I got to see hypergamy first hand, I was depressed from losing both parents and after paying off ex's car and credit card debt with inheritance from my moms death, my ex decided she wanted to ride the cock carousel instead of dealing with a fucking depressed person. Luckily when I went to divorce court I was still in shock from my fathers death(I was in court less than a week after the funeral).

I got to see the hamster wheel too, I traveled for work, and I was traveling six hours south to see my dying father(cancer). Well I decided to meet my ex for dinner to try to talk her out of divorce, because I had too much shit going on, she proceeded to tell me that she filed for divorce before my father got sick, so its not her problem.

post divorce I was a slut, and fell into a relationship right away, and started living with another girl, who just happened to be batshit crazy, I backed away slowly, moved out and swore off women for a while.

I started to focus on friends, having a good time, saving money, learning new stuff(bass guitar).

Well guess what, a guy who is happy, cash in his pocket, and working hard to ignore women and get money, is fucking irresistible to women.

I remember my father telling me that "you will always lose money chasing pussy, but you will never lose pussy chasing money"

I'm not rich, but I take care of myself, I will never let a woman control my finances again(I spent 8yrs of her always spending 120% of whatever the income was, drove me fucking crazy).

But lets get to the good stuff, the amount of post divorce women out there is ridiculous, I literally have my cake and eat it too. I see my friends, and my son whenever I want too. I work as often and as long as I want to(I used to get bitched at for working too much and not spending time with her).

I don't really know If I would consider it spinning plates I'm older (41) and date older women, its a preference. I have female friends that enjoy coming over and having a good time, and as a bonus they leave afterwards(they have kids). I'm literally just a sex toy to them. No drama either, I'm pretty sure i'm not considered the marrying type, but I am fun to play with, so they keep coming back.

I have no plans on remarriage, or moving in with someone again, I mean maybe someday I might meet a magical unicorn, but until i see one in real life, i'm not going to believe in them.

So if you're going through a divorce, don't worry, it gets better