My experience with online dating has highlighted the above to me. That societal myth that attractive men are more likely to be “really fussy/have really high standards” - I don’t know about you ladies but I’ve personally found that the reverse is true. The LVM who were less physically attractive, in unsteady employment and had little dating experience were FAR MORE likely to be demanding, have unrealistic expectations of me, talk over me, and be generally unbearable and unpleasant. They demand perfection and that’s what this post is about.

The HVM understands that nobody is perfect and he will accept you for who you are, flaws and all. In fact, he will love your “imperfections” because in his eyes they make you unique and who YOU are, as the woman he fell in love with. He doesn’t feel the need to change you into the “perfect”woman to “ impress his friends” (??? He’s not 12 years old) or wider society because he is comfortable in his own skin and doesn’t care what people think of him and his life.

On the other hand, an LVM/NVM will try to make you do anything and everything to mirror his “ideal woman” that he has concocted from a mixture of excessive porn watching and social media usage. He confuses fantasy with reality, and will usually have ridiculously high standards about the most shallow, insignificant things you could ever come across, for example:

  • He expects you to be heavily and freshly made up and dressed up at all times, even if you’ve been at work all day, and you definitely can’t spend too long getting ready!
  • He expects you to speak clearly at all times with no disfluencies, even if you’re tired, nervous, hungry, unsure or whatever
  • He expects you to earn as much money or more than him, even if he’s older than you or has been working longer than you
  • He expects you to have defined abs… but also big breasts and a big butt?
  • He expects you to go to his house on the first date, probably because women’s safety isn’t normally heavily emphasised in porn!
  • He expects you to wear high heels, but also drive or even walk to a location that is convenient to him (also the same type of scrote to say a woman getting catcalled “brought it on herself”)
  • He expects you to do all the talking for him, whether on a first date or when you’re already in a relationship, because he’s got too used to being coddled and being allowed to sit back and relax while his girlfriend does all the legwork. This is because he’s either misunderstood what feminism means, or his ex was a pick me.
  • He expects you to be talkative and friendly, but also quiet exactly when he wants you to be
  • He expects you to be simultaneously a SAHM live-in bangmaid who is happy to be his forever girlfriend, and also a career-driven woman who goes after what she wants
  • He won’t want to see you again or will ghost you on the basis of irrelevant crap such as how you open doors, the food you ordered, the way you hold cutlery/drinks, how you speak, your accent, the car you drive, and the list goes on
  • The entire relationship is conducted entirely on his terms, and any attempts to exercise autonomy on your part will be met with proclamations that the two of you are “incompatible”
  • Listen out for him saying things along the lines of “I want a girl on my level” and “I won’t date beneath myself” 🚩🚩🚩 it’s all done to put himself on a pedestal as a so-called “king”
  • He wants to go 50:50 from the very first date because eQuALiTy (even though he asked you out), ESPECIALLY without even communicating this to you upfront and therefore showing no interest in courting or impressing you

Please be aware that all this is not a reflection on you. He is like this because his self esteem is so low that he feels the need to project this “alpha” image of himself as having the perfect girlfriend and the perfect life so he can impress everyone and therefore make himself feel better. Genuine HVMs don’t feel the need to do this - they simply live their lives without trying to prove anything, and love their partners exactly as they are because they understand nobody’s perfect. The NVM/LVM, however, is more bothered about projecting a fake, shallow image of his life than he is about genuinely enjoying his life and actually liking his girlfriend. He can’t even begin to genuinely like you because he doesn’t even truly like himself.

All this is particularly observable in online dating. Have you been on many dates where even though the guy asked you out on the first date, he didn’t ask to see you again? Chances are he’s probably a red-pilled, porn-sick loser who can’t understand why real life women don’t look and act like porn actresses or “influencers”. If you don’t measure up to his utterly ridiculous standards of “perfection” he won’t ask to see you again. This will probably hurt in the short term, but in the long term you’ll come to realise you dodged a bullet, and that he’s probably pulling the same shit with other unfortunate women to assert himself as a “prize”.

Stay woke queens, and let the trash continue to take itself out 🗑 👑