Does anyone else have trouble connecting to other people emotionally?

JustTheSpecsPlease · 2021-12-31T03:27:02+00:00

Yep. Absolutely. I'm not leaving myself open to this level of shit ever again.

On the upside, my audio room is audiophile grade at last, and all decisions are mine.

justgotnewglasses · 2021-12-31T05:42:00+00:00

I can relate to people on a level that seems open and vulnerable - I can talk honestly about the past without shame, I can tell friends what I've learnt and talk openly about the journey I've been on, and people are very responsive to it.

I know if I actually laid everything bare then people would run away. Most days I think I've found the right balance between the past and the future, by showing my vulnerability without showing my pain.

Other days I feel like a big fat dirty liar, like I'm telling half truths as conversation pieces.

Most people haven't experienced a brutal divorce, a streak of unfortunate events, the feeling of being elevated then discarded by a narcissist. And if they have, they don't want to talk about those low points either, so I understand that. Their experiences are their own and their stories are unique, so it's hard to relate.

I don't know what it would take for me to completely open up to a partner. It would have to be someone special, and I know I'm not going to meet anyone special while I'm doing the last of my healing.

33649 · 2021-12-31T03:00:22+00:00

Some of us do and it's totally normal to feel like that, especially if you have been hurt! This is your defense mechanism! It will take some time to heal, try to find things that you couldn't do when you were together with your ex.

Feel free to PM me if you need someone to talk.

kapriece · 2022-01-01T00:26:04+00:00

Getting divorce can be an eye-opening experience sort of like the waking up from The matrix. We all thought we'd be happy with our wife and kids. The divorce can show you what's really happening out here. Red pill if you will. I can connect with men who have been through it. It changes you. Also many truths about female nature and how the courts/society does not care about men doesn't help. I thought deploying three times made me look at things differently and people didn't understand. Divorce ripped the rest of the blind fold off. You can't talk to men who are still sleep bc they won't accept it. Sometimes you get called names or shouted down for calling out unacceptable behavior. So yes it's hard to connect.

Sensitive_Silver8530 · 2021-12-31T04:18:15+00:00

A year out here too. Still hard to care about anyone except the kids.

NotUsedUsernameYet · 2021-12-31T03:44:24+00:00

How long ago was your divorce finalized?

Massive-Lychee-4518 · 2021-12-31T07:41:26+00:00

I never trusted anyone to begin with :)

RhinoS7 · 2021-12-31T04:56:31+00:00

Go to a bar and find a good bartender.

Krmaguire · 2021-12-31T17:36:00+00:00

My wife does, but that’s because she’s a sociopath!

Ok_Cut_3238 · 2022-01-08T04:20:41+00:00

Ye. I’m stoic and MGTOW.

JonathanApple · 2022-01-12T14:36:39+00:00

Yup. Also can't bear to hear people blab on about all their 'normal' lives.

Title	Does anyone else have trouble connecting to other people emotionally?
Author	BlessedAFx777
Upvotes	32
Comments	22
Date	December 31, 2021 2:27 AM UTC (4 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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