelled 'difficult'. Men who argue this way are LV and you're better off avoiding them.

searchingforjupiter · 2021-04-28T07:54:39+00:00

From my NV ex, “you don’t listen” came in two varieties: either before or after “don’t you dare talk to me like that”.

gcsubthrow · 2021-04-28T03:01:16+00:00

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thehappiestelephant · 2021-04-28T14:35:38+00:00

I absolutely raked my ex over the coals for this. I asked him a clarifying question in the middle of a heated discussion and he came back with "you don't listen!"

He got an earful about how that was bullshit and he knew it, because how could I have asked a clarifying question if I didn't listen to what he'd just said hmm? I flat out told him, no he's just upset that I didn't immediately grasp his meaning, and maybe that means he's not communicating as clearly as he thinks.

It's all projection. He wasn't listening to me, so he assumed I was the same.

Title	“YoU dOnT LiStEn!1!”
Author	gcsubthrow
Upvotes	235
Comments	27
Date	April 27, 2021 6:50 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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men perceive everything you say and do through a filter of “wOmEnZ dUmB” and think that you are thinking the worst and/or most dumb possible way to perceive whatever it is you’re perceiving.