After graduating from university I was hired within a week for a finance job with a child support agency. I applied to a non-specific government job posting and didn't know until the interview that I'd be working with the child support agency.
At first it was fine because I just did clerical work and actually helped return overpayments to clients. However, I got promoted and now I have to add support arrears to cases - both regular support and special expenses. I am regularly forced to add support arrears that I believe to me unlawful or morally wrong by my superiors. I have raised the issue multiple times that I do not feel comfortable adding these arrears as many of them are frivolous or outside of the scope of legislation. The response of my managers is that we need to add as much as possible, bend the rules for the people who receive support (mainly mothers) and if the support payers (mainly fathers) have problems with this they can go back to court. My fellow employees have zero sympathy for the fathers and the struggles they go through or the fact that court is expensive and many of these fathers absolutely cannot afford the support let alone thousands in frivolous special expenses claims.
The job market in my city is highly competitive and I cant find anything that pays as much as this. But the psychological toll of being forced to do things that make me sick is unbearable. I have thought about blowing the whistle but I figure it would somehow get justified and swept under the rug as these directives come from very high in the agency. I also know that if I did they would know it is me because I have raised that what we are doing is wrong many times before.
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Where can I find out more about how Joe Biden perpetuated this?
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You know none of this is an issue of you simply pay your child support correctly and on time. I pay mine electronically, automatic from my salary. In addition to that I have a bi weekly payment from my account to my daughters mothers account, for support in the amount I feel is necessary. Never had an issue with paying support because I didn't hump a wack job. We just don't get along at all. Pay you fucking support and quit bitching.
For OP fuck you you whiny cunt. I feel so bad for just following orders i feel are wrong but I'm not going to change shit about it.
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Arrears aren't going to happen in my state. We use a calculator that has a specific amount to be paid based on income and time while spent with each parent.
The woman not infirming the man of a court date isn't a real thing that can happen. The court has a legal responsibility to inform an individual to appear before them. They don't say to the woman, "let him know to appear on x day."
Stop whining about a system that doesn't care. The system cares very much that the little fucker you and some cunt created has access to both parents provided neither is a fuckwit and that the child has the proper amount of financial support.
All OP's dumb ass confession tells me is their is an alarming amount of child support paying men who are fucking restarted. You mean to tell me that its reasonable to believe that OP is being forced to add arrears onto peoples account fraudulently and none of those men have thought to fight that in court? Let me guess, they can't afford the time or money to correct it? Woe is them right? OP expects me to believe that any supervisor of a nearly automated system is telling employees to add arrears to account fraudulently? How a court would have to be involved in making the determination, a court decided the amount you would pay in the first place?
Lastly and this is most important, OP's post is filled with give me karma I'm a little bitch. Expects me or anyone to believe he has to do all these morally wrong things at work and doesn't want to... but keeps doing them. Doesn't think to collect it as evidence and take it down from within. Nope, the plan is to exploit it for karma and keep following orders. The whole thing is 100% bullshit made up by a fuckwit for bandwagon circle jerking fuckwits.
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I understand the system is rough, I didn't make any claims it was sunshine and flowers. It's child support, do you understand how hard it is for me to care about either parent when the system is their for one person, the child.
Don't make any bullshit jumps to feminism like you all used to I don't care for that shit at all. You missed the mark, you think I am making an argument about men should have it worse. Not at all, I am making the case that isn't an opinion, a fucking fact is what it is, that the adults either ir I don't give a fuck should have it bad before the child does.
The bullshit myth that the child support system is designed to rob men is fucking old and untrue. Prove it with any forma of facts. The child support system varies extensively state by state so I don't know how you can make that claim. It is based on income and time spent with custody of the child. So it really isn't all that awful. You want to complain about child support? How about the convenience fee in Indiana for paying your child support online? 8% of what you pay for the "convenience" of paying your support.manually. Yeah that's wrong.
OP is making claims that they are able to adjust and add arrears to peoples child support which all reasonable people should be able to determine is a fucking lie.
My tone comes off as fuck you, because for the most part it us. I get it, it's hard to read, jumbled and riddled with mispellings. My point isn't an opinion, it isn't my opinion that the right thing is for either parent to suffer before the child/children. They should at all cost be the last ones to feel the burden.
Someone gave an example of a guy making $3k and paying $2k in support an being left with $300 after tax and support, maybe that guy should STOP CUMMING IN PEOPLE FFS. What are you really trying to argue with this shit? The guy shouldn't have to be responsible to his children? He is the one still making babies. Nobody making $3k monthly is paying $2k monthly for one kid. Not in any fucking state, nice try with that lying bullshit.
Seriously none of you see an issue with feeling bad for the adult? None of you want to go after the real problem aka the custody issue? And nobody wants to provide any real applicable solutions, just "hey this is wrong wtf child support industry blah blah blah." For the love of whatever you idiots pray to STOP shirking your responsibility, unless a bitch raped you or stole your but, YOU are 100% responsible for any child support problems you get yourself into. I have no sympathy for you cry baby shit and nobody should.
Oh woe is me I just couldn't not cum inside Thos chick. But since I did I don't think I should pay support because she is a big doo doo head who tricked me into impregnating her even though I knew this was a possible outcome of banging her. Fucking losers.
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