Can sleeping at office once a week (or every 2 weeks) be weaponized against me?

EmbarrassedAge7612 · 2026-07-06T16:35:52+00:00

Find a lawyer and file. Tell them what’s going on and they can give you the best options. Sorry you’re dealing with this nightmare

ThrowAway2022916 · 2026-07-05T23:10:53+00:00

Leaving the house is a MUCH better option than having her push you into any reactive response. She can then call the police and you end up in jail (regardless of any evidence).

After having experienced that, my escape plan is always to a hotel. I have a “go bag” ready in my closet. I’ve had to do this once already.

painfulletdown · 2026-07-05T21:01:25+00:00

The more important thing is to file for divorce asap and demand your lawyer set trial date. I went through this. It's highly likely your spouse will start false abuse allegations and get an ex parte protection order against you. After filing divorce, if she does the sleep disruption again, call the police and then you will have some record of the problem. At that point your claim that you are not safe around your wife is more credible. Even if you don't end up calling the police, it's still better to get out of there and you can just recount why . This tactic is to bait you into acting out of line by hurting you physically and mentally, so that she gains an advantage in divorce. If you aren't there, then she can only get state standard divorce

Edit: it sucks, but the police will likely just tell you to leave the house despite her abusing you. It's not fair and a double standard. - that was my experience. Ex did it to me for a few years. Leaving the house and getting sleep was like winning the lottery - wish I left immediately

Vintage-Card-Man · 2026-07-05T18:50:40+00:00

I was able to get my down payment back that was from premarital funds. It was taken first, then the balance split 50/50. It didn’t account for inflation or anything but it was tens of thousands of dollars.

You have to have the paper trail and in my case the funds were never commingled. They came from my savings to the closing, never having been in a joint account.

Now, that wasn’t planned or anything. I suppose I was lucky, but I was not budging on giving up half that downpayment. It became the final and only matter that was sending to mediation. She agreed a couple days before the mediation appointment and we wrapped everything up.

badskiier · 2026-07-05T16:43:01+00:00

The "abandoning the home" thing is a myth. Half the house (assuming you bought it while married) is yours no matter where you go. You can fully move out and half if it is still yours at asset division.

Even if you haven't talked to a lawyer yet you can do a substantial amount of research on this topic specific to your state (I'm assuming you are US based, but you get the idea). The stuff spouted by stand-up comedians and Instagram influencers is false.

SireSweet · 2026-07-05T16:20:30+00:00

yeah

‘why would he be sleeping when hes got a house.’ “i dont really know what youre doing there/“

Title	Can sleeping at office once a week (or every 2 weeks) be weaponized against me?
Author	PlaystationSwitchAWD
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Date	July 5, 2026 4:03 PM UTC (2 weeks ago)
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