Any guys/girls here who are grossed out my hookup culture?

Mrs_Drgree · 2021-04-07T22:15:34+00:00

No circle jerking

Vicky- · 2021-04-07T21:55:22+00:00

It's not for me either. What grosses me out the most is all the stupid rules and mannerisms associated with it, like having to leave before breakfast or after sex.

cowfishAreReal · 2021-04-07T21:49:03+00:00

I wouldn't do it myself, I find it pretty pointless, I think sex is overrated, most women can take care of themselves much better than most men could, so I dont see the point of having it just for the act of having it. But I don't judge people who do have it, it's not my problem and I think they should be free to do what they want

singdontcry · 2021-04-07T21:31:11+00:00

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ModernMedia · 2021-04-07T21:54:55+00:00

Is your issue really with hookup culture or weird stuck-in-teen-angst social circles? Because without that strange stand-off of one party calling the other a hoe while the reply is you being called frigid, I don't really think you got a problem. Serial monogamists have always been a thing and I'm sure whatever age group you are is no exception.

LittyKitsune · 2021-04-07T21:57:33+00:00

I was initially. Going from an all-girl Catholic high school to a coed secular college was a massive culture shock. I still remember not even feeling 100% comfortable living on a coed floor at first.

3/4 years later I'm over it. Yes, people have NSA sex. That's their choice, I make a choice not to participate in any of it. I don't judge them, they don't judge me (outside of the dudes who have obvious incentive to take issue with it).

I take a lot of pride In my appearance, spend a lot of money on my looks..guys always assume I’m a kind of girl to do those things, as unfortunately socially we have the expectation that if you take care of your looks you somehow are a ‘slut.’

Haha try all of this plus being a black female. A lot of guys kind of assume I'm freaky or horny by nature. I just set the record straight each time, be polite and firm about it.

I can look at someone and think ‘wow...he’s smoking!’ And IMAGINE what sex would be like with him In my head...but I feel really grossed out at the thought of touching someone I have no emotional attachment to and like there’s always been a barrier there.

I feel this

I feel like I don’t belong anywhere.

I'm guessing you're not religious? As much as I like my secular friend groups being able to retreat back to my Catholic circle when I needed a break from that stuff has been a heaven-sent. I imagine things would be much more difficult without that space.

GridReXX · 2021-04-07T22:07:15+00:00

I've had 3 FWBs over my life. It's not for me mostly because they liked me more than I liked them and it always ends up making me feel bad. But I have to say it's amazing to not have to be in a relationship and be able to call on someone when you are randomly feeling like a cuddle or some physical intimacy. I've also sort of relied on my exes for the same reason -- women tend to treat their exes like FWBs. What I don't enjoy as much is "random dick."

singdontcry · 2021-04-07T22:09:44+00:00

No one should shame anyone, not for participating in hookup culture or for refusing to. Sorry others have made you feel like something was wrong with you. There isn't, of course, and I've met plenty of people who have trouble being sexually attracted without a meaningful emotional connection.

I've had a mix of ltrs and hookups and enjoy both. But I would never forgo LTRs for just hookups. I have my own complaints about hookups but it's def a good ego booster when I feel shitty 🤣

But yes, emotional connection= better sex (majority of the time). Don't feel bad for being someone who feels very particularly about sex! There are plenty like you.

PlayfulLawyer · 2021-04-07T22:28:50+00:00

I don't know about your particular hookup culture lol

But in all seriousness I'm not a fan of rampant promiscuity on either side, I've done a few one-night stands myself, some great some not so much but like I said on here before I much rather prefer having short-term Flings and Casual relationships of that nature, if me and a girl have a great time sexually I'd rather we enjoy fucking each other for a couple months, a small amount of intimacy, then we go our separate ways. Now the one I'm with right now it started off like it might be that way but we both possibly let it get a little too far and now I think we care about each other😂

But I'm not grossed out by hookup culture for promiscuity but it's the way people go about it sometimes, you got motherfukers smashing out here Raw with all the STDs out here not to mention pregnancies, this is why I'm not surprised a lot of people are so anti mask, 40 years of AIDS being around and some other fucker still don't want to use a rubber😂😂😂

ThunderbearIM · 2021-04-07T21:37:29+00:00

I'm just curious if you've heard of the term "Demisexual" before?

You described something I had heard about before, but couldn't put the finger on it.

It means that you can only really feel sexual attraction towards someone you're emotionally bonded to. If this doesn't fit you can disregard me!

Bandit174 · 2021-04-07T21:38:10+00:00

I have mixed feelings on it. Part of me thinks it seems appealing but another part of me views it as risky and awkward.

801735 · 2021-04-07T21:37:18+00:00

Any guys/girls here who are grossed out my hookup culture?

Yours? No idea. ;)

Yup. Just fuck usually doesn't work. I want more.

IcarusKiki · 2021-04-07T21:50:05+00:00

I’m not grossed out by it but it isn’t for me.

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John_Oakman · 2021-04-07T21:57:52+00:00

It's about as disgusting as any other recreational activity involving multiple persons. It's what you make of it. I'm indifferent towards the subculture itself and those who partake in them.

Ok_Butterscotch1996 · 2021-04-07T22:39:00+00:00

Really apologise for the awful grammar! I was supposed to say ‘by hookup culture’ NOT ‘my hookup culture’ 🤣

Ok_Butterscotch1996 · 2021-04-07T22:49:09+00:00

I mean definitely! I think to fall in love with someone, to a degree I must find them sexually appealing.

My ex (I was with him for 7 years since highschool). I was a naïve teen who went to an all girls catholic school, so growing up when I came to ‘getting a boyfriend’ the only comparison I had regarding how to behave was from awful 2000’s movies (basically sit there, act like you have no braincell and giggle). Didn’t help I was shy af too!

The guy I’m with now (we’ve been dating for a year) I had grown up a lot since then, our fist date was nerding out about the medical field (he’s a nurse and I’m training to be a surgery assistant)..

And we clicked from there.. so not quite, I get where you’re coming from and I agree!

GenZedEd · 2021-04-07T21:55:20+00:00

Nope, perfectly normal if 2 people who are attracted to each other want to have sex for the sake of enjoying sex without pretending that they're in love, they're "a perfect match" or have some sort of extreme desire for settling down. "Emotional attachment" is overrated, I bet a significant part of the reason you dated the men you did was was just as much a part of physical attraction. You might have not been thinking "let me sleep with him cause he's hot" but may have though "Let me show interest, laugh at his jokes more, smile at him, because he's hot". Emotions can be extremely mentally draining and exhausting, who wants to expend themselves mentally, spiritually, devotedly every time they want to have harmless sex.

Title	Any guys/girls here who are grossed out my hookup culture?
Author	Ok_Butterscotch1996
Upvotes	5
Comments	49
Date	April 7, 2021 9:29 PM UTC (5 years ago)
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