How can I begin working on myself to feel worthy of a HVM?

MirriMazDuur · 2021-04-19T19:51:07+00:00

Age? Hobbies? Studies? I thought I was awkward and different too before I went to art school, then I just found myself between a bunch of ok people who also thought themselves as awkward and different

merabaid · 2021-04-20T00:42:20+00:00

I think the first thing to do is ask yourself what you mean by "High value man" and why you want that type of man. This means different things to different people and the reasons can vary as much as that's what I think I should want to very specific reasons.

Other than that I'd just work on your own mental health and worry about men later. You also mention a "good man" this is also a relative term. Find out what the specifics are that you really want.

There's nothing wrong with being eccentric or bookish, you don't need to dull yourself or change into someone else, you simply need to become more comfortable in who you, build a support system around you (2 people is enough if they're really great).

Having a hobby where you're involved with other people could help you get the experience you need.

Whisper · 2021-04-20T03:15:42+00:00

You don't have to "feel worthy".

Just because a man has to be confident to attract you doesn't mean you have to be confident to attract a man. Men and women are different.

A man doesn't need you to agree that you are worthy of him. He just has to decide you are. Let him decide, instead of pre-disqualifying yourself.

WhatIsThisAccountFor · 2021-04-20T01:04:17+00:00

What do the girls who you think are worthy of a man look like (both physically and mentally)?

The best way to feel worthy of what you want is to try to be more like people who you perceive as worthy of what you want.

If you believe women worthy of HVM’s get straight A’s? Study more in school.

If you believe they’re a certain weight or body fat percentage? Work out and watch your diet more.

If you believe they’re more friendly and warm? Force yourself into social circles til you can learn to be that way

If you believe certain hobbies are more desireable? Learn them.

Make a list of what women who deserve high value men look like and try to work to be as much like that list as possible.

Good luck!

WhiskeyJack1717 · 2021-04-20T00:36:55+00:00

I'm not sure if men are allowed to comment but what it sounds like all you need to do is put yourself out there socially more. It sounds like you use a large friend group as some kind of validation. It is way more important to have a small group of friends that HAVE YOUR BACK just as much as you have theirs. And the whole not having a ton of relationships is HUGE good. All you need to do is locate a good man for you and let him do his thing and lead. Also make sure you're pretty, pleasant, and present whenever he wants to spend time with you and one day you'll never be single again until you're old and he dies first cause that is just the way she goes for men.

From a dude that one day will be HV. Figuring it out as I go.

PrincessaRusalka · 2021-04-20T01:42:01+00:00

Invest in yourself. Work out, try on clothes, do your makeup. Depends on what you want to change really. Ask yourself and your peers about your faults and work on those. Be brutally honest. I’ve been doing that the past few years and I like myself more. Self awareness is key.

LateralThinker13 · 2021-04-19T20:41:29+00:00

Step 1: Learn/ask what men value in women.

Step 2: Pick what parts you wish to embrace and become them. Drop focus on the parts that don't matter to men that you don't really care about.

3: Profit.

CrazyHorseInvincible · 2021-04-19T18:33:52+00:00

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Town-Clean · 2021-04-21T01:33:20+00:00

Depends on what a high value man for you is. You will want to become the kind of person you want to attract. I suggest maybe learning about fitness and nutrition and checking out some subs on here for female fashion advice. I think they key is building confidence and some social skills in yourself and joining some groups where people share your interest and values and making some good friends. Need to get in a good headspace and have some confidence to attract someone who is decent and be a decent person yourself.

verumity · 2021-04-27T08:13:49+00:00

You need to think YOU are high value before aiming for a HVM. Lack of confidence and low self esteem can be sniffed out from a mile away, and most people do NOT want to deal with that, especially deep in a relationship. I always like to think why SHOULDN’T I get this? Why do I NOT deserve this? I work hard, I persevere like crazy, I dress well, I’m confident etc. You need to project enough belief in yourself and it will eventually start to feel true, because you should have faith in yourself and your abilities, look how far you’ve come !

pearlsandstilettos · 2021-04-20T05:15:31+00:00

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Title	How can I begin working on myself to feel worthy of a HVM?
Author	Neat_Butterfly123
Upvotes	46
Comments	21
Date	April 19, 2021 5:26 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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