Can i have pink hair, feel feminine, but be a men's Rights activist and be accepted here?

Metraxis · 2018-12-24T07:43:42+00:00

Your identity is wholly irrelevant. You do not need permission to exist, or to participate in discussions here. Man, woman, gay, straight, trans, meerkat, helicopter, doesn't matter in the least.

goodmod · 2018-12-24T06:45:29+00:00

You're certainly welcome here.

However, this may not be the subreddit you need most.

A sub that deals with psychological issues and identity crises might be more able to help. There are quite a few of those.

2018-12-24T06:26:50+00:00

this sub is for everyone mate

BernieSandersgirl101 · 2018-12-24T11:55:02+00:00

Yeah, Duh! I'm a woman who wants to be a housewife. Almost everyone is welcome here! As long as you're an MRA. We have Trump Supporters, we have Communists, We have Hillary Supporters, We have Bernie Supporters, We have Capitalists, we have every type of person.

Lethn · 2018-12-24T06:27:21+00:00

..... How exactly did you 'see' family violence on youtube? If you potentially overreacted to something online because of these problems you've been having I would not be surprised if you faced backlash, you can't 'see' family violence unless someone was dumb enough to post it up and it would probably be very quickly removed anyway. Unfortunately depending on how willing you are we'd need more detail and context on what happened to even begin to offer advice or point you in the right direction.

I will say this though, if you've grown up in a very conservative/traditionalist family that isn't doing much to help you, then believe it or not that might just be the root of a lot of problems especially if you're lashing out in other ways at the outside world. It's not just people stuck in left wing self-segregated bubbles that suffer living in these communities and not feeling themselves generally but yes right wing ones as well. I always advocate no matter what shitty community you happen to find yourself in try to visit other cities just in your country and so on as a mini-holiday and find other people to hang out with just to see if it's not just family etc. being cunts.

I think I would listen to your doctor if he thinks it's OCD and maybe you could ask them to recommend you to a therapist. A therapist would be able to find out if there's something genuinely wrong with you and if you have real gender dysphoria or OCD etc. make sure you get a proper one though and not some feminist one that's just going to try and pressure you into a sex change.

-manatease · 2018-12-24T10:43:56+00:00

The thing is with modern life is that until you spend 6 months of your life not eating/drinking additives and processed crap and eating enough greens and protein (and fat, it's all important), while exercising plenty, getting enough natural light/sunlight and not exposing yourself to endless turmoil in the media and internet (if this affects you, which it may or may not) that you don't know how you are supposed to feel as a human

In general, the samples collected from individuals diagnosed with OCD show lower abundance and lower diversity of microbial populations, as compared to the samples from typical control participants.

https://www.psychiatryadvisor.com/apa-2016-coverage/ocd-and-the-gut-is-there-a-connection/article/496849/

A_confusedlover · 2018-12-24T08:23:58+00:00

If you're willing to help further our cause you're welcome, regardless of how you look. You're one of us now :)

As for your gender crisis, I would hesitate to recommend anything because I'm no expert psychologist. However I would recommend you go to a few psychologists to understand the situation better yourself before you make a life-changing decision.

On a sidenote, please feel free to message me if you ever need any support I'll be glad to offer whatever help I can

2018-12-24T08:25:44+00:00

Hey, far as I'm concerned you're welcome here. Caring about men's welfare is (or should be) a universal thing. Others have covered suggesting identity crisis subs... so I'll just wish you peace and extend a pleasant "you are not alone"... cause you're not, and you're gonna be okay.

Hadashi_blacksky · 2018-12-24T08:39:26+00:00

Pink hair is cool with us. And it's your hair anyway, so it's not like our options should matter.

platesizedareola · 2018-12-24T09:12:07+00:00

LedZeppelin1602 · 2018-12-24T13:22:21+00:00

To be a men's rights activist all you need is to care about the welfare of men and want a more equal approach to treating issues as human issues rather than just women's issues

2018-12-24T23:20:26+00:00

Hey! I'm sorry you're not feeling well. I've been lurking this sub for a while and occasionally commenting, but in the last year, I'm come to understand myself to be transgender.

As some other folks here have pointed out, there are some therapists who would "steer" you towards identifying as transgender. There are also therapists who would "steer" you in the opposite direction. If you're looking for a community where you can discuss these feelings, I would suggest /r/mtf, /r/nonbinary, /r/asktransgeder. For the lighter side, you might like /r/traaaaaaannnnnnnnnns and /r/egg_irl. There are some helpful people there, but there are also some people who push an agenda.

Feel free to send me a PM if you need to chat. I think that if you spend some time on some of these other subs, you might get an idea of what your true feelings are versus what is just OCD.

Ultimately no one on this sub or or any other sub can give you "approval" that you are or are not trans. Also, in case you didn't know, transgender is a sort of spectrum of different ways that people experience gender identity. It isn't like every transgender person is like Caitlyn Jenner.

Whatever you do, I suggest you keep an open mind to what you may find. I strongly urge you that whatever you discover about yourself, you be willing to accept yourself, trans or not. There was a well-known suicide by a young transgender person known as Leelah Alcorn who killed herself after being forced into "conversion therapy" by her religious conservative parents.

I hope you may find some peace soon.

Blutarg · 2018-12-24T14:24:04+00:00

Thank you for reporting the violence that you saw. We need more people to stand up against violence.

benderXX · 2018-12-24T16:24:22+00:00

Gender identity issues or questions don’t prevent you from carrying about men’s rights or men’s health issues. The fact that you are asking demonstrates how powerful the bias is in our society. I am far more convinced a matriarchy exists than a patriarchy. Welcome aboard. What ever you feel those feelings belong to you and nobody else. Enjoy your life.

jeff_the_nurse · 2018-12-24T16:57:44+00:00

You can literally be anyone and be accepted here. We’re one of the most welcoming subreddits out there.

DubsPackage · 2018-12-24T19:22:41+00:00

I don't know anything about transsexual issues or gender disassociation.

However I welcome you (and people of all backgrounds) to our discussion here.

And I hope that you likewise will be civil and welcoming of conservative men.

I happen to think we all have relevant points and useful ideas to bring.

Thanks

jimmywiddle · 2018-12-24T21:42:17+00:00

Everyone is welcome here :)

omegaphallic · 2018-12-25T00:12:02+00:00

Yes you can have pink hair if you want.

2018-12-25T01:02:41+00:00

I don't care who you are, just treat me equally and I'll do the same for you.

GreyTortoise · 2018-12-26T01:50:43+00:00

You don't have to ask permission, you're welcome here. I might say we make a good support group, but that's mostly for gay, straight, and trans men. You're in a bit of a different situation.

As a bit of stranger's advice, to be taken with an appropriate grain of salt, when I had something (very different, but still heavy) weighing on my mind I decided to simply put it on the back burner. Entire portions of my life were put on hold so I could identify myself as a person, not for what was between my legs or what I felt like, even more basic than that. Simply what came to me instinctually in a day-to-day life. I'm now on a decent track and I think it was certainly for the best. Your mileage may vary, but I haven't had to see a mental health professional since.

Keep the wind at your back.

SockCuck · 2018-12-26T12:31:46+00:00

Don't care who you are or what you look like or anything, as long as you support the rights of men (ideally the equal rights of men and women, which feminism is not fighting for)

DavidByron2 · 2018-12-26T19:28:13+00:00

People are accepted here even if they're not even MRA. Hair color doesn't matter.

What is it like to feel masculine or feminine? What does that mean to you? Are there any special times you get this feeling?

Sorry that you're having a hard time of it.

MensActivism · 2019-01-02T02:25:22+00:00

I'm a female MRA who also has pink hair.

You're perfectly welcome here. Feminine men are just as welcomed as masculine men.

TibsKirk · 2018-12-24T06:49:11+00:00

Why such a strong resentment of conservative men? Just curious about how you really feel about the nuclear family, tradition, and the value of religion?

Title	Can i have pink hair, feel feminine, but be a men's Rights activist and be accepted here?
Author	your_godammn_right
Upvotes	32
Comments	38
Date	December 24, 2018 6:17 AM UTC (7 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/MensRights
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