In which she insists she's "happy and single" but she didn't intend to end up that way

Yolinna · 2021-06-14T05:49:36+00:00

"It’s not that the standards are too high. It’s that women who are single and happy, tend to have higher standards than women who would take any man with the hope that he would finally make her happy."

Single women often seek consolation in believing that the only reason other women are in relationships is because they're doormats and have no "standards".

altair43 · 2021-06-14T05:24:24+00:00

She needed to write "single and happy" 100 more times. Then we would be sure she is single and happy. /s

A_Walt_Whitman · 2021-06-14T07:24:59+00:00

She doth protest too much. Men can be happy and single. Women? Not so much. There's a reason you see bridal magazines on the news stands but no groom magazines.

yoyo2850 · 2021-06-14T08:00:28+00:00

Shes not single and happy she has a broken family and is happy (from reading this she's not happy at all). I keep seeing this all the time "I'm single and Independent" while having a few kids. That's not single that's a broken home a divorce fatherless children etc. How many of these women are actually single with no kids and live alone? From what I've seen almost non of them.

saberwarthog · 2021-06-14T09:50:26+00:00

If someone is that much "happy", would they need to write such lengthy blog post about it ? Doesn't the simple fact that being really happy means that you are living it without thinking about it ?

It never occurred to her mind that happiness is a fleeting state, something that may come and go at any moment, and it's not the normal state of the human mind...
It's basically "Philosophy 101" here.

panzer22222 · 2021-06-14T11:16:16+00:00

Truth: Women who are happy and single are single by choice

The only women that say that are what we call in Australia 'bush pigs'

Snoo16680 · 2021-06-14T11:13:44+00:00

This is someone who is good at the woke word salad. So filled with BS in grey areas, that you have a hard time fighting it while being kind. And fighting it unkindly is seen as terrible. And is pointless anyway, in its boringness.

Most of it just saying random things, with authority and wokeness, being kind to herself, while dismissing things that feel bad for her by saying it is an evil belief and myth.

Oh, and she is getting older and more secure in herself. Part of that is to have good days, even when you don't get all you want. Explains myth 1 and 2. The same goes for men and sex too ;)

Myth 3, tho, contains probably the only meaningful signal here.

When you choose your standards, you also influence how often a possible mate appears. From no standards (every time you meet someone interested), to a kind of picky-but-realistic (must match my value, or better. Perhaps 5-10% are in the possible bracket), to the impossibly picky (Possibly once in a blue moon, and false positives abound). This is math.

She seems to understand this, but can't seem to see the middle, it's either "have standards" or "take anyone". Perhaps hailing to the alpha-20% thing: she can't differentiate one not-alpha from another.

Some people accept this, are strong enouch to say "With these standards I get very few possible matches that I like, and I am OK with that. I am not desperate". Some say "This is my standards, I will never settle for less (🤢)".

People in the first camp are typically able to lower standards over time, and will likely do it intuively. People in the second probably won't. The myth (including maybe/probably end up alone and WAATGM) is true for the second, but maybe not for the first. She believes that the stereotype is evil, and she is in the first camp.

She is so firmly in the second camp.

Enough-Staff-2976 · 2021-06-14T12:24:22+00:00

Women love to say that they are not going to "settle". Meanwhile, women never think men are settling for the older and used up version of themselves.

MrNeurotypical · 2021-06-14T15:35:59+00:00

You'd think these women would take a writing class before becoming bloggers, but nooooo....

me_at_myhouse · 2021-06-14T16:02:12+00:00

This woman clearly hates the game, and the player.

And she represents herself as a 'life coach for single women'. Yikes.

Talk about the wolf guarding the hen house.

Devilsgun · 2021-06-14T16:14:20+00:00

Powerful. Just like everything that a woman writes. So brave and inspiring.

Live, Laugh, Love.

Get Basted.

Muh Bebbie iz Muh Werld.

Cool Wine Aunt.

Blah.
Blah.
Blah.

Cope, I suppose.

BluepillProfessor · 2021-06-14T16:20:14+00:00

We could power our entire civilization nearly carbon free if we harnessed her hamster.

GrannyLesbian · 2021-06-14T17:24:23+00:00

It's 2021.

She is STILL SINGLE.

VirginWizard69 · 2021-06-15T17:45:26+00:00

No woman is happy and single. I have never met one. They are all grumpy.

Title	In which she insists she's "happy and single" but she didn't intend to end up that way
Author	DemocraticDystopia
Upvotes	89
Comments	26
Date	June 14, 2021 4:54 AM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/WhereAreAllTheGoodMen
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