Just want to thank the people who recommended the gray rock method to me. Hopefully it can help others. Stbxw was brutal with the drama and fighting. I simply stopped arguing and went no contact with her. No kids together helps. She hardly bothers me anymore. Nine months into the process. She only comes around to snop around. Basically she has moved out. She can’t fight with herself. I know this method works. Give it a try if you are dealing with the same situation.