Idk anymore

ColdEstablishment172 · 2024-08-05T20:08:16+00:00

DM me if you want to talk. Mid thirties man here.

bkdad75 · 2024-08-05T20:04:12+00:00

The loss of meaning, direction, and a particular future is very painful. Start visualizing stuff. Imagine what being on the far side of this will look like. Fill in more and more of the blanks. Get excited about it. Then go get it.

The trust thing is tough. I hope it gets better. I'm way older, I'll hopefully be able to build a relationship where we don't draw so very close financially. That's harder when you need one that can support children. As to their breaking your heart... there's no protection. You just have to risk it.

NewDay0110 · 2024-08-05T18:34:28+00:00

I'm feeling the same thing. (39m) With parental obligations on top of the destruction caused by the divorce, life just feels so limiting nowadays. Before, I remember how possibilities felt abundant and I had a lot to look forward to. Now I'm fearful of new relationships and there doesn't feel like anything fun about life anymore. Just endless work and obligation.

frogmicky · 2024-08-05T18:27:26+00:00

You'll be ok I know it doesn't seem like it but you will. I know it been said already but get a hobby or two work on a car or work out get a 3D printer. Definitely get out of the house go to museums or events in your town. Get a therapist if you need someone to talk to so you can get support going through this. It'll take some time but you will make it through this. Remember how you were before this now you can make yourself better.

HereinPA1 · 2024-08-05T17:43:02+00:00

I was a month shy of my 52nd birthday when she dropped the bomb on me. I didn’t get married until I was 32 so I suggest you not waste another minute worrying about women right now . You have your entire life ahead of you. Love yourself first and become who you want to be before inviting a woman to share your life with.

You got your mulligan at a nice young age, I know the pain isn’t any less, but take the time now to get to a place where you don’t need a relationship to complete you. I say this from experience as I was so desperate for a woman those decades ago and I chose the wrong one simply because I had a void in my life and believed a woman would fill it.

If you don’t have people to talk to, get a therapist. Find new things to do, it’s a huge world out there and it’s your oyster.

throwaway66368 · 2024-08-05T17:16:36+00:00

I’m in a somewhat similar situation although I’m a bit older than you. At first, any woman showing me attention was enough to get me excited about a new relationship. Then I found someone I could really open up to and we dated for a brief time but she didn’t want to commit to anything more and was also dating other people. That was like another tough heartbreak after my divorce and I still have strong feelings for her. We’re still close friends but it almost hurts more than anything sometimes. Anybody else after her has just been a distraction. I definitely relate with the trust issues too. It sucks! I’m not sure where to go from here either. Have you tried therapy?

life-is-short- · 2024-08-05T17:05:42+00:00

Time will help. Find a hobby.

Ok-Cucumber-6976 · 2024-08-05T17:01:05+00:00

Remember, son. Women respect only those men who respect themselves. You are 27 years old, which is almost nothing compared to what awaits you in life.

Title	Idk anymore
Author	Pass_West
Upvotes	4
Comments	13
Date	August 5, 2024 4:55 PM UTC (2 years ago)
Subreddit	Posted in /r/Divorce_Men
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