Help Me Guys

bigblue778 · 2024-10-10T22:38:30+00:00

I'm not going to insult you, but I just want you to realise how insensestive you are being to the men of this group. Alot of the men here have been going though hell, we have been in abusive relationships, had our kids taken away, falsely accused of things we did not do, and yet we still struggle with the choices we have made or had made upon us. When you come in here saying I have/had a perfect life a wife that according to you is great, it's just mind boggling to some of us that you can't figure out what the right thing to do is. I'm only saying this because I want to you realise how selfish you are being with total strangers, try to then use that to think of how selfish you are being to your wife and then if you can grasp that then try to think of the ramifications of your actions with your kids. If this helps I'll give you a few questions to think about 1. Will my kids believe in the concept of marriage after my actions 2. Will my kids continue to love me after they find out what I have down 3. Will my actions have a direct effect on my kids' belief in monogamy. 4. Will my actions have affected my wife to sich a degree that she will become a worse mother? I hope this helps you.

Melodic-Grapefruit-4 · 2024-10-10T22:23:05+00:00

Dude. You’re fucking it all up. 4 kids and a wife who gave you multiple chances to stop? I’d give my left nut to have a chance to fix my family.

You got two options. Quit your shit and focus on your marriage (100%) or leave your wife now and start making it up to your kids. Divorce affects them a shit ton.

snoryder8019 · 2024-10-10T22:11:59+00:00

Troll post, or douchebag.....either way downdoots

Critical-Club-7726 · 2024-10-10T22:10:52+00:00

Love is a choice long term. You most likely don’t even know this woman well enough to even say that. It takes a hard time in a relationship to find out what Love is. You aren’t missing out on anything with that other woman. There’s a reason you married and had kids with your wife. Go read through what men in the sub are going through trying to reconnect with women. Once the other woman decides you aren’t for her or that hard times comes, you’ll find out.

I (largely) messed my marriage up, I’m 11 months post separation and I’m still struggling to figure out I’m a good person that made poor choices and I’m still worth loving.

GarbanzoBenne · 2024-10-10T22:08:04+00:00

Six months? That's not just a honeymoon phase, that's the short end of a dopamine-fueled infatuation period which biologically does not last. Something like only 5% of affairs result in marriage and 75% of those fail in the first 5 years. So you've got a 1.3% chance of this working out.

That's on top of all the reasons that screwing over your wife and kids is a dick move.

dukeofthefoothills1 · 2024-10-10T22:05:17+00:00

You are an asshole and an idiot. Your affair partner will probably leave you shortly after you complete the destruction of your life. All because you don’t know how to think with your upper head and manage yourself like a real man. I feel sorry for your wife.

Purple-Patient3740 · 2024-10-10T22:01:53+00:00

You're piece of shit. God bless that woman for even considering you. Go fix your family. It's men like you that reinforce the worst parts of feminism ruining generations of women.

UnimportantOutcome67 · 2024-10-10T21:58:40+00:00

Fuck off.

BanjoKfan64 · 2024-10-10T21:41:42+00:00

There are a lot of things I want to say, but I am not going too. You will get 0 sympathy, dude said your Wife has been great and you have 4 kids and a dream home...And now you just ruined it all....Like WTF??? I mean your Wife now knows you had an affair, she will never forget that.....Also your Wife should not have to beg you to not Divorce when you have been cheating on her.

You're going to do what you want to do, so all I can say is those 4 kids and your Wife don't deserve this crap. And that is beyond unfair what you have created.

Canadian_builder1081 · 2024-10-10T21:35:58+00:00

Easy. You’re a piece of shit bringing 4 kids into this world and then doing this to them. No reason in the world could justify what you’ve done. And you say your wife is great. Wow. You have some serious issues to work through man.

Oh and 99.9% of relationships started from adultery end in misery. I pity the realization that will hit you explaining this to your kids when they’re older.

Get yourself into counselling, join a mens group to learn how to be a man, and do everything you can to save your marriage. Guys like you make me fucking sick.

soontobesolo · 2024-10-10T21:28:37+00:00

Can you somehow come to an arrangement with your wife, so that everybody can get what they want?

She's retiring in her 30s?

Title	Help Me Guys
Author	ragsamcircleshorts
Upvotes	0
Comments	16
Date	October 10, 2024 9:21 PM UTC (1 year ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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