So I finally talked to my wife about trying to fix our marriage. Unfortunately she said that she wasn't really interested. I'm not surprised, but it wasn't the response I was hoping for. We have 3 amazing kids(9,9,7), and I would hate myself if I didn't at least try. Apparently she doesn't feel the same way.

Things have not been good for a long time. I made some mistakes early in our boys lives and she has never forgiven me. I didn't cheat. I was dishonest about some financial things, and other little white lies that I told in order to save fights, which obviously backfired like it usual does.

What I don't get is how she has no willingness to try and save our family for our kids. She has never had a fulltime job since we've been together Doesn't pay for anything other than groceries and other things for the kids. She has no retirement, and no education to use to get a decent job. I have essentially taken care of her for the last 10 years.

Neither of us are in a financial position to move out on our own currently. I asked her what her thoughts have been about our situation, and she said that she figured that it would be easier to leave after my stepson graduates high school in 3 years. Meaning it is easier to find a 3 bedroom place than a 4. I am not going to wait that long.

I told her that I do not have a problem supporting my wife and children, but I have no interest in supporting my kids and a roommate. I started a budget spreadsheet today to show how we should divide the household expenses. I'm going to give her a 60/40 split because I'm too damn soft. I will use that monthly money to save for a place and a fresh start. Hopefully no more then 12 months.

She has no means to hire an attorney, and I'm not sure she would fight me on much. We don't have any assets and hardly any savings. I will agree to child support and a 50/50 custody agreement.

Sorry I am rambling and this is so long. I'm just very frustrated and hurt honestly. I know everyone on here will tell me to lawyer up, and I am going to talk to an attorney soon. If she does decide to go scorched earth, I will probably get fleeced, but I'll deal with that when it comes. I really just want to save my family, and I feel helpless.