Remember that even when you are in a relationship it's important to keep your financial autonomy

p0ludnitsa · 2021-08-14T01:17:11+00:00

The 2 things, above all else, that help protect you the most from abuse are financial autonomy and self-respect. One without the other is useless.

Get your money right so you are not depending on a man for it. I don't care if he bought you better shit, more shit, fancier shit than you had on your own. The point is that you were alright before he came along and you'll be alright if you have to leave. You having money means that you will never have to decide between homelessness/starvation or being mistreated.

creamtart_ · 2021-08-14T00:13:04+00:00

I know a few decent men who are solid providers to their families and frequently state “her money is her money, my money is our money”. He still gets himself what he needs and wants, but being a generous provider to his wife is non-negotiable.

bookworm1896 · 2021-08-14T05:07:54+00:00

We have a joint account and both of us an account of our own. Even before knowing FDS, tjis just felt safer to me.

Might be because my uncle proved to be a total jerk during the divorce from hus exwife (in the following aunt, I love her very much and our whole family has more contact to her than to my stupid uncle). They were married and build a house but due to her pregnancy she wasn't able to accompany him to talk to the bank and the attesting notary. And he never enlisted her in the register, so the land and the house were his property, not their shared property. She never checked, because she trusted him. Well, he cheated on her (repeatedly) and threw her and my cousins out of the house by demanding a rent for them to stay, which was higher than her income.

Lonlinessandtitties · 2021-08-14T04:55:56+00:00

My parents have two bank accounts. A joint account where my dad's income goes, and my mom's where hers goes. He always will be after my mom when she uses her account for anything! Just "Why did you use that card! You should just keep it!"

I never knew this was anything but standard. When I found out friends deposited their checks in a joint account, I was confused.

No man needs to see my money.

MofoMadame · 2021-08-14T10:46:32+00:00

Same advice my mother and grandmother have given me. Best advice I've ever taken.

NinjaCynic · 2021-08-14T13:11:28+00:00

Grandma Queen spitting facts!

Sage_Planter · 2021-08-14T15:11:03+00:00

My mom always told me that every woman needs to have the skills and the finances to take the kids and run in a worst case scenario.

anotherdamnloser · 2021-08-14T18:20:53+00:00

My late husbands own mother even told me to have a secret stash.

Title	Remember that even when you are in a relationship it's important to keep your financial autonomy
Author	Humanthefangirl
Upvotes	237
Comments	10
Date	August 13, 2021 6:35 PM UTC (5 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/FemaleDatingStrategy
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