Im seeing some younger guys post, so Ill share some of my evolution:

I tried to get married to a girl from my church at 19. We were eachother’s first everything. After a year and a half, she dumped me for a guy with a better career. They married. He cheated on her with two girls and they were divorced after 3 months. She wanted to come back to me, a single mother, but i was too upset. I started a band and was considering just having some fun. I fell in love again with a beautiful girl from a very bad neighborhood. We had a few fun nights, but I was friend-zoned for about 6 months. I tried to win her over writing songs for her, taking her to nice restaurants and clubs. One day i saw a hickey on her neck. She was sleeping with her ‘abusive’ ex boyfriend again. That ended and it hurt for years. Why would she deliberately choose an abusive guy? I decided to step up my pursuit of having fun. My job took me 3 hours away where I met another gf. She had dated a man 20 years older just before me. She was a nice woman, but i had only been with 2 people and she was approaching 30 partners. After a few months, my job took me to socal and we broke up. In california, every girl i met had been with 10-20 times more people than me. So i eventually threw in the towel on my morality and decided to start being more of a player. I spent about 8 years having mini relationships with women which lasted just a few months at a time. College age Women were happy to hop into bed, and the “yolo” attitude in socal eventually took her to another guy. I didnt mind. I learned spanish and took the show on the road to latin america, then europe. As you can imagine, seeing the nature of women and people removes quite a bit of the fairy tale around “love” but this lifestyle wasnt my first choice, and ive never once “ghosted” a girl. I gave a fair shot at being a “good man” and it was a waste. Now all those women i knew are scrambling to clean up their lives and find a good man. Several of them cry when they talk about not finding a good man, never having kids, even considering freezing their eggs. Im sorry for the way things are, but women literally incentivize good men to become bad man. Now im a very bad man, according to them, and its going to stay this way.