Isolation

HowManyBobs · 2021-05-03T20:55:24+00:00

My divorce will be final the end of this month - very sad and scared - and will not bad mouth my stbxw cyz it takes two.
Ten years ago during marriage counseling m the therapist recommended an organization called The Mankind Project. One of the best steps I've ever taken. It is a very personalized 'process' that allows every man to begin healing from wherever they are on their journey. Primary focus us on personal growth and development but most men become very close and have tons of (pre-covid) social contact with one another.
Mankindproect.org](https://mankindproject.org/)

dday_throwaway3 · 2021-05-03T20:28:51+00:00

If you're in the US, it doesn't matter if you don't want a divorce. It only takes one dissatisfied spouse for no-fault divorce. Accept that you are getting divorced. Instead of embracing a victim mindset, you've got to get a handle on this. Custody should be your primary concern, then finances. You need to retain a family law attorney.

Here's how to find attorneys to interview: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=9&t=13377

Here's why you don't move out of the house: https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=4&t=81622

Here's what you do to protect yourself from false DV (and don't tell me she wouldn't do that -- she absolutely will if it gets her what she wants): https://forum.mensdivorce.com/viewtopic.php?f=14&t=80375

iambreathing · 2021-05-03T21:31:37+00:00

For expanding your social network, I always suggest looking at the various Meetup groups in the area. I've found it a great way to meet people who share at least one common interest. Have you looked for any men's groups around? I found a Mankind Project circle in my town and it's a pretty decent local resource.

https://ncal.mkpusa.org/

sicrm · 2021-05-03T22:57:41+00:00

you need to build a support system.

part of the reason you lashed out at her was you had no one to socialize with.

reach out to friends/family you lost touch with and pick up a hobby/go to the gym.

also, google the pick me dance and avoid that. work on getting the best deal for yourself. generally, chasing after her now does more harm than good. the only way a divorce stops now is if she wants it to.

3LemursInATrenchCoat · 2021-05-03T20:30:08+00:00

I am a Mason. I can't speak to other groups to offer a comparison.

I am on the other side of the country, but I found the fraternity to be a good place to meet new people and socialize. That isn't the core goal though, so if that is all you are looking for, you may find other groups more to your liking. We focus on self improvement, so if that is something you are on board with feel free to ask any follow up questions.

You could also check out /r/freemasonry. You might find guys closer to your area who could give you a better idea of the fraternity in your jurisdiction.

Leading_Ice_7712 · 2021-05-04T04:49:59+00:00

Im in Lower AL different situation my wife has been a cheater for 18 of the 22 years we where married. I have a parenting class on the 25th

steveo79 · 2021-05-04T22:35:32+00:00

I'm in my early 40s, bay area, going through something very similar. Sent you a PM. Feel free to reach out, might be interesting to talk or write.

Title	Isolation
Author	YamsDingo
Upvotes	9
Comments	26
Date	May 3, 2021 7:28 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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