Did any of you have a "WOW" moment when it comes to RP?

mabeol · 2016-10-29T02:02:47+00:00

My "wow moment" came when my husband said to me, "thank you for everything you've been doing. You said you were going to change and you did. I've never felt more like a man and in charge of my family than I do now." And that was the biggest complinent that I've ever received from him. ♥️

electrokiwi · 2016-10-29T05:32:58+00:00

Literally 3 weeks into my RPW transformation, a man who I had been a plate for said something about me seemed different and he realized he was interested in pursuing me romantically. Everyday he grows more and more interested in me, all because I've taken the time to make it clear that I respect him as a man, while being light, feminine, and productive when we're apart. He's dumped his other plates and I have upcoming plans to meet his family with him. I'm still working on letting him lead, as we move into more serious relationship territory, but just the change in how he treats me, from a Fwb type plate, to his woman, has convinced me that swallowing the redpill is one of the wisest decisions I've made.

SouthernAthena · 2016-10-29T02:39:31+00:00

For me it was all the positive attention, especially from my boyfriend, when I started taking more care of my appearance. I was surprised that I could be one of the "pretty girls." The main thing that clicked though was how it affected my confidence, which put me in a better mood and made me nicer.

It also really clicked with me just reading theory that said you should be a first mate to your SO, the captain. I always deep down wanted to do this in my relationship, but feminism teaches you that being deferent in any way makes you a brainless battered woman. So I definitely felt some shame and confusion around that until I found RPW.

bittersweettruth_ · 2016-10-29T12:01:13+00:00

Since swallowing the red pill I have been getting a lot of (positive!) attention from men and women. I also have reason to believe that a man I know is interested in pursuing me romantically. Whether that actually happens or not only time will tell, but I suppose it's nice to know that he's starting to see me as a viable option for an LTR.

I also feel like people are being more open and honest with me too. I've had several people come to me for advice regarding some very personal issues of theirs that they haven't discussed with anyone else. I believe them when they say that - I've seen nothing that indicates otherwise.

Overall, I'm happier, healthier, and people seem to trust me more. I'm remaining in monk mode though until I feel confident that I can better control my negative thoughts, emotions and habits and not let them creep into an LTR. I also have other unfinished business that needs attending to as well and I'd rather not let an LTR get in the way at this time. Finishing my current degree program is one of them, thankfully I'm almost done.

[deleted] · 2016-10-29T10:34:05+00:00

For me it was when I was dating my SO for two or three months or so, and I had a late meeting but I already let him into my apartment to wait for me. I told him I made his favourite food and it was ready for him in the fridge, and his favourite series ready on the laptop. And he looked surprised and he said 'wow, you really take care of me don't you?'. It felt like the relationship suddenly took a leap further and from then on he was also a lot more open and showing affection towards me.

mabeol · 2016-10-29T20:56:09+00:00

I have a couple.

Growing up, I was very threatened by girls growing up who put an effort into their appearance. Somehow I had this unshakeable belief that guys like girls who weren't "high maintenance," which is partially true, but I equated "high maintenance" with "dressed nicely and made an effort with their appearance." For years I rode atop my high horse, convinced that I was more genuine and appealing and less "shallow" in my shapeless jeans and t-shirts and half-assed hair, somehow blind to the fact that the beauties I condemned had guys flocking to them while I remained, for the most part, single. I started dressing a little nicer as I got older and suddenly got more attention everywhere I went. RPW kinda drove the point home: it's not all about your appearance, but looking good sure increases the likelihood that someone will pay enough attention to you to discover your many other good qualities.
I had a similar nonsense belief that i had to match a guy's mood. I'm naturally a very happy, positive, friendly, affectionate person (my friends joke that I'm like a human golden retriever lol), but I would dull myself down in an act of "solidarity" (like they'd feel better if I was in a bad mood too - oh, former self, what a silly doorknob you were) when my partner was in a bad mood instead of letting my natural lightness and femininity cheer them up. Needless to say, it didn't work, but I thought I was helping somehow. Enter Laura Doyle telling me to be the Goddess of Fun and Light. Last time my guy was in a funk, I didn't try to climb down into his emotional hole with him. I didn't disrespect his feelings, but I stayed cheerful and made him dinner and smooched him and cuddled him (he loooves touch of any kind), and I couldn't believe how quickly he perked up! Femininity is an untapped and beautiful power!!

There are more, but those two were the most paradigm-altering for me.

[deleted] · 2016-10-31T18:35:45+00:00

I've never officially "swallowed the Red Pill," but I have appreciated how nice it is to be a part of an online community with more traditional relationship views, even as a lurker.

I work in a really liberal field, surrounded by lots of happily single older women, where I hear constant affirmation that I'm a strong, independent woman. My best friend is a card carrying feminist, less with the man hating, more with the "gender doesn't matter" speech. My other friends are the ones who want to pick and choose which tenants of feminism they like, such as not having to pay for dinner, but still being the boss in the relationship. I respect that they think differently and they respect me, but it gets... tiresome. I always wanted a man to hold doors open for me and pay and place his hand on the small of my back in public and walk on the street side and make decisions without the "I don't care, whatever you want" back and forth. I wanted a hard worker who would always provide. I wanted to be cared for and treated like a lady. I didn't want someone who lie down and make me lead our family and I felt like I was constantly being told I was archaic and ridiculous, because that man doesn't exist.

Well, my wow moment was that I was able to recognize that guy, admittedly because of some of the advice I got here. I really appreciate that I can find a place for encouragement to pursue the kind of relationship that I want and need. My guy is perfect for me and loves that I let him lead and I don't push him around, while still being intelligent and self sufficient.

Gardrothard · 2016-10-30T18:14:27+00:00

Being vulnerable with my boyfriend. We've been together for almost three years and I always kept my frame (as I was the man). Not very affectionate, being bitchy and argumentative when telling about the problems.

For example, he is a bit irresponsible when it comes to time management so he tends to be late about telling me when we're meeting or he's too flexible with plans. I get it, he needs 5 min to get ready and doesn't find it problematic that up until 5 we don't know if we're meeting at 6 or not. I, on the other hand, need a lot more than 5 minutes. I whiten my teeth, wash and style my hair, makeup, shaving all of my body etc. I don't eat because I want my stomach flat and I don't want to fart when I sleep or to have to poop in the morning. So if there is a chance we're meeting at 6 I need to do all these things and if at 5 he says that he can't make it it's problematic because I wasted a lot of time, plus when we see tomorrow (cause that's when we see when something like that happens) I am not freshly shaved (when I shave again down there every day my skin gets irritated) and it's hard not to eat anything all day again.

I used to get very angry and upset with him about that poor time management. At the same time I couldn't tell him all of this because I don't want him to know these things, it breaks the illusion. So I was argumentative and angry with no arguments but "Oh, you don't respect my time" or something like that.

And even though we have amazing sex, I listen to him, look good for him and everything else I didn't get it why those things weren't enough.

So instead of being bitchy about it I started saying things like "Oh, I was really looking forward to seeing you". And in a month I fixed something that was bothering me for almost 3 years. I was amazed.

Also, the affection. That's the solipsism I guess. We've been getting so close since I stopped being cold. It feels good because it's what I naturally wanted to do anyways and I feel like we are more intimate. Just the other week I slept at his place and we barely talked. We were looking at each other and it's like we had some kind of telepathic communication. That's the second amazement.

And the third. Yesterday we saw each other and I started to cry. Sometimes when I think about him I feel so much love like it can't fit inside me and it comes out in tears (I don't know what's wrong with me :) ). So I told him why I was crying and it feels like it just drew him closer to me. Again, because of solipsism I was dreading crying in front of him.

Anyways, it's so great to see this work so well. I was wasting energy suppressing myself because of solipsism and causing myself a bunch of problems. And now, I'm just being myself and he has such a nice reaction to it. Not only is it easier, but there is so much more intimacy in that. Opening up and realizing that what you were hiding all along was in fact much more valuable than the mask you've been putting... So much happiness and freedom in that...

It's still weird to see that the easier path is the one giving the results. Very counter intuitive.

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dottywine · 2016-11-18T20:15:58+00:00

I found a man I was more than happy to "RPW" with and it's the best relationship ever. Well, I haven't been alive long, but it's better than anything I would have imagined. I have a feeling that the relationship will only fail if I stop RPWing him. And spending time in this reddit shows me ways to be better. And the idea of being BETTER at THIS is EXCITING to me (with any of my ex's, I would have wanted to puke first LOL).

And before this, I had a friend who RPW'd men all the time. It came naturally to her. These men were not great men, unfortunately, but it amazed me how it seemed like a magic ability she had to get any guy to fall for her.

Title	Did any of you have a "WOW" moment when it comes to RP?
Author	pinkdrawings
Upvotes	25
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Date	October 29, 2016 12:51 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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