Feeling down, is this normal

Odd_Statistician_254 · 2024-09-13T00:12:19+00:00

Catch yourself tapping into these thoughts that cause you to feel down. What’s happening is thoughts turn into thinking, thinking turns into emotions. Replace those thoughts from the beginning, to avoid thinking about the loss and consequently feeling down. It all starts with you.

dnbndnb · 2024-09-12T23:17:03+00:00

As others said, this takes time. Outside of that, you need some goals. Something you work towards. Short, medium and long term. When you have those you can implement a plan of action to achieve them.

Vollen595 · 2024-09-12T20:04:35+00:00

I cut firewood.

ColdHandGee · 2024-09-12T17:57:35+00:00

Get a games console or PC.

TheoryRemarkable66 · 2024-09-12T15:00:18+00:00

sak144 · 2024-09-12T14:42:45+00:00

Totally normal brother. The trauma one endures from a divorce is equal to the trauma from a death of a loved one according to psychologists.

Give yourself some grace and understand that it's ok to feel off, lonely, nervous, confused given the massive change to your life.

Now is when you get to rediscover you and even reinvent yourself in ways the old you would be amazed by. I would suggest you pick some activity you hear people talking about doing, but always thought "nah, that's just not me". Maybe it's pickleball, maybe ballroom dancing, maybe hiking, or whatever.

Sign up for it and do it. Some things will click and some won't.

What that's going to do is expose you to new people you never would have talked to before, make you a little uncomfortable and vulnerable, which which also cause you to laugh at yourself and reach out to these new acquaintances for guidance. You will end up with friends you never would have imagined and hobbies you never would have imagined and your world will expand. You are on the right track.

DivorceRecoveryMen · 2024-09-12T12:48:52+00:00

It is totally normal. You are still mourning the death of a relationship. It will take time to process all this and move on. But, so totally worth it.

abort_retry_flail · 2024-09-12T12:44:09+00:00

Recovery isn't linear. It's a long series of, sometimes extreme, ups and downs. You hit a down, my friend. All you can do is stay the course, keep active, and power through.

Maybe you need a holiday abroad? Fresh scenery, fresh activities, and maybe some inspiration? A week at the beach, a dip in the salt water, some drinks with umbrellas and new people to talk to has shaken me out of that spot before.

TechnicalAd5152 · 2024-09-12T12:21:12+00:00

I got into basketball recently some friends of mine from work we all go the gym after work and play for a few hours. Good cardio good stress relief and it's fun.

Title	Feeling down, is this normal
Author	HistoricalBend1338
Upvotes	11
Comments	9
Date	September 12, 2024 12:15 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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