Just curious about other’s experiences.

I’m in a fine headspace about this and not feeling much of anything. But of course it has me thinking about all the “things”.

Separation started almost two years ago, divorce final just over a year ago. No cheating, but she moved on really quickly. We have two daughters (she has primary custody), and her new boyfriend (also going through divorce) has two boys. She moved them all in before divorces were final. They’re not married but are really dug in on being the “perfect” blended family.

I now realize how different we were on family size. I always said I was only ok with two kids. She always wanted 6 and is apparently now making it happen. Not my problem and not my responsibility, but I am still involved because my children are starting to express that they DO NOT like being a part of a new, large family. They already resent the baby being born today. They also strongly dislike their new step siblings. And it just crushes me because I want to tell them that I agree with them, that it’s not a situation I would have wanted for them, but can’t really do anything about it. Sigh.