Woman demands "bonus" and recognition for "giving up her career" to raise kids, all while having financial stability, the ability to stay at home, travelling abroad, and running a business without worrying about being in the black; Gets shut down by commenters

Echo_one · 2015-06-03T22:36:54+00:00

Lisa is trying her hardest to defend the blogger lol

J973 · 2015-06-03T23:37:19+00:00

"Splitting the household chores and child-related responsibilities are all part of the day-to-day task we opt into when we get married and have kids."

Um...if she's splitting the household chores and child rearing, then why does she get a bonus? She ran an unprofitable business, for fun, I guess? She sounds more like a dependant than an equal partner.

theaftstarboard · 2015-06-04T02:03:54+00:00

Best comment so far: "Another example of why men shouldn't get married. WHAT IS THE UP SIDE? The woman in this article chose to get married, have a family and now what...feels slighted? Wishes she had that six-figure income? Then don't get married, ever! Do as the men do, work your butt off in stress-filled jobs and die younger than your spouse. And by the way...I think your husband's dreams would've come true without you."

That last bit makes me smile so much.

TheOldestProfession · 2015-06-04T03:13:09+00:00

Holy. Fucking. Shit.

I feel terrible for the guy who married her. I can just hear her nagging about everything.

"Why isn't the car warm, Steve??"

"Steve, what is this spoon doing in this drawer?"

"Steven Joseph Randall, I told you how many times to not put this pillow on the side of the bed!"

Fuck that.

billbuxtable · 2015-06-03T22:50:07+00:00

He should get a bonus for being married to this insufferable person. A "wtf did I get myself into" tax deduction he can file every year.

Since using pseudo-logic seems to be her thing, I'd say this is as valid a point as her's...

EDIT: Typos

djgrimx · 2015-06-04T00:25:10+00:00

I hate seeing how she feels her sacrifice is more about not getting paid at a job than caring for her children.

GirthBoy · 2015-06-03T23:39:00+00:00

What a dumb bitch. Bet she tries to collect tips after boring sex

ThePrevailer · 2015-06-04T01:28:32+00:00

I gave up A, B, and C and in return got X, Y, and Z. Oh, and I also deserve extra.

All those perks you mentioned as coming from being home are your bonus, sweetheart. My wife had to work and didn't get to run bad businesses just for funsies. She had to work her butt off so we could break even, which meant not being there for the kids as much as she wanted when they were little.

Apocraphon · 2015-06-04T05:08:41+00:00

She's not hot enough to be this fucking retarded. No offence to retards.

Nexyna · 2015-06-04T00:07:30+00:00

It's always the actual privileged of society that complain about how hard they have it. Bitch you made your bed now you have to lie in it

sun827 · 2015-06-04T00:15:10+00:00

Can we get in touch with her husband to get him to write her a check so we never have to read her tripe again? Or how about now that the kids are raised you go back out there and get some work, start pitching in again?

Badmouth55 · 2015-06-04T02:41:12+00:00

She CHOSE to give up the job to be basically a spoiled teenage girl(probably again). No one forced her to do jack shit, she made a conscious decision and now regrets it.

riotguards · 2015-06-03T22:35:19+00:00

thank you feminism, you've truly helped us in bettering the world

bryanrobh · 2015-06-04T04:53:39+00:00

That whole thing read like " whaaaaaaaaa me me me I gave up and I missed this and I missed that because of him " don't get married. She is acting like she did him the favor of having HIS kids and taking care of HIS house. I can't stand women like this.

2015-06-04T05:17:55+00:00

"I made my husbands dreams possible"

Well that's a great way to let everyone know right off the bat you credit everyone else's hard work to yourself

q_-_p · 2015-06-04T05:48:47+00:00

Fucking fat ugly cunt - explain to me how your shit-head husband has "all that he wants" and how you should get a reward for making your own life choices?

half a million

so you're saying you're either a moron who didn't know this, or someone who did it willingly only to bitch about it?

Stupid fucking moron

I made my husband's dreams possible. His ability to "have it all" is built on the back of my sacrifice.

rule one: never get married, especially not to a fucking stupid mare like this

Murtank · 2015-06-04T09:08:53+00:00

Entitled, bitter, and ugly

that husband hit the jackpot

Edit: and true to character shes fighting with people who dont think shes an irreplacable goddess. https://www.facebook.com/NomadMomDiary

2015-06-04T06:16:24+00:00

"I made my husbands dreams come true and that is worth some money." No. It's not.

Lhtfoot · 2015-06-04T11:42:41+00:00

This is disgusting... How about, your husband should have just ditched your ungrateful-ass and you could have your money and career and be alone? This woman has lived abroad, has time to run a business, and still SPLITS child responsibilities with the father. Does she realize by her own admission, the father is doing equal child-rearing yet also working full-time while she gets to play around all day? This is the most ill-founded attempt at victim-status I've ever seen... I see in the comments below that someone found her Facebook and she appears to be single now. Big surprise there!

If any of you gung-ho, career-type women would like to work 60 hrs a week and make a half-million in bonuses in four-years, at the expense of actually raising your children, I'm your guy! You can work your ass off, and we will live in your nice suburban home, take vacations abroad, spend your money and maybe start my own side-business. Hec, you don't even have to worry about your figure... I already have the daughter. It's perfect.

(Source: I'm a single-father who would kill for more time with his daughter, and I'd take hanging out with my little-girl any day over working! So don't try to tell me how it's soooo much work. It's fucking cake.)

cookiemanluvsu · 2015-06-04T00:36:15+00:00

What is this garbage. Fuck her twisted perspective.

Lilikoi7 · 2015-06-04T04:18:45+00:00

Bitch, please!

2015-06-04T05:22:34+00:00

I worked with a female manager who was one step below a vice president. She gave up her job to get married and have a kid because her eggs were on the verge of spoiling and she found some dude who made like 3 times what she did who wanted to marry her. This woman saved the company e-mail directory and two years later had a nanny taking care of the kid while she ran a business selling "imported garden sculptures" and sent out an e-mail company wide selling her overpriced lawn ornaments. I swear. Half the people on that list didn't even live in the USA, they were in Sweden and the UK. This bitch wanted 600 bucks for a 2 foot tall stone mushroom. That was a cheap item.

wibblywobblychilango · 2015-06-04T06:44:52+00:00

So she got to travel and live a beautiful life while raising kids based on her husband's income? Grow up, bitch.

Imthebossapplesauce · 2015-06-04T10:06:06+00:00

"I made my husband's dreams come true, and that is worth some money"

What a slap in the face for her poor husband. How self absorbed can you get

p3ngwin · 2015-06-04T14:45:03+00:00

She regrets having a child and agreeing to be a mother so much, she wants cash, and at the same time to be "recognised" as a "martyr".

"I made my husband's dreams possible. His ability to "have it all" is built on the back of my sacrifice."

Really ? YOU made his dreams possible ? You sure you BOTH didn't AGREE on what the benefits and liabilities would be for both of you, you know, like a discussion that ends with agreed terms ?

Where's the part you were oppressed and forced into forsaking your career ?

"We chose to have a family, a decision that ended up impeding my ability to find a job. We chose these things together, but they did not come without a cost... one that was paid mostly by me."

Bullshit, you agreed he would be the financial earner and you would keep house and raise kids, only you didn't have even do that much because you had child carers! All the while enjoying financial independence, holidays, and more.

Of course having a child means at least one of you can't have a full-on career, you think you can do 60-hour work weeks and be a 24hr parent ? That's the deal you made, one of you earns, the other parents. You regret your decision, that's not his problem to solve just because you made a mistake.

"Before anyone passes me a tissue or lights a torch in my honor, I want to point out that I am NOT a martyr."

You're kidding right? you think you deserve applause because you're a parent, and even one with paid child carers ?

"I got to live abroad, which had always been a dream of my own. I took advantage of the luxury of financial stability and very affordable childcare to explore some smaller dreams -- running my own business (without needing to make a profit), getting to know my children, creating my blog and writing for fun. None of these things would have been possible had I stayed on my 60 hour-a-week, fast-tracked career path I'd been on before we settled down."

So let's get this straight, you had: - Holidays abroad - Affordable child care - Chance to run your own business without need to make a profit. - Had more time with your children than if you worked full-time - Had fun with your writing

...and you think you're mother-of-the-year who deserves a special financial award ? Sounds like you had your cake and you still want to have it after.

"But as much as I can play around with imaginary numbers and try and put a price tag on my experience as a sacrificing spouse, the actual losses from four years of virtually no salary cannot be overlooked. "

They're not "losses", that is the agreement you made, the balance of risk/reward you intelligently made and AGREED to.

You don't get to absolve yourself of responsibility for your own choices simply because you made mistakes and don't want to accept the reality of your actions. You're a parent now, not an irresponsible teenager, so grow up.

"Over half a million dollars in earnings -- not potential earnings, but the real, total of four years of paychecks at my pre-baby salary -- this is the true cost to me (and to our family) for putting my husband's career dreams at the top of our list."

You're "family" didn't lose out on anything, it got one parent working and one at home, which was going to happen either way. You're the only one regretting anything.

That was what you signed-up for, and now you regret it. Who's problem is that ? You made a gamble on something you thought was agreeable, and now you want renege on your own terms? Sorry, gambling doesn't work like that.

You made your bed, now lie in it, which from the sounds of it you've already had a good time already so it's difficult to even sympathise with you complaining about "missing out" on anything.

"Four years of bonus checks I would have otherwise received and stocked away in my bank account to spend however I wanted."

Four years your husband could have still had a deeper relationship with his wife, a healthy sex life, nights out and a team player, a partner in love and commerce had you both not agreed to start a family.

But you DID agree to have children, and that's what it takes, the ability to intelligently choose what you believe will lead you both to happiness. If that means one of you stays home, then that's what you both agree is the best options, and you don't regret what you can't have, because you can't have it all. You have to choose, and you obviously chose poorly.

"Now I would never call my husband my boss (not even while under an anesthetic), but I would absolutely agree with her that I earned some chunk of my husband's bonus check."

You agreed to give up your career, so you don't get to take his when you had a comfortable life compared to other parents who are struggling : "I took advantage of the luxury of financial stability and very affordable childcare ". yea, such a sacrifice and a martyr. It's not enough you had a luxurious lifestyle completely free of financial obligation, now you want "pocket-money" like a spoiled child ? Grow up

"Splitting the household chores and child-related responsibilities are all part of the day-to-day task we opt into when we get married and have kids. But big sacrifices like the ones I made -- giving up a career and a fat paycheck of my own -- well, those deserve a little extra recognition."

Unbelievable, you really think what's yours is yours and what's his is also yours. You agree to forsake your own career, but not to forsake any claim to his hard-earned salary? You are a self-centered, narcissistic, gold-digging hypocrite.

"Calling it a bonus and making it clear that it is mine further underscores my right to spend it as I see fit."

Not helping the "gold-digger" stereotype at all. the way you feel entitled to another person's assets when you agreed to forfeit your own is disgusting.

"How much money I got in a bonus and how I spent it is nobody's business but my own. And if you don't think that my sacrifices earned me that money, you can STFU. I made my husband's dreams come true, and that is worth some money."

Amazing, you really can't stand the fact you agreed to forfeit your own career while he enjoys the fruits of his own labour. Meanwhile you can't tolerate the idea you completely failed in your choice to swap your own career for parenthood. So clearly someone else should pay for your mistakes right ?

Imguiltyofthis · 2015-06-04T12:03:33+00:00

This reminds me of a good Bill Burr skit

Griever114 · 2015-06-04T11:42:59+00:00

Holy fuck...such a self entitled selfish twat.

this is the true cost to me* (and to our family) for putting my husband's career dreams at the top of our list. **Four years of bonus checks I would have otherwise received and stocked away in my bank account to spend however I wanted. Now I would never call my husband my boss (not even while under an anesthetic), but I would absolutely agree with her that I earned some chunk of my husband's bonus check.

2015-06-04T12:42:09+00:00

This is one of the most self-entitled posts I've seen. What the fuck; talk about a lack of knowledge. HuffPost needs to screen their contributors or it's going to continue to go down the drain.

theaftstarboard · 2015-06-04T12:47:37+00:00

Can I just suggest that anyone on here just do their best not to fuel her already blooming victim story? She's already on fb accusing anyone who disagrees with her as just being MRA's jealous of her vagina or something. This lady is crazy. Lets keep posting on her page/ report to huffpo etc, but especially if you are a lady and this bugs you, be vocal about it. As I am being so.

wjw75 · 2015-06-04T07:08:45+00:00

In other news, website publishes controversial article in cynical ploy to increase traffic.

djgrimx · 2015-06-04T12:26:44+00:00

I'd like to pull a reply, pulled in completion responding to another user mentioning that the wife bonus was intended to get their kids into the right schools and making the right friends, she made on her website defending the position:

You may very well be right, but even if that was the case….don’t you think that to some degree, the wife’s ability to run in the right social circles and the children’s presence at the right schools had some impact on the husband’s career? I think we can all admit that in some parts of our society (however grotesque they might be), these things do count, and in that case, the extra work that the woman is doing to support the overall career progress of the man should STILL be recognized. I’d argue that we should be indicting that fascia of society as a whole, rather than shaming the women ONLY.>

ghettokhan · 2015-06-04T12:41:00+00:00

Islam has a wife bonus.

Blaphtome · 2015-06-04T12:43:49+00:00

Can't turn a ho into a housewife.

nuclearDEMIZE · 2015-06-04T14:15:37+00:00

Imagine how much that lady would be bitching if her husband stayed home and wanted the bonus. That lady is self righteous over appreciated cunt!

2015-06-04T14:34:36+00:00

If only this happend 100 years ago. Bitch would be slapped silly!

Ron-Swanson-Mustache · 2015-06-04T15:15:38+00:00

Lisa's FB says she likes:

Democrats

Female Fat Loss Over Forty

Mother Jones

MoveOn.org

Lambda Legal

So she's fighting for all this and defending an entitled, rich, white person for some reason. I'm confused.

ZK686 · 2015-06-04T15:50:11+00:00

I hate when women act like they didn't have a choice when they decided to get married and have kids.

I know plenty of women who have great careers who don't want children and don't want to get married because they love being financially independent.

prodical · 2015-06-04T17:01:58+00:00

This is also worthy of /r/rage

Well, until you read those comments

JimSquid711 · 2015-06-04T20:05:25+00:00

I just have to mention that staying in the black means you are profitable. What the title should read is that she wouldn't have to worry about going into the red.

On a completely unrelated note, she is quite the bitch.

ajdo · 2015-06-04T20:20:47+00:00

Thank god my wife is nothing like this bitch.

JDriley · 2015-06-04T03:04:08+00:00

Was getting blown the fuck out part of your plan?

2015-06-04T14:06:09+00:00

So confused at what the fuck this means after reading it 3 times.

kick6 · 2015-06-04T14:25:18+00:00

I like how she never even considers that, were she not at home, she'd have to pay for daycare and other services. I also like how she does get to stay at home..............and he still does his "fair share" of chores. His "fair share" is fucking zero.

thedude213 · 2015-06-04T14:28:51+00:00

Funny I just wrote a satirical piece on this topic yesterday http://peopleoflancaster.com/busy-stay-at-home-mom-sends-1-millionth-farmville-request/

NotoriousBreeIG · 2015-06-04T15:15:25+00:00

I understand wanting nice things... Hell I'd be lying if I said I haven't ever splurged on myself. But since when do material things determine people's worth? I feel like if my needs were met and I could stay home with my child and raise them, of course every once in a while a thoughtful gift from my husband would be appreciated, but my self worth wouldn't deteriorate if I didn't have designer shoes and bags or a lump sum at the end of the year. If my husband told me he appreciated me every day I feel like I'd be a happy camper. Plus, who has time to chase after kids in Louboutins anyways? My chucks are 4 years old and comfy as hell and much more convenient for keeping up with kiddos. I'd much rather have a partnership type marriage than a business arrangement. But that's just my personal preference I suppose.

professorbooty25 · 2015-06-04T15:15:45+00:00

She said she had child care... Why not use that child care and get a job like the rest of the working class? I know parents that would leap at a $500K a year job. That pays way better than all of our jobs combined. Fuck that bitch.

thunderclunt · 2015-06-04T15:19:44+00:00

I would call this article "rage bait"

jckiker · 2015-06-04T15:46:02+00:00

What a disgusting piece of garbage. Ugly both inside and out...

robroy78 · 2015-06-04T16:17:06+00:00

I tried to read with an open mind... Shit kept falling out.

a_shootin_star · 2015-06-04T16:21:28+00:00

That woman is ugly inside and outside.

africanatheist · 2015-06-04T16:46:10+00:00

This made me way too angry and disappointed in humans. What sub can I visit to restore my faith in humanity?

2015-06-04T17:44:45+00:00

I hate huffpost so much. It might as partner with Jezebel.

2015-06-05T14:20:55+00:00

So did she get the bonus? The last few sentences make it seem like she did

2015-06-19T21:50:59+00:00

Being in the Red is bad for a business, but being in the Black is good.

ruxp1n · 2015-06-04T14:11:56+00:00

Swish

jewdai · 2015-06-04T14:08:45+00:00

While I agree that its crazy to ask for a "wife bonus" there is such needless female hate in this post. (Yes, I know what subreddit I'm posting to)

Really, I'm more concerned for the relationship between her and her husband. This article means that there are some underlying issues that they need to work out. (9/10 its probably a communication issue...It always is. )

Provokyo · 2015-06-04T00:51:41+00:00

It took me a second but I get it now. The general point that there needs to be a better way for wages to support moms, and for society to monetarily recognize parenting, stands. It's just that none of what she was saying applies to her, since her company already provides that.

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