I posted about my stbx having an emotional rant last week and got great feedback.

However, the day after that irrational rant she shifted. She was cooking up a family dinner when I came home from work and encouraged me to eat up which I did because I was hungry. She then went on to compliment me on my physique and how proud she is of me for putting myself first and so forth. Long story short it literally sucks to hear reassurance or encouragement from an ex who has a BF and still doesn’t get the hint that we’re not a couple anymore, especially when boundaries have been established. I’m her first stbx as well, so I’m not sure why she’s acting like this…when I thought she would be content and in her own words “comfortable” with her new BF.

How do you shake these thoughts? Yes, I’m aware I still have feelings for her but I’m still in process of working these emotions out and I fear it’s gonna take longer that I anticipated. We were together for 4 years and I hear the ratio to give yourself time before putting yourself out there is pretty high. So for every year you were with someone you should doubled the amount? Idk statistics are different across the board. The blindside that happened to me is still fresh now that I’m two months into the divorce process and I’m in my mid 20s that never had a heartbreak before so any experiences or thoughts would be greatly appreciated.

BUT..To end it on a good note she finally found her own place and will be moving out next week! Peace and tranquillity here I come. It’s gonna be one hell of a ride…