Dreaming of my ex-girlfriend constantly of a year ago

DiggerClam · 2017-06-29T11:47:48+00:00

You could reach out to her, but her iPhone is probably covered in the dudes cum who's cock she just had down her throat.

She is dead to you. Block her number and all social media.

GreenPiller · 2017-06-29T12:22:28+00:00

I called her, told her how I felt and then she called me a pussy. A few days later I tried killing myself. Stay strong man we are all gonna make it.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T11:53:56+00:00

...Wow

Dude, you are either 2 things to her. An unfuckable "good" guy or she has painted you as a creepy AF loser. There is sweet fuck all you can do EXCEPT go outside and talk to other females.

Although, if you have a tendency to get clingy, which seems highly probable, go to a therapist. There seems to be far more at play here than your idealisation of 1 individual woman

fakeplastictrees87 · 2017-06-29T12:42:08+00:00

I dreamed as well, then I got new pussy and I never think about her anymore. It's all about sex in the end, and getting "affection" from someone else. I couldn't believe but that's how it works..

Gawernator · 2017-06-29T13:42:55+00:00

Dude grow the f up. It's been a year, you should have moved onto new women a long time ago. Get enthralled with your hobbies and passions, or get some. I'm so busy I wouldn't have time to cry over a woman and feel sorry for myself. Not when you work 50 hours a week plus and have passions such as road racing, dirt biking and bicycling etc.

It's the basics you need, nothing earth shattering. Lift weights, have fun, go meet new women.

TheodoreRPelite · 2017-06-29T14:55:45+00:00

Okay fuck all the other comments this is the only one you need to read. 1st off, your purpose should be to love and love fully. This doesn't mean love one person, or one hobby, or yourself. It means giving your full masculine gift every day. Read "The Way of the Superior Man." You can however, love people of your tribe more. Ex: people that look like you, that share your culture, that you're attracted to etc. 2nd. You have to imagine that she has already slept with someone else. To make it easier, he had a smaller dick, worse in bed, she regretted it, etc. HOWEVER, someone else has already been inside of her so it's time to move on, you can't save a relationship where the woman has cheated or slept with someone else, it's your release from her. Someone else beat you to her pussy in the past year. You lost. The competition is over. You can't win the trophy or relationship anymore. Next years contest is for another girl. This one is over, you lost and you don't want her anymore because of it. Hate that you lost. Feel that hate that you were strategically so bad that you lost. Improve yourself. Learn to love improving yourself and losing goes against that love. 3rd. Okay so you're fucked up now, great! You have a base line of knowing who/what you are. Begin improving. Read books, quickest way to go from BP>RP male because it teaches you how to speak! Your brain begins to articulate similarly to how the authors write, making you more interesting and you'll naturally develop some hobbies. Read Dale Carnagie's "How to Win Friends and Influence People." 4th. Imagine she still has some of your spirit/energy and is using it still to enhance her life and waste yours. "SHES LITERALLY STILL WASTING MY SPIRIT AND CONNECTION WITH GOD(or whatever) AND SHE DOESNT EVEN KNOW IT OR CARE" hate her for it and work every day to cut that spiritual/energetic tie and you'll stop dreaming of her and you'll forgive her and move on. Lastly, the only comment you leave better be a thank you or I'm going to call you a pussy. "Thank you, I'll try." Nothing is more shameful than a man who seeks comfort and only goes to beg for more once he has it. Thank you for your post, and good luck, the next few weeks could be brutal(or cleansing!)

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T17:29:51+00:00

I can tell you with 100% certainty that every dude here, at least the ones that take RP seriously, have experienced the same thing you're going through. I know I did. I had dreams about my ex that were essentially nightmares. I would wake up feeling anxious and depressed leading to my entire day being ruined.

What you're going through is akin to PTSD. You're body has become so accustomed to the feelings, love drug essentially, that you're ex gave you. Like a drug addict coming out of a withdrawal you're gonna be in pain. And like a drug addict weaning yourself from the love drug will take time. It will pass though.

I wish I could give you some magic word to make it away but honestly the only thing that will make you better is time. In time your dreams will become less and less devastating and you will, one day, accept and appreciate your former relationship for what it was, either bad or good.

In the meantime you need to distance yourself from anything that reminds you of her. Like an addict and his junky fiends, pipes, bongs, or needles your ex's social media accounts will bring back the pain that you currently feel. I'm not saying you should delete her but at least unfollow her on FB. That will prevent you from comparing your life with hers. Every smile she shares, every fucking food picture, gym selfie, current bf pic etc...is another reminder of how shitty you feel.

In the meantime occupy yourself with hitting the gym and reading books. Expand your mind and train your body.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T11:50:41+00:00

Fuck man

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T12:19:24+00:00

Dude, IF you are sure she is a female Lucifer, which I want to ask.. why?

Then imagine the damages done to me, I am destroyed. I can't even move on properly. It's been this bad for this long.

I've done therapy now for a year. I've done everything. Please, actually walk me through this. Why I am better off with out this chick because my mind is playing tricks on me.

just_averagejoe · 2017-06-29T13:01:23+00:00

You need something in your life that you focus on more than her and has stronger emotional connotations/associations.

1)Find a passion 2) Find another one 3)Get in a daily routine 4)Grow in all the areas that you know will lead you to happiness. 5) If you get in another LTR: sweet, just don't let it distract you.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T13:57:28+00:00

I would love to become good at photography and travel the world.. with a girl lol. But i have zero dollars in my bank.

SynfulVisions · 2017-06-29T14:09:09+00:00

I've been having nightmares involving an ex... although they involved her when we were together as well.

It's disturbing.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T14:09:44+00:00

Shit man

rebuildingMyself · 2017-06-29T16:41:47+00:00

Only thing I miss about my psycho ex was how great in the sack she was. I admit that's what I sometimes think about when.. Er.. Relieving myself

DubbleFUPAwitCheez · 2017-06-29T19:03:31+00:00

It's normal. I dreamt intermittently about this one ex for about 3 or 4 years after we broke up. Once a dream I had made me fall into despair for a couple days. No idea why. I even dreamed about her when I was with my most recent girlfriend. It took that girl breaking up with me for her to be replaced in my dreams. After awhile I stopped dreaming about the recent ex too.

Point is this happens sometimes and eventually you'll stop or she'll get replaced. It's not something to worry about. It means nothing.

ExoticCatsAndCars · 2017-06-29T23:01:47+00:00

My brain does this when I haven't had sex in a bit. This is most likely a biological evolution to push you towards a mate you previously had sex with, so a lot higher chance of getting laid than a new mate. Nature doesn't care about making you an alpha it cares about what passes on your genes.

dontbedenied · 2017-06-29T23:53:53+00:00

Yeah, I spent a lot of time reading about NPD too. Probably too much. But it helps make some sense out of a relationship that is so confusing. I gave and gave and gave, and she took and took and took. Nothing was ever good enough, she was never satisfied, yet she did everything she could to keep me trapped in the relationship, and went berserk when I broke up with her. It almost feels like you're going crazy when you're with someone like that, and learning about NPD helps you feel sane again.

I don't know what happens to most Narcs and I don't want to know. I imagine they find another sucker like us, or they find a Narc even further down the spectrum than they are. That was the relationship my Ex had prior to me, and what's fucked up is I was so jealous of the power he had over her.

I was so resentful of how much she disrespected me (or really how much I let her disrespect me, but I digress). I wanted to be the guy who had whatever it was that made her submissive, sexually aroused, in awe, etc. Maybe you've felt something similar about who your Ex is seeing now. I'm still working every day on getting through those emotions, but I'm coming to terms with it, and starting to accept myself for who I am and looking forward to who I can become.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-29T23:55:42+00:00

Fuck man I can't imagine my ex being under someone else's power. I just can't.

failingtheturingtest · 2017-06-30T01:58:00+00:00

This is PTSD. At no point has anyone said "The best way to get over your PTSD from war is to go back to war."

Do not contact her. You hate that she's in your mind, don't bring her back into your life.
Improve. Focus on YOU. Game other sheilas.

BH40 · 2017-06-30T11:44:11+00:00

It's not that she planned it, it's how she is in reality. After being in a relationship for a long time, you learn someone's true colors. You now KNOW her true colors. Her looks may be near perfect, but the heart is black.

PranksterLad · 2017-06-30T11:32:56+00:00

Will she always unmask herself to her men? How long does it take? Doesn't every woman have a mask?

Will all her relationships end this way?

PranksterLad · 2017-06-30T15:37:44+00:00

Will she ever want me back you think?

lanky32 · 2017-09-25T12:26:02+00:00

Fuck your girlfriend man.

Prankster, I remember having advised you about the very same girl 8 months back.

You are still hung up about a female who did not give a fuck about you.

Why man?

Are you a masochist?

Do you not have anything else to do?

Work on yourself. Find a new girl. Fuck her good. Act masculine with her. You will forget the old one very soon.

And the old one was not your girlfriend. She was a female who conveniently used you without caring the slightest about you. Get it?

Many of us have had bad experiences with women. We learn from it and move on.

Read the book '13 things mentally strong people don't do'.

or listen to the audio book on Youtube.

Once you have done that, come back to me and tell me how may of those 13 things you constantly do.

You will understand that you are the only one holding yourself up.

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Title	Dreaming of my ex-girlfriend constantly of a year ago
Author	PranksterLad
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Date	June 29, 2017 11:30 AM UTC (9 years ago)
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