Women initiate 70-80% of divorces. So - are men just bad? Are we born bad? If so well then dang! Oh well :-( Sucks to be us. Gosh - sorry women! But come on, that seems unlikely. So if we are not all born "bad", yet 70-80% of divorces are initiated by women? What is going on here?

Giant_leaps · 2021-05-09T02:29:53+00:00

money, just look at the posts on FDS they literally encourage each other to get divorced to get child support checks and a nice payout.

caem123 · 2021-05-09T03:26:12+00:00

Divorce has been incentivize by society. Women often benefit from divorce. They get alimony, at least half of the assets, custody of children, child support. Plus there’s a huge welfare system that’s there to help support her.

Not to mention feminism is preached to them almost universally so many of them believe that men are inherently bad.

The family court system also has an extremely favorable bias in favor of women.

McFeely_Smackup · 2021-05-09T01:47:03+00:00

As a unscientific guess, I'd say for every woman that wants a divorce, there's a man who wants a divorce but knows the result will be financial and emotional ruin for him.

caem123 · 2021-05-09T05:48:50+00:00

Go to r/divorce or r/relationships to read countless stories of regret. Similar stories can be found at dating over 40 (before they're deleted by the mods).

The grass is always greener on the other side... Until you get to that other side.

Altered_Beast805 · 2021-05-08T22:24:32+00:00

My guess is that men are much more likely to stand by their decisions and uphold their oaths.

Bropil · 2021-05-09T14:13:11+00:00

Men prefer to stay, we prefer to stay and fix things.

Women prefer to leave, salvaging the pieces, even if that means stealing some of those pieces.

Marty-the-monkey · 2021-05-08T22:32:07+00:00

I think men in general are creatures of comfort and routine.

Even if something sucks, or isn’t fun, we grind our teeth and fight through it. We stay the course, no matter what!

For better or worse, women are better at standing up and saying ‘fuck this, I don’t want to do this anymore’

Idiots--Rule · 2021-05-09T14:52:16+00:00

If I had to guess I'd say men want divorce just as much as women. Men initiate less often because they fear losing their kids.

mesaboogeytool · 2021-05-09T16:13:47+00:00

Hypergamy, social media, trying to outdo each other and constantly fixated on celebrity culture. Plus add in the biological clock. Once that passes with nobody you can show off, to make your friends jealous. Well the end result is they become feminists or "activists"... I'm sure there's a good 20 to 30 % that leave because they are with an abusive shitbag. But majority from what I have seen from friends and family it's infidelity and monkey branching.

Downvote away.

WingsofSky · 2021-05-09T01:40:43+00:00

Maybe some women are just unhappy in general and think divorce will fix that.

i_dont_know_2000 · 2021-05-08T22:40:13+00:00

Women are the ones wanting the divorce because they are always looking for the BIGGER BETTER DEAL. Women are the ones breaking up the family unit probably because they put up with less shit then men do in relationships. There is no ride or die their is no better or for worse. A women’s love is conditional and they don’t stick to their wedding vows.

waituntilthis · 2021-05-09T07:12:57+00:00

Almost every spieces on this planet has one of the sexes that attracts, and one that approaches. Look at paradise birds, ducks, babboons, sunbass, etc.

With humans the female (generally speaking) gets approached by the male. The female takes good care of her appearance and the male notices that and tries to be attractive towards the female.

Because of this, the choice of relationship generally lies with the women, just like the choice of ending it.

The_Observer_Effect · 2021-05-08T21:56:09+00:00

High standards? Like sorry I'm not the white horse on a prince....

Well at least I'm good with images of talk.

theblackparade87C · 2021-05-08T23:03:45+00:00

If we are bad, and you married us It's a you problem

okfornothing · 2021-05-08T21:58:25+00:00

Do you have a source for those stats so I can share them?

KamYar89 · 2021-05-09T05:25:44+00:00

That's bc we have other women to fuck

NLevelIntactivism · 2021-05-09T19:41:37+00:00

American men were sexually mutilated at birth causing a HUGE amount of unacknowledged psychological damage that last a lifetime. Every problem in America starts with this premise. You have no idea how this affected you! Like it or not we are trauma damaged.

ACE Adverse Childhood Experiences Affect the Brain for Life

The agony and terror of circumcision have lasting, measurable effects on the brain, physically altering it forever

Epigenetics and Child Development: How Children’s Experiences Affect Their Genes

https://developingchild.harvard.edu/resources/what-is-epigenetics-and-how-does-it-relate-to-child-development/

Although frequently misunderstood, adverse fetal and early childhood experiences can—and do—lead to physical and chemical changes in the brain that can last a lifetime.

Injurious experiences, such as malnutrition, exposure to chemical toxins or drugs, and toxic stress before birth or in early childhood are not “forgotten,” but rather are built into the architecture of the developing brain through the epigenome. The “biological memories” associated with these epigenetic changes can affect multiple organ systems and increase the risk not only for poor physical and mental health outcomes but also for impairments in future learning capacity and behavior.

Childhood Trauma Permanently Scars Brain, And Boosts Likelihood Of Depression

https://mavenroundtable.io/theintellectualist/science/childhood-trauma-permanently-scars-brain-and-boosts-likelihood-of-depression-XvpPL8thIUaZgfr1B4JhcQ/?fbclid=IwAR0PN7NpgwZAY4uhdWWwQ2z1o2pkTrMfjFrJQOipTiOzyHP71aPChkMzHXY

Stress and trauma in earliest years linked to reduced hippocampal volume in adolescence

“These findings tell us that there may be a ‘sensitive period’ in which stress is more likely to affect the development of the hippocampus, which is connected to learning, memory and mood,” said lead author Kathryn L. Humphreys, assistant professor of psychology at Vanderbilt. “Given that the hippocampus undergoes rapid changes in the first years of life, the effects of stressful experiences during this period, even those the child doesn’t remember, may be particularly important in understanding the development of this region of the brain.”

https://news.vanderbilt.edu/2018/12/19/stress-and-trauma-in-earliest-years-linked-to-reduced-hippocampal-volume-in-adolescence/

http://www.kathrynhumphreys.com/

Dorsal Anterior Cingulate Thickness Is Related to Alexithymia in Childhood Trauma-Related PTSD

Sorry to share this. I don't like it either. But we have to understand what happened to us.

phoenixshield · 2021-05-09T03:35:23+00:00

Where do you get your statistic and for what region? Just curious

JustMrNic3 · 2021-06-02T17:03:12+00:00

Our mistake is that we were not born rich !

Everytime there's a financial problem, it's not a family problem, a team, problem, but it's the man's problem.

And of course woman has the best solution, just change the man to a richer one.

In the end that's what men are born for, to be expendable !

schebobo180 · 2022-01-21T07:05:12+00:00

I agree its a quandary, but Its CLEARLY not entirely men.

Lesbian women have higher divorce rates (more than double) than gay male couples and I think even higher than straight male/female couples. So clearly women initiate divorce at a much higher rate than men ACROSS the spectrum regardless of gender or creed. I found this especially fascinating because based on all we know and the way the media and feminists portray women as impeccable and flawless you would think that putting 2 women together would be unstoppable in terms of quality of marriage. Turns out they tend to leave each other EVEN FASTER than they leave men.

All very fascinating imho.

WritesCrapForStrap · 2021-05-09T13:31:03+00:00

Judging by this thread, I'd say we do suck.

Pearl4202 · 2021-05-09T20:20:57+00:00

Who initiates divorce doesn’t prove who are bad.

We know not all men are bad but they will be wary of men because literally 1 in 5 women get assaulted so fear is valid.

Of a relationship isn’t working out it’s valid for both sides to just nope out of it.

Which_Honeydew_5510 · 2021-05-09T13:35:35+00:00

Are there any sources for that percentage? I’ve seen it a lot but haven’t seen a source. Genuinely curious.

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