We talk all day about toxic masculinity and how men adopt toxic qualities to seem masculine. Lecture guys about how to apologize, how to cry, and what not.

Yet, when men who aren't traditionally masculine are bullied and humiliated nobody questions it.

I am sorry, this is going to be a rant.

Small dick shaming somehow has become a valid attack at evil men. From Trump to any perceived or actual misogyny. And so often, subreddits that claim to be championing equality often are extremely unempathetic to underendowed men. For instance: 1, 2, which actually hurts people 3

I am from an ethnicity popularly stereotyped as smaller dicks. Although I am probably above average in all respects, I know from first hand what the perception of having a small dick can do to your confidence, and eventually your entire life. Forget all the bullying and subtle jokes, snide remarks you grow up hearing how you are not a real man, how you are never the desirable partner for a woman, or how people with small dicks are jerks or always over compensate with lifted trucks and heavy work-outs; and then we expect guys with small penises to deal with their insecurity as if it's somehow their choice to be insecure about it. Imagine being subtly told you are undesirable, unmanly, you need to compensate, apart from the blatant humiliation in some of the most intimate and vulnerable moments in your life. While we all fight for womens right to feel beautiful at all sizes, somehow men with small dicks have to deal with it.

"It's just a preference"- sure preferences formed by years of mockery, dehumanization and emasculation.

"Most women don't care about your size"- sure that's why I see all these pop culture jokes, political jokes, lectures directed as small dick men, racial stereotypes, songs, and a few million tweets exclusively by women.

"You are bitter insecure man"- yeah, wasn't born this way.

"you just hate women"- lol.

There has been so much talks about body positivity and sex positivity. The irony is when a dating site profile reads, "sex positive body positive size queen". Well, way to be body positive by rejecting more than half the men out there precisely because of their body parts.

I don't know how to tackle this, but I think there's plenty of men out there who silently suffer while much of the society is laughing at them. Sometimes they join in so that people don't assume that they're one of those inferior beings society laughs at. Sometimes, to deal with the trauma, the brain decides to eroticize it and you can see this growing niche of fetish called small penis humiliation (and majority of the guys who engage in it are perpetually single and lonely).

People made documentaries to highlight the issues, the reviewers laughed at them. Made sure they packed enough puns and size based jokes into

At this point I am just venting. I think I am damaged for life, despite having what's statistically considered above average in North america. But it doesn't help when a random person at bar yells expletives at me because obviously I have a small penis because of my race and as well all know we can laugh at small dicked men.

I just hope, atleast the next generation of boys born with this natural variation don't spend their lives in emotional pain, which is just a punchline for rest of the society.

The primary problem with small dick shaming is not that these men turn out to be misogynists. It's that theyre hurting. Their lifes are damaged. THAT should be the PRIMARY concern.

** I am sure there are exceptions to the rule. But they are precisely what they're, exceptions.