1 year

sicrm · 2022-06-01T21:54:25+00:00

the advice I usually give people when it comes to kids is make the most of the time you do have with them and be the rock they can turn and possibly look up to.

it gets tricky if they start being really disrespectful and not talking to you at all.

looks like things are on the up for you though. if they ask you any direct questions about their mom and you feel they’re old enough, don’t lie.

kids will forgive a lot, but lying can cause permanent damage.

jasonb197719 · 2022-06-01T20:33:37+00:00

I have a feeling my kids are going to do the same thing. She’s been poisoning them against me and restricting my communication with them.

SnooChipmunks8506 · 2022-06-02T00:55:08+00:00

Kids are smarter than we give them credit. They will see that mom’s stories don’t match reality. Pointing out that she is controlling communication so that they can’t learn the truth helps.

I had to do this with my 4 kiddos. Their mother would stand over them on calls and control what they said to me, tell them that everything I said was a lie, and then interrogate them after each visit.

By telling them - they can talk about anything you all do and that you want them to love both parents - goes 1000 miles down the road.

It takes time and it is incredibly painful, but you got this. Keep being the king you are and a good dad.

pegleg_legal · 2022-06-02T01:44:05+00:00

2 weeks ago, the kids completely reversed course as they started to see the cracks in mom’s “perfect” facade. 4 days ago, they returned to my apartment for an overnight stay and it was so good.

What a great feeling! It must have hurt them so much to be compelled to reject you. Kid's love is strong!

Tiger_27 · 2022-06-07T16:05:20+00:00

You see and hear about so many cases where mommy dearest tries to eliminate the children from their father life. Patience is definitely a virtue. They, your children, are already seeing past her BS and opening up more. Bitches be crazy!

Moist_Valuable6729 · 2022-06-03T10:46:05+00:00

I feel like my life is over but I'm holding on. My wife was always the spender qnd I was the saver.. one year into relationship we got pregnant for our daughter ..

She had continued money problems to which we worked on.. she got better.. we did love one another a lot at one point in time.. we got married.. got pregnant for our son and moved houses into a nicer but very unaffordable home based on the lifestyle she wanted... flash forward to today.. we're separated as she told me that a certain "life style" is more important that keeping our family intact.. I was so devastated I began to question if life is worth living if this is what I get for being a loving devoted husband.. my kids are now 5 and 1 years old... amd for some reason.. I know she is toxic and I actually Hate her... my brain keeps idealizing her late at night when I get lonely??

How do I a) truly be alone and happy/content about it?? For some reason I've always felt I need a female to feel complete... B) be okay with the fact I feel our kids lives are ruined?? C) trust someone again.. we trusted one another fully for so long... never have I been more intimate and open with anyone in my life... Im a decent looking dude with a great job but this has seriously broken me... throughout the day I get Fits of almost crippling depression .. then I'll feel perfectly okay and ready foe the legal battle that is to come ahead...

Title	1 year
Author	Thinkingtoomuch101
Upvotes	38
Comments	10
Date	June 1, 2022 8:01 PM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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